Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!

peachykeen26 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! :<strong> Because she still wants Daddy and Mommy's money, more than having her vision it would seem. If you don't take any of the above amazing suggestions, I sort of feel like this situation would make a very good couple episodes of Bridezillas</strong>. You could also pay for the venue and decor on your own, and let your parents cover the food/drinks etc. Also, if you really think your mom just wants to impress her "big city" friends, maybe when you sit down to an adult conversation with her, you could point out how having an upscale country wedding would be very unique to her crowd and therefore impressive.
Posted by ems27[/QUOTE]

I sort of feel like this was a little unjustified. If you go through and read all of the posts I think she does imply that she doesn't just want the money like edie said. I think she is just frustrated with the whole situation and doesn't really know what she wants. She has a vision but doesn't know how to accomplish it, right now.
But, like we all have said. If she/you come to a good compromise with your mom then most of your problems will be solved. This is also great practice for when you and FI need to compromise. This will teach you a lot. :)

peachykeen26 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : If she wanted the money more then her vision, I don't think she'd be complaning about it this much.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

So true.

ems27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : I sort of feel like this was a little unjustified. If you go through and read all of the posts I think she does imply that she doesn't just want the money like edie said. I think she is just frustrated with the whole situation and doesn't really know what she wants. She has a vision but doesn't know how to accomplish it, right now. But, like we all have said. If she/you come to a good compromise with your mom then most of your problems will be solved. This is also great practice for when you and FI need to compromise. This will teach you a lot. :)
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

I did read everything- and I guess I just found it a little frustrating as I am at a very similar place in my life (put myself through grad school, etc) and am paying for my own wedding, Visa fees and international lawyers to have that process go smoothly- and so we can have the wedding we want.

HOWEVER, I do agree it would be one hundred percent heartbreaking and frustrating for my mother to react as poorly to my ideas as OP's mother does. And that's really where the Bridezilla's comment came in- there are episodes where the mom behaves almost exactly the same way.

ems27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : If she wanted the money more then her vision, I don't think she'd be complaning about it this much.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Fair dos :-)

kymalibustacey · July 2012

I could care less about their money. I'm trying to do thing a lot cheaper then mom wants. The venue that she picked was $10,000! I thought that was nuts and put my foot down. I did get her to agree to have it a a burbon distilery that has a lodge that is a log cabin. Much more me. If I wanted their money I would have said sure let's go for the $10,000 venue before we add anything.... See money seems not to be an issue for my parents, I just am not into that sort of thing. I tried to get her to let me have it in a barn or by the creek at my friend's farm she said NO. So we have compromised with the distilery. My issue is that I'm a people pleaser and I have shut my mouth my whole life as not to cause arguments, maybe that's the problem that she just expects me to go aling with it all, but this is my day and for once in my life I want it to be about me not pleasing everyone else so not to cause arguments. I just want simple....

Maggie0829 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I could care less about their money. I'm trying to do thing a lot cheaper then mom wants. The venue that she picked was $10,000! I thought that was nuts and put my foot down. I did get her to agree to have it a a burbon distilery that has a lodge that is a log cabin. Much more me. If I wanted their money I would have said sure let's go for the $10,000 venue before we add anything.... See money seems not to be an issue for my parents, I just am not into that sort of thing. I tried to get her to let me have it in a barn or by the creek at my friend's farm she said NO. So we have compromised with the distilery. My issue is that I'm a people pleaser and I have shut my mouth my whole life as not to cause arguments, maybe that's the problem that she just expects me to go aling with it all, but this is my day and <strong>for once in my life I want it to be about me not pleasing everyone else so not to cause arguments. I just want simple....
</strong>Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

Then tell your Mom thanks, but no thanks and pay for the wedding yourself. This seems to be the only way that you and your FI will get the wedding you want because it doesn't even seem like compromising with your Mom is even making you happy.

ems27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I could care less about their money. I'm trying to do thing a lot cheaper then mom wants. The venue that she picked was $10,000! I thought that was nuts and put my foot down. I did get her to agree to have it a a burbon distilery that has a lodge that is a log cabin. Much more me. If I wanted their money I would have said sure let's go for the $10,000 venue before we add anything.... See money seems not to be an issue for my parents, I just am not into that sort of thing. I tried to get her to let me have it in a barn or by the creek at my friend's farm she said NO. So we have compromised with the distilery. My issue is that I'm a people pleaser and I have shut my mouth my whole life as not to cause arguments, maybe that's the problem that she just expects me to go aling with it all, but this is my day and for once in my life I want it to be about me not pleasing everyone else so not to cause arguments. I just want simple....
Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

The distillery sounds awesome and unique! Have you set up a Pinterest account? Maybe if you can set up a wedding board there and pin some of the simple and elegant "barn" style decorations that appeal to you, your mother can see that you can do simple and elegant without doing black tie.

GoodLuckBear14 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I could care less about their money. I'm trying to do thing a lot cheaper then mom wants. The venue that she picked was $10,000! I thought that was nuts and put my foot down. I did get her to agree to have it a a burbon distilery that has a lodge that is a log cabin. Much more me. If I wanted their money I would have said sure let's go for the $10,000 venue before we add anything.... See money seems not to be an issue for my parents, I just am not into that sort of thing. I tried to get her to let me have it in a barn or by the creek at my friend's farm she said NO. So we have compromised with the distilery. My issue is that I'm a people pleaser and I have shut my mouth my whole life as not to cause arguments, maybe that's the problem that she just expects me to go aling with it all, but <strong>this is my day and for once in my life I want it to be about me not pleasing everyone els</strong>e so not to cause arguments. I just want simple....
Posted by kymalibustacey[/QUOTE]

Okay, I understand your frustration here, however, this bolded statement is going to get you into a lot of trouble with planning. You said you were able to compromise on having the cabin at the bourbon distillery as your venue. That is probably your biggest hurdle since everything else about a wedding is planned around the venue because the venue sets the tone.

For example, you can have chicken and ribs with bourbon barbeque sauce for your food. Shot glasses for favors would actually make sense at your wedding. I would nix the idea of cowboy boots though for other reasons (mainly because it is very trendy right now and will probably look liek the flower crowns BMs wore in the 70s and 80s, not to mention it is a big financial burden that you will be paying because this would be one piece of footwear that the Bride is required to pay). You can use flowers like daisies all over the place mixed in with some white roses. Hire a bluegrass band to play aires at the ceremony. You can have rustic lanterns with flowers as centerpieces.

cwaggoner07 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]. I would nix the idea of cowboy boots though for other reasons (mainly because it is very trendy right now and will probably look liek the flower crowns BMs wore in the 70s and 80s, not to mention it is a big financial burden that you will be paying because this would be one piece of footwear that the Bride is required to pay).
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

So much this. When I first saw cowboy boots 5 or 6 years ago I SQUEALED with joy. Now I am so glad I avoided this, as it's SO trendy and will be so dated.
x100 when the bride is wearing the boots.
Also I'm from a very small town so literally EVERYONE does this that gets married there.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

Your mom is not a momzilla. She is trying to save you from some regrettable decisions that will be forever documented in your wedding pictures.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Just because what the OP wants does not appeal to you, doesn't mean that it is going to turn out to be hideous. Way to be helpful.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

80's weddings
weird-ish hats with veils
flower crowns
silk flowers
rockytop
the cup dance

sure wish someone would have given my friends and I a heads up 30 years ago

THAT would have been helpful!

cwaggoner07 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : 80's weddings weird-ish hats with veils flower crowns silk flowers rockytop the cup dance sure wish someone would have given my friends and I a heads up 30 years ago THAT would have been helpful!
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]

Not being sarcastic, genuinely wondering, what all do you think will be considered 'trendy' from our generations of weddings?

peachykeen26 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Not being sarcastic, genuinely wondering, what all do you think will be considered 'trendy' from our generations of weddings?
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

Cowboy boots, fit-n-flare gowns, peonies, gray, rustic weddings

Maggie0829 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Your mom is not a momzilla. She is trying to save you from some regrettable decisions that will be forever documented in your wedding pictures.
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]

Honestly, everything done in today's wedding 30 years down the road will probably look hideous to the future generations, but that does not mean that the bride will think it is hideous. She should have the wedding that she wants even if what she wants isn't agreeable to your tastes.

My Mom got married in the 70's and do I laugh at the brown tuxes and ruffled shirts with bell-bottomed pants? Yes. Do I laugh at her cake that had an "eternal flame" on top? Yes. Do I laugh at the brownish/yellow/peach floral print BM dresses? Yes. Does she laugh at all of that too? Yes. But does she still think that her wedding was awesome and wouldn't change a thing? Yes.

I am sure when I am in my 50's or later I will look back at my wedding pictures with fond memories and possibly laugh at some of my decisions but at least I will look back and know that what I picked was completely 100% me and my H.

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : 80's weddings weird-ish hats with veils flower crowns silk flowers rockytop the cup dance sure wish someone would have given my friends and I a heads up 30 years ago THAT would have been helpful!
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]

But if you got married in the 80s, your wedding would be an 80s wedding with everything that was popular back then. I guess I don't understand how you could have avoided that if that's the decade you were married in.

Also, trends come and go. Looking back on a 1983 wedding in 2012 will always seem dated because it was over 30 years ago. Looking back on a 2012 wedding in 2040 will seem dated because it is.

I don't think making choices consistent with the times is something that needs to be regretted. Sure, my mom doesn't wear huge glasses or a huge perm anymore, but she was loving it in the 80s and looks back and smiles because it was a snapshot of who she was back then and what the times were like.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Not being sarcastic, genuinely wondering, what all do you think will be considered 'trendy' from our generations of weddings?
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

Honestly, I think your generation is getting it right. I see more simple elegance, timeless beauty.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

Class of 1978 High School
Why did we think perms were a great idea??
And yes....my brother got one too!

Maggie0829 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Not being sarcastic, genuinely wondering, what all do you think will be considered 'trendy' from our generations of weddings?
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

My one shoulder wedding dress. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

The rosette design on the bottom of wedding dresses.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : But if you got married in the 80s, your wedding would be an 80s wedding with everything that was popular back then. I guess I don't understand how you could have avoided that if that's the decade you were married in. Also, trends come and go. Looking back on a 1983 wedding in 2012 will always seem dated because it was over 30 years ago. Looking back on a 2012 wedding in 2040 will seem dated because it is. I don't think making choices consistent with the times is something that needs to be regretted. Sure, my mom doesn't wear huge glasses or a huge perm anymore, but she was loving it in the 80s and looks back and smiles because it was a snapshot of who she was back then and what the times were like.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

But if you don't wear cowboy boots on a regular basis, or with other formal wear....WHY do it on your wedding day??

balletdawn · July 2012

I LOVE looking at pictures of my sister's wedding (1986). I had feathered hair and giant, poofy sleeves and her dress was like Princess Di's. Totally dated, yes. But awesome.

I think people here will still wear cowboy boots at weddings in 30 years...it is Wyoming.

GoodLuckBear14 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Not being sarcastic, genuinely wondering, what all do you think will be considered 'trendy' from our generations of weddings?
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

Cowboy boots
Fondant cakes
Anything with camo
No jackets on guys
Honeymoon Registries (God willing)
white strapless bedazzled ball gown wedding dresses (I know I'm offending a lot of people with that one and it is 95% of the sales stock)

Honestly though, the cowboy boots to me are the worst

cwaggoner07 · July 2012

I think strapless dresses were super trendy and are just starting to fade. BUT I will say, there are a zillion ways to do strapless, so I don't think it will be too dated.

And I also agree, doing what you want in the moment is more important, and I laugh with my mom and aunts over their wedding pictures with joy, not disgust.
It's just interesting to try and predict what we will be laughing about.

balletdawn · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : But if you don't wear cowboy boots on a regular basis, or with other formal wear....WHY do it on your wedding day??
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]
I do. That's considered dressing up in my town, ha!

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : But if you don't wear cowboy boots on a regular basis, or with other formal wear....WHY do it on your wedding day??
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]

A lot of people who wear them on their wedding day do so because it's a huge part of their everyday attire.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Do you have a reason to believe OP and her BMs don't wear cowboy boots on a regular basis? Or are you just assuming that?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Yeah her OP suggested that, fairly safe to assume.

peachykeen26 · July 2012

FI wore his cowboy boots. Those are his fancy shoes.

I was going to get mine, but I had already packed them to ge tready to move.

littleluckypenny · July 2012

Either:

1) suck it up
2) decline their money and you and FI pay for it

No one says you *have* to accept their offer to pay. If ideas are totally different than what you want, pay for it yourself. Sorry, but money comes with strings.

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : Raggedy sweat pants are a huge part of my everyday attire. Which is precisely why I wouldn't wear them for my wedding. That's everyday, and weddings should be once in a lifetime.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

I know but my point to I Am The Momma (I think that's her sn?) is that there are plenty of people who do wear them everyday and think it would be cute to wear them for the wedding. She basically said people are only wearing them because it's a trend. If I (someone who NEVER wears cowboy boots) was to wear them for my wedding just because I've seen it done, then yeah, i would say I'm doing it just because it's a trend and very likely might regret doing it in later years.

If I wear cowboy boots everyday and it's a huge part of my culture/circle/whatever to wear them, I see that differently. Same thing goes for people who are athletes and think it'd be neat to wear sneakers under their dress. Are either of these my style? No. But I think in both cases it makes sense for these people to wear them and they're not just doing it just because it's what people are doing. Is it "formal" to wear a nose ring or eyebrow ring? Not really and many jobs require people to remove those, but if it's part of a bride's normal "look" or attire, I see no reason why she couldn't wear it on her wedding day.

Weddings are a special once-in-a-lifetime type occasion, but I think there's something to be said for still looking/dressing like yourself to some extent. And FWIW, I have a friend who pretty much lives in sweats. She bought a fancy wedding gown for her ceremony and pics, and halfway through the reception changed into a pink sweat outfit.

OBX2011 · July 2012

I have nothing more to add. I just wanted the post count to hit 100.

Bored, party of 1 please

Lizzieyounce · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_help-i-have-a-momzilla?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:028264e8-a760-4406-8e3c-fcea1d23d8b3Post:e3ad24e3-dfdc-4fd4-bad9-ee0e3aeee607">Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help!!! I have a momzilla!!!!! : But if you got married in the 80s, your wedding would be an 80s wedding with everything that was popular back then. I guess I don't understand how you could have avoided that if that's the decade you were married in. Also, trends come and go. Looking back on a 1983 wedding in 2012 will always seem dated because it was over 30 years ago. Looking back on a 2012 wedding in 2040 will seem dated because it is. I don't think making choices consistent with the times is something that needs to be regretted. Sure, my mom doesn't wear huge glasses or a huge perm anymore, but <strong>she was loving it in the 80s and looks back and smiles because it was a snapshot of who she was back then and what the times were like.</strong>
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This! I was an early 90's bride the first go round....</div>
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