Officiant said what?

KendallR10 · July 2011

So my friend is getting married at the end of next year and is planning long distance. She talked with an officiant yesterday who said " Since your military I usually wait a week to submit the license just in case" *wink, wink* She didn't know how to respond. Is that normal or is this guy a nut?

FYI she's marrying a marine

calindi · July 2011

I would be furious and find another officiant.

Sammy0709 · July 2011

I don't even get what that is supposed to imply.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]I don't even get what that is supposed to imply.
Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]
just in case she doesn't want to live the military life or be married to him

calindi · July 2011

I feel like that would be a better policy in Vegas at a wedding chapel, not for a couple planning a year in advance. Britney Spears would have avoided a whole bunch of trouble if she could have called up the next day and said, "Whops, don't process that paperwork! We didn't mean to get married!"

Sammy0709 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Officiant said what? : just in case she doesn't want to live the military life or be married to him
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

That guy sounds like an idiot for multiple reasons then.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]I feel like that would be a better policy in Vegas at a wedding chapel, not for a couple planning a year in advance. Britney Spears would have avoided a whole bunch of trouble if she could have called up the next day and said, "Whops, don't process that paperwork! We didn't mean to get married!"
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
I know right? I hope she just chooses the guy we're using and pays to fly him to cali

LetsHikeToday · July 2011

I'd get another person to marry me.

calindi · July 2011

I don't think there's ever a reason to pay to fly an officiant somewhere - there are tons in each location. She should go on her local board and ask them for recommendations.

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]I don't think there's ever a reason to pay to fly an officiant somewhere - there are tons in each location. She should go on her local board and ask them for recommendations.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
The officiant for us (or at least me) is a big deal. Its a friend's grandpa. We're thinking about getting married at the beach which is about 2-3 hours from where he lives. but I wouldn't want anyone else to do it. I trust him

SamiJoeB · July 2011

That's stupid.. He wouldn't be my officiant.

divinemsbee · July 2011

*headdesk*

megmac24 · July 2011

If she's in Southern California tell her to call Reverend Michael Cartwright. He's a retired Marine and super awesome!

KendallR10 · July 2011

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[QUOTE]If she's in Southern California tell her to call Reverend Michael Cartwright. He's a retired Marine and super awesome!
Posted by megmac24[/QUOTE]
We live in oregon but she's getting married at disney land

DaKelliAB09 · July 2011

How RUDE!!! I would definitely find a new officiant....

firsttimersluck · July 2011

Wow. That's rude. I would have "politely" gone off on him. That's just awkward... and choosing him now, I would fear he would say similar things at the alter. -_-

CaitlinTerese · July 2011

He was probably just trying to be funny - not that he did a good job of it. As everyone else has said, it was very rude no matter what. He's probably alluding to the fact that it's "commonly known" (sacasm there) that "most" military marriages won't last/are shotgun weddings. Which is totally untrue.

She might just want to explain to him that his response upset her - and why! - and that she wants to have a amiable relationship with him, as he is officiating the wedding! If she's uncomfortable with him officiating, then she has every right to ask someone else, given the disrespectful nature of his comment.

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