anyone get weirded out by their future last name?

itsmeashleed · June 2010

Wow, can't believe I just read through this entire thread!

I love my last name, but I always just assumed I would take my future husbands last name- it's tradition and for me, it's a symbol of us being married. Plus, he's really excited for me to have his last name. BUT I like my last name and his is funny sounding (I've always thought so) and nobody can spell it or pronounce it. Additionally, I already have a confusing first name, Ashlee-Dawn, spelled different AND hyphenated. I won't spell the name since it's difficult to pronounce, but my new last name will be pronounced me-cum. I definitely can't throw my maiden name in anywhere because my first name is 3 syllables, my middle 2, and my maiden name 3. That would be a mouthful! His mom is remarried, though and all her kids have different dads so the only girl who will have the same last name as me is his half-sister so that part doesn't weird me out.

lturpyn · June 2010

Ever since I was little I just assumed that one day I'd get married and change my last name. My FI is Dutch (we live in the Netherlands) and here it's standard for the woman to keep her maiden name and just hyphenate them both. I'm not doing that, as I don't feel the need to keep my maiden name at all (I like it, but I just like the idea of starting off a new life with a new identity).

My only concern is that FI's mother and I have very similar first names. We already have a problem whenever someone calls one of us that we both look, so when we have the same last name (although hers is hyphenated with her maiden name) it's just going to get worse.

mkecotone · June 2010

I'm definitely ready to get rid of my last name, but I don't particularly like his either. However, I LOVE his middle name, it's the name of a mountain and really rolls off the tongue. I'm wondering if we could just both change our names and become the new Mr. and Mrs. R. Anyone have any experience or opinion on both halves of the couple changing their last name? He would just be switching his middle name and last name and I'd be shedding mine and taking the new one.

botticelliangel6 · June 2010

I don't like the way his last name looks when I write it - my v's never look very good and his name has a v, so I am going to dislike my signature. But it doesn't weird me out :-)

AuntieRachaelRara · June 2010

I am excited because we are getting married, but not super excited to take his last name. He has his mother's maiden name. It is spelled weird and no one says it right. My first name is already a hassle to get people to spell right, and when I take his last name I'll just have to go around spelling my name for everyone. I kinda wish he had his dad's last name. It's the same as Shakespear's Romeo. But oh well I guess. I'll just suck it up. If spelling my name for everyone is the price I have to pay to spend the rest of my life with him, I'm okay with that!

coni57 · June 2010

yes mine will be kinda strange my friends are making fun og it already

csousa1 · June 2010

I love my BF's last name, but I have some struggles as well! First, my last name is 5 letters and his is 11, so that will be a challenge! Also, my initials will be an interesting and not too flattering combination...
Mostly, though, I'm having a hard time because I chose my current last name after much deliberating. My sister and I don't know our biological father, he left (or rather was kicked out by my amazing and wonderful and strong mother) when I was 2 and she was 6 days old. He is not a very good guy. My true dad, however, has been around since the beginning, raised us since we were tiny, and married our mom when we were young. When he adopted us when we were 16 and 14, we had to decide whether to keep the names we had grown up with or take his, or hyphenate. He told us to do whatever we were comfortable with, that he would not be insulted no matter what. By the way, he and my mom never had any children, so we are his only kids. We of course took his name, and only his name. My sister and I are now both living with the men we are going to marry, and talk often about what we plan to do with the last name dilemma. Unfortunately for her, she is not a huge fan of her future in-laws, so she doesn't feel the desire to be part of them with their last name. I happen to LOVE my future in-laws, so that's not an issue. My dad's last name also will be carried on, as his brother has a son, so it's not like it will end with us. I think I will probably end up taking BF's last name, mostly because I want to have the same last name as my kids. But it will be bittersweet.

christyhal · June 2010

I'm looking forward to changing my last name, mostly because I've just always intended to change it when I got married. But also because his is a lot shorter, and I have trouble fitting my current name when I have to sign credit card slips!

It will be a little odd, too, but in a funny way...

I am Scottish. And I look it. (*pasty* white with freckles, and I sunburn if I *look* out the window the wrong way!) FI is from India. But he's from the part that was settled by Portuguese missionaries a couple hundred years ago, so his last name is a very common Hispanic one. *He* confuses people who've never met him in person (only over the phone) when he travels on business...he's had people think he's in the wrong place or not the person they're supposed to be meeting, because he doesn't look like they expect him to based on only knowing his name. Well, I look even *less* like I should have what will be my new last name, so it should be fun to see what kind of reactions I get when I meet people for business after the wedding! I like to keep people on their toes and make them think outside the norm. :-)

UncreativeMe · June 2010

My Fiance and I both have 10 letter last names which share a five letter string, so I can't hyphenate at all. I didn't want to take his name but wanted to have the same one, so we're both shortening our names to the half that is the same. This way, neither of us has to feel like we're entirely giving up our names, but we have a new identity at the same time. I'm also not using the term "Mrs.", so I don't have to worry about that freaking me out! I'm super excited for the new name!

Kimi79 · June 2010

I'm excited to be his wife and be "Mrs. F" but his last name is definitely different and whenever anyone hears what it is they are immediately asking me to repeat it and asking how to spell it etc. When we first started dating and I heard his last name the first thing I thought of was when the DJ announces your entrance to the reception and says "Put your hands together for Mr & Mrs. F!!" and thought of everyone in the place thinking "huh?" LOL. But as our relationship has progressed I've gotten used to it so I'm excited now. I feel a little bad for our future kids though

ks3pink · June 2010

His mother is divorced and remarried so I won't think twice when I hear it. I can't wait!

slr31 · June 2010

I was actually never weirded out. Actually, the funny thing is, I've always loved his last name, even before I knew him. It was a really nice Irish last name that I've always liked the name of. When we met, I got a sarcastic thought of "Oh, it'd be nice if we got married so I got to keep that name." Funny how things work out....

Although, when I think of Mrs. His-last-name, I automatically think of his mother, and that part IS a little weird, lol

ericacain · June 2010

I have the name (albeit spelled differently) of a very, very famous soap opera character. She has been around for over 30 years, and it was a total accident that my parents gave me the same name. My whole life I have gotten comments about my name. I cannot WAIT to change it!! My fiance has a good last name, but the only issue is that my initials will then be E.T. so I'm anticipating lots of "E.T. phone home" jokes. That's still a heck of a lot better than the soap opera character comments. Ugg.

faith12186 · June 2010

I love how FI's name sounds on me. The issue is using my middle name. My first and middle name is Faith Ann. FI's last name starts with a G so the dilemma is my initials would be F.A.G...lol. So i've decided just to use my first initial of my last name as my new middle initial and then his last name. Hopefully that all makes sense...it sounds complicated lol

celebrindil · June 2010

I'm not taking my FH's last name. My last name has been a part of me since I was born, and my FH's name is so blah. My name stays.

kangel7 · June 2010

I think it's going to be weird to take my FI's last name, but only because I'm so used to mine. I love his last name, though, and my first name sounds really great with it, so I'm sure I'll get used to it when the time comes.

SamSam31 · June 2010

For work reasons - and because a lot of people didn't know we got married - I didn't change my last name for nearly a year. I really liked my maiden name, too because the first three letters were the same, so people called me Sam-Sam or Sam^2. A few of my really close friends still call me Sam-Sam because that's what they've been used to for so long.

Then I finally changed my name about nine months later. I was so excited to take my husband's last name, but it was so weird doing it. I had separation anxiety with my old last name and as I changed documents I realized how much I was going to miss it and how much of a pain in the butt it is to change it! I still come across some documents that have my prior name and it's so weird to look at it now! And it also took months before I responded to Mrs. B at work. I even changed jobs right after I changed my name and I sometimes find myself typing in my maiden name as I'm scanning something to myself. It's definitely a (welcome) change!

I also got teased by the wives of some of my co-workers. One teased me and calle me a "wuss" because I changed my name. I think a sometimes career women don't understand why I would change my name. But oh well, my choice, and I love it!

mcornelissen · June 2010

I cant waiiiiit! My new surname will be Diamond! Mrs Diamond! What an awesome surname!

Tammy R · June 2010

This is actually one of the few things I am not excited about. His last name is complicated, and my family has a hard time pronouncing it. It is very VERY German, and 10 letters long while mine is 4 letters. It will be weird. The hardest thing is I am a writer, a poet and novelist. I want to publish a book before I get married and more after, but I want the name of the author to be the same. So now I am trying to figure out a pen name or something. lol.

lgcoop01 · June 2010

I love my Fl!! A person once told me my name should be Peace and now it will be..lol:)

lgcoop01 · June 2010

I love my Fl!! A person once told me my name should be Peace and now it will be..lol:)

JodiPaul · June 2010

I am NOT looking forward to changing my last name AT ALL! This is the name I have come to know and love for 36 years. The thought of not having it anymore makes me depressed and sad to the point of tears sometimes. I have been seriously considering adding my last name as a second middle name or combining my first and middle name together so I can make my maiden name my middle name so I don't have to give it up completely and can still be able to keep a piece of myself that is uniquely me.

I think it is stupid that the woman is expected to take the man's last name. Why is it so unheard of for a man to take the woman's last name. Men say "What's the big deal!" it's just a name but when you suggest they change THEIR name to your last name all of the sudden it's as if you asked them to cut off their you-know-what. If a man is not willing to give up the identity he has had his whole life why then should it be a shock to him that the woman he is marrying has difficulty giving up hers.

stacelac · June 2010

It does because the fiance's sister-in-law has Mrs.-- license plates and I don't want to her her say "I was Mrs.-- first". I think I will change mine legally but either keep mine or hyphenate it.

NicoleC62 · July 2010

I'm more sad than "weirded out." I'm going to take my FH's name because I want us to be a pair or a set (haha), but I will miss my last name. It is very Irish and I have strong Irish heritages on both sides that I was raised learning about. My FH's name is nice, but is very English, so I feel like I'm losing a part of my family and that heritage.

soontobeharalson · July 2010

I'm actually excited. It does feel weird that my name will change as though I will no longer feel as a part of my family. Like I'm not a "madien name" anymore. I call his parents mom and dad, which was really weird for me too. I guess its all just a part of getting married. These aren't really the things I thought about when I thought about getting married. Instead it was the dress, and the flowers, and the details. Then you're planning it all and I realize my own mother will not be able to pronounce my new last name! Well.. the guy buys us a gorgeous ring... and we take his name... maybe thats the bad part of waiting till your 30's to get married. You kinda get use to your name! lol...

Magpi89 · July 2010

I absolutely L-O-V-E love my last name It is a very strong and unique last name and I do not look forward to giving it up at all. My soon to be husband's last name is very average...along the lines of Smith and Jones. I'm just not that excited about it at all.

Besides, he is not close to his father and does not associate with that side of the family much because he says that they are not very good people. The only tie he has to his last name is the fact that he has a teenaged son with the same last name.

For tradition sake I am going to take his last name but I will keep mine in the form of a second middle name. That will offcially give me 32 letters to my name. Yikes!

The pros of taking his name? />>>my students will have an eaisier time pronouncing it and spelling it. However, even though I am getting married 1 month after school starts I am not going to change my last name until I absolutely have to!

Magpi89 · July 2010

On a funny note, just as with Katie above who has the same name as her new sister in law Katy, when my mother got married she had the exact same name as my aunt. My aunt soon also got married but a few years ago when someone called out for my mother using her first and last name together, my aunt turned to answer as well! It has been over 25 years! My mother's response? "You may have had the name first but I have had it longer so let it go already!"

LydiaMK2013 · July 2010

I'm not weirded out at all

I'm actually excited to take his last name. He's ethnically a quarter Pakistani, and I'm as pale as the day is long (Irish), so his last name won't match my face when I meet someone, but our names flow together pretty well - better than my maiden name, I think!

dendrogirl81 · July 2010

I know what you mean M&R7111!! I would really, really like to keep my last name as to me it is who I am and where I come from. His lastname isn't bad or anything it's more a sense of preserving who I am!! But his family as well as a lot of our friends that I've talked to think it's weird. Doesn't matter though, the only thing that does matter is if my fiance is weirded out by it, but I have yet to really discuss it with him!!

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