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chrisnjoe · November 2010

has anyone used honeyfund.com? Did you like it? I'm confused how it works

[Deleted User] · November 2010

HM registries are not usually looked upon very favorably around these boards. They are seen as rude and tacky.

If you can't afford to take a HM, then don't take one. There are plenty of newlyweds that don't take a HM at all or don't take one right away.

fallbride1109 · November 2010

You'll hear alot about this so I'll just answer the question.

You set up the "registry" with the gifts you want. The guests choose a gift, but are then directed to either bring you a check to the wedding or they can "pay" by Paypal--but only if YOU have a Paypal account. They are just putting the money directly into your account.

http://www.honeyfund.com/MoreInfo

girl2bewed · November 2010

Exactly what stephie said, its cash/check paid to you to do with what you please. Guests of course are contributing towards the activity you list on your website, so this is what the money is supposed to be used for. They can either pay via cash at the wedding, check, or instant payment on paypal with a credit card. There are no fees associated with this site except the 3% paypal fee.

Honeymoon Registries are considered very tacky by some so you are going to get a lot of negative comments, but honestly we did it and loved it. Our guests raved about it as well, they all thought it was a great idea. We also set up a small target registry in case anyone wanted to purchase from that, but not a single person did. We had a fantastic response on honeyfund.

megandjay · November 2010

Again, there are so many posts on this topic, check out the Registering and Gifts board.

sstrom22 · November 2010

Ignore the negative comments from people... There are many friends and family members who would love to buy you an "experience" while you're on your honeymoon! We're using honeyfund as well and we're just putting activites on it - no food/dining and not the flight or lodging.
Have another registry for the "traditional" people who get a kick out of buying lamps and dishes

megandjay · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeyfund-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d34a0468-8e57-40d4-9a50-12d9923d5286Post:236e35ef-a030-4aa7-8d00-305abae3d3c3">Re: honeyfund</a>:
[QUOTE]Ignore the negative comments from people... There are many friends and family members who would love to buy you an "experience" while you're on your honeymoon! We're using honeyfund as well and we're just putting activites on it - no food/dining and not the flight or lodging. Have another registry for the "traditional" people who get a kick out of buying lamps and dishes :)
Posted by sstrom22[/QUOTE]

Yes, it is always good to ignore any advice in which people disagree with you. I am sure that sstrom22 knows your family and friends well, so she would be the best judge of their reaction. *sarcasm*

ToBeMrs2011 · November 2010

Wow, I had no idea that the idea of a honeymoon registry was considered such a taboo subject.

I find it funny that anyone holding a negative opinion about them would be so rude in their comments. Whatever happened to the old saying "If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything at all". Seems like it's more of a personal preference as to whether it is suitable for one's own wedding.

Further, regarding someone's comment about "if you can't afford a HM, don't take one". Would this same rule apply if you cannot afford your entire wedding and parents or other family members help to pay for wedding expenses?

Just a thought.

megandjay · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeyfund-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:d34a0468-8e57-40d4-9a50-12d9923d5286Post:ee95bcf4-f355-4d2b-8b25-78b9f8ade13f">Re: honeyfund</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, I had no idea that the idea of a honeymoon registry was considered such a taboo subject. I find it funny that anyone holding a negative opinion about them would be so rude in their comments. Whatever happened to the old saying "If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything at all". Seems like it's more of a personal preference as to whether it is suitable for one's own wedding. Further, regarding someone's comment about "if you can't afford a HM, don't take one". Would this same rule apply if you cannot afford your entire wedding and parents or other family members help to pay for wedding expenses? Just a thought.
Posted by ToBeMrs2011[/QUOTE]

Yes it would, if you can't afford a wedding, then go to city hall. The marriage is still valid, and really it should be the marriage that matters most. The wedding is just one day, no one should go broke throwing a wedding reception.

kbarker719 · November 2010

I signed up for a honeymoon registry and have gotten positive feedback about it. Both FI and I have lived on our own so long that to register for household goods would be ridiculous. We can afford our honeymoon, but we wanted to register for activities in case someone didn't feel like giving cash was very personal. They don't need to give us anything, but if they choose to then they'll have options.

Some will say that the honeymoon registries are tacky because it looks like you're asking for cash. I disagree in the same way that I don't think traditional registries are tacky because it looks like you're asking for toasters. You're just putting it out there what you'd prefer. We'd prefer an experience over an item, so that's what our registry is for. If someone sponsors an experience for us we'll sign up and do that experience and then send them a picture of us having fun in their thank you card. Once we get home we'll request the funds from the site (we went with Traveler's Joy) to pay our credit card. Again, we have the money to do exactly what we want to do, but if someone wants to sponsor some fun then that's great with us.

The other thing people don't like is that these sites charge a fee. Our site charges the fee to us, so I feel ok about that. People will say that someone who sponsors an activity for $100 should just give you the $100 because otherwise the fee means that you're only getting $93. This argument falls apart when you consider that folks who purchase items off a traditional registry pay tax and you're not getting that money either. So a person goes to buy you a $100 household item and it costs them $110 to buy it (I live in Chicago with high sales tax). With our HM registry their $100 is all they're spending because they don't pay tax or the fee (the fee comes out of our end). I really like the HM registries, but I set it up as an option in case people didn't want to just give money with no sentiment behind it (not that I'd complain about that either, it just comes down to what folks prefer). We don't need the money to do the stuff we want to do, but we did want to have a way for people to feel connected to us if they chose to do so. That's all I'm saying.

megandjay · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeyfund-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d34a0468-8e57-40d4-9a50-12d9923d5286Post:d0fde199-2129-40d4-8299-f4ddd1adbc3d">Re: honeyfund</a>:
[QUOTE]I signed up for a honeymoon registry and have gotten positive feedback about it. Both FI and I have lived on our own so long that to register for household goods would be ridiculous. We can afford our honeymoon, but we wanted to register for activities in case someone didn't feel like giving cash was very personal. They don't need to give us anything, but if they choose to then they'll have options. Some will say that the honeymoon registries are tacky because it looks like you're asking for cash. I disagree in the same way that I don't think traditional registries are tacky because it looks like you're asking for toasters. You're just putting it out there what you'd prefer. We'd prefer an experience over an item, so that's what our registry is for. If someone sponsors an experience for us we'll sign up and do that experience and then send them a picture of us having fun in their thank you card. Once we get home we'll request the funds from the site (we went with Traveler's Joy) to pay our credit card. Again, we have the money to do exactly what we want to do, but if someone wants to sponsor some fun then that's great with us. The other thing people don't like is that these sites charge a fee. Our site charges the fee to us, so I feel ok about that. People will say that someone who sponsors an activity for $100 should just give you the $100 because otherwise the fee means that you're only getting $93. This argument falls apart when you consider that folks who purchase items off a traditional registry pay tax and you're not getting that money either. So a person goes to buy you a $100 household item and it costs them $110 to buy it (I live in Chicago with high sales tax). With our HM registry their $100 is all they're spending because they don't pay tax or the fee (the fee comes out of our end). I really like the HM registries, but I set it up as an option in case people didn't want to just give money with no sentiment behind it (not that I'd complain about that either, it just comes down to what folks prefer). We don't need the money to do the stuff we want to do, but we did want to have a way for people to feel connected to us if they chose to do so. That's all I'm saying.
Posted by kbarker719[/QUOTE]

But what about the deceit? No doubt many of your guests think that they are actually purchasing an activity for you.

kbarker719 · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeyfund-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d34a0468-8e57-40d4-9a50-12d9923d5286Post:278cdbb6-ff36-4a0a-ac79-36b0254358a5">Re: honeyfund</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeyfund : But what about the deceit? No doubt many of your guests think that they are actually purchasing an activity for you.
Posted by megandjay[/QUOTE]

There's no deceit at all. If they sponsor a parasailing adventure I guarantee we'll go parasailing. That's why I'll take a photo of us doing the activity to include in their thank you note.

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