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Private ceremony with a big after party??

aernst5486aernst5486 member
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So heres the deal . . .
We are having a larger wedding, 300-350 people.  I have found the PERFECT venue for it with the cutest ceremony room.  It is small and very intimate but perfect. 

But, the ceremony room can only hold a max of 150 guests.  Is it tacky to have more of a private ceremony where we just invite very close family and friends?  And then the after party will include everyone. 

If we do have a private ceremony how do we go about inviting some and not others?

Thanks,
Alex!
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Re: Private ceremony with a big after party??

  • cbpledgercbpledger member
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    I would like to comment to those who feel a private ceremony + large reception afterwards is "rude" are only thinking of themselves. For example, I come from a very broken family and do not feel comfortable with more than my immediate family, and my fiance's immediate family, witness us exchanging vows and sharing a private moment. Nor do I feel need to endlessly explain my tears are not only "happy tears" as I am also experiencing feeling of the loss of my father on that day. I would much rather stand in the comfort of those who know, and don't even need to ask, and can just be there for me. When I'm at the party, I want to do just that... be at the party, and share in the fun with everyone else. So, people who are etiquette snobs and only see things as black and white, grow up.
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  • almost-a-bridealmost-a-bride member
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    ^^^ I think we agree with you on this ^^^^ because that would be a small private intimate ceremony. But the OP is talking about 150 guests....that is no longer a private ceremony. I would never invite only have my guest list the "part" of the wedding. That is rude.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_private-ceremony-big-after-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:92fabd21-2eac-4f97-81b3-8d0d047dd42fPost:6c681c4f-8d3a-4277-94e6-78b7887b1b4c">Re: Private ceremony with a big after party??</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am getting married for the second time and only inviting certain people to the wedding. Neither one of us had wedding receptions/dances when we got married the first time, so we decided that we wanted to have one this time. We decided to only invite close family for the wedding ceremony, but invited extended family for the wedding reception. Friends/co-workers are only invited to the dance.<strong> I am sending 3 different types of invitations... 1. Wedding/Reception/Dance 2. Reception/Dance 3. Dance only. it's your wedding, you do as you wish. People will be happy they are included to participate in your day, not wondering if they were excluded from something.</strong> If they are offended, then they aren't true friends!
    Posted by kareokequeen63[/QUOTE]

    Wow....so you'll be telling some of your guests that they're not important enough to see your ceremony, and that they're not important enough to be at the hosted meal, but after all the stuff is done, they can show up?  I guess I'm in the "not a true friend" category, because I'd be offended as hell over that.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • almost-a-bridealmost-a-bride member
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    Trix, I completely agree!! How ridiculous. That has to be a joke.
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