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XP: FIL's paying for tuxes (Couple of questions)

pzaveczpzavecz
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I posted this on E but thought I'd post here as well to also get the opinions of my fave TK ladies. :D
So my FIL's offered to pay for the tuxes.  I assumed that they were just talking about covering just my FI's tux...but I just got an email from FMIL asking how many tuxes we will be needing and she was including the groomsmen too and asked if I want FI's dad and my dad in tuxes too.  I think that is very nice of them to offer to pay but is it rude of me to accept this if my bridesmaids have to pay for their own?  My parents are not contributing anything and FI and I are paying for this whole thing ourselves (with the exception of this tux situation) so we don't have the money to cover the bridesmaids' attire.  I always thought wedding party pays their own way....
Also, in regards to my dad.  I do want him wearing a tux, however, I dunno...it feels weird having my FIL's paying for HIS tux ya know?  I was thinking he would just pay for his own...he is a grown man that can cover his own purchases after all.  WYYD?
And on a related note...regarding invites and who should be listed on there as hosts.  I feel like it's me and my FI hosting since we are paying for 99% of this (except for the tuxes if we accept their offer) and we are planning it all and making all the decisions.  Additionally, the wedding will take place where we currently live (both of our families live in different states than us).  So IMO, me and my FI should be on the invites as hosts.  Now, if IL's are contributing (even just a little bit) do their names have to be included on there?  I mean, it's nice of them to offer but in the grand scheme of our wedding costs, it's really not all that much and IMO isn't really enough to warrant them as being considered as a host.  Also, I do not want to risk making my parents feel bad by having IL's on there and not them, just because they cannot afford to contribute.  I'd rather just have no parents named, just FI and I as hosts.  Is this wrong?
Thanks for the advice!
Married since October 14, 2012 - Best Day Ever! Wedding-2
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Re: XP: FIL's paying for tuxes (Couple of questions)

  • Julia822Julia822
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    edited April 2012

    My FI and I are paying for and planning our own wedding, so we weren't sure what to put on our invitations.  We decided that even though our families weren't paying, it was important to us that they be acknowledged so we went with "together with their families" x and y request the pleasure of your company.  I don't think either way you go will be wrong. 

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  • music11music11 member
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    I've seen "Together with their families..." before.  I think this shows that you guys are definitely hosting, but you are still acknowledging your families' presence in your life.
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