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Time between ceremony and reception
This is my very first post. I know nothing about weddings. Only attended one in my life...my cousin's when I was 10 or so. All I know is what I've seen in movies and read online. My fiance and I are doing this whole thing ourselves. It will be a small simple celebration.
My question is traditionally what is the time frame between the ceremony and the reception? We imagine after the ceremony we will want to take some photographs in our scenic area just the two of us and with family. Can the two events be a couple hours apart? Our venues are in different locations.
If we have an outdoor wedding say at noon (for best sunlight) is it acceptable to start the indoor reception at 5 or is that too long? I'm clueless! We aren't doing a cocktail hour or anything just catering food for a dinner.
My question is traditionally what is the time frame between the ceremony and the reception? We imagine after the ceremony we will want to take some photographs in our scenic area just the two of us and with family. Can the two events be a couple hours apart? Our venues are in different locations.
If we have an outdoor wedding say at noon (for best sunlight) is it acceptable to start the indoor reception at 5 or is that too long? I'm clueless! We aren't doing a cocktail hour or anything just catering food for a dinner.
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Re: Time between ceremony and reception
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Different areas/circles, have different ideas about what is acceptable, I have never been to a wedding with shorter then a 2 hour gap, and have been to weddings with up to a 4 hour gap. We are having a 1.5 hour gap.
Ideally if you are having a gap...I would say 1 hour is pretty standard acceptable, anything longer be prepared to offer either a full cocktail hour or at least things like deli trays and veggies or SOMETHING. IMO anything longer then 2 hours, and as a guest, I am bored as heck, I have even not gone to receptions because I had things to do that day and having a 3 hour gap just takes too much of my time.
So keep it as short as possible and/or offer something to eat/do in the meantime.
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I would suggest to check with your photographer when he/she considers best light and make your decision upon that.
Waiting longer than 30-45 mins is in my view not cool.
We are doing some pictures beforhand without the first look.Both side of the family separate ,our kids etc to keep the waiting at a minimum.
For reference, here's the schedule we used for our wedding and similar to other weddings I've attended:
1pm: Pictures. H and I decided to do a first look, but if you want to be traditional, you can still get other group shots out of the way (ie bride & BMs, bride and family, groom & GM, groom and family, etc) without seeing each other, but it drastically reduces the time you'll need after the ceremony.
3:30: Back in room for guest arrival (so they didn't see us before the ceremony)
4pm: Ceremony
4:30: Cocktail hour for guests/pictures for us (since we did all our group shots before the ceremony, we focused this time on shots of just H and I. If you don't want to see each other before the ceremony, you'll spend the first 30 min or so completing group shots and have less time for just the two of you, but that's a trade-off you have to make. You should never sacrifice your guests' comfort for the sake of more pictures).
5:45: Guest seating for reception (you generally have the reception hall closed during cocktail hour, so you want to give your guests about 15 minutes before you enter to find their seats and get 'settled in')
6pm: Reception start and B&G grand entrance
As PP mentioned before, noon is actually one of the worst times of day for photos. Even when H and I started our pictures at 1pm, we had to do it out of direct sunlight because it's terrible at that time of day. The best light for pictures is about an hour to two before sunset, so what we did was look up the sunset time for our wedding day and scheduled our ceremony to start about an hour and a half prior (30 min for ceremony, hour for pictures).
With all that being said, I was recently at a wedding where the ceremony was at 2 & the reception didn't start until 6. My family & I weren't necessarily OOT'ers, but we lived an hour away & decided to stay in a hotel close by to the reception. So, after the ceremony, we went & checked in to our hotel, relaxed, had a few snacks & drinks, etc. I wasn't looking forward to the gap, but it ended up not being so bad. I know a lot of people are completely against the gap, & I would never make my guests wait that long, but it wasn't the worst thing in the world.
[QUOTE]I agree with PP's, a 5 hour gap is actually considered quite rude. Typically, there's no more than an hour (1.5 max) during which time, beverages and appetizers are served for your guests as they should never have to 'fend for themselves' or be responsible for finding entertainment during YOUR event. For reference, here's the schedule we used for our wedding and similar to other weddings I've attended: 1pm: Pictures. H and I decided to do a first look, but if you want to be traditional, you can still get other group shots out of the way (ie bride & BMs, bride and family, groom & GM, groom and family, etc) without seeing each other, but it drastically reduces the time you'll need after the ceremony. 3:30: Back in room for guest arrival (so they didn't see us before the ceremony) 4pm: Ceremony 4:30: Cocktail hour for guests/pictures for us (since we did all our group shots before the ceremony, we focused this time on shots of just H and I. If you don't want to see each other before the ceremony, you'll spend the first 30 min or so completing group shots and have less time for just the two of you, but that's a trade-off you have to make. You should never sacrifice your guests' comfort for the sake of more pictures). 5:45: Guest seating for reception (you generally have the reception hall closed during cocktail hour, so you want to give your guests about 15 minutes before you enter to find their seats and get 'settled in') 6pm: Reception start and B&G grand entrance As PP mentioned before, noon is actually one of the worst times of day for photos. Even when H and I started our pictures at 1pm, we had to do it out of direct sunlight because it's terrible at that time of day. The best light for pictures is about an hour to two before sunset, so what we did was look up the sunset time for our wedding day and scheduled our ceremony to start about an hour and a half prior (30 min for ceremony, hour for pictures).
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
I like this answer. (and this is actually my timetable...)
I went to a 2pm wedding this summer and the reception didn't allow people in until 5:30. Being out of town guests, we had to drive to a bar and wait out that gap and it was REALLY inconvenient.
[QUOTE]My FI and I have a 3 hour gap. Our ceremony is at 3pm and our cocktail hour (which is at a separate location) begins at 7pm. We chose to have the gap because we're traditional and do not want to take pictures before the ceremony. We also would like to be able to enjoy our cocktail hour with our guests without having to race through pictures. A side note, our wedding is on a Friday so we're assuming many people will not show at the church anyway because they would have to take off of work. <strong>Either way, it's your day and your wedding, so I say do what you choose. If your guests do not come because they are annoyed about a couple hour gap, then you're better off without those guests</strong>. Anyone who truly wants to celebrate with you, will go along with whatever decisions you make!
Posted by CristyT1222[/QUOTE]
This is a poor attitude. Some people travel a great distance to come to your wedding, and it is not very polite to leave them with nowhere to go. It might be YOUR DAY, but your guests need to be taken care of and you DO need to think of them.
[QUOTE]This is my very first post. I know nothing about weddings. Only attended one in my life...my cousin's when I was 10 or so. All I know is what I've seen in movies and read online. My fiance and I are doing this whole thing ourselves. It will be a small simple celebration. My question is traditionally what is the time frame between the ceremony and the reception? We imagine after the ceremony we will want to take some photographs in our scenic area just the two of us and with family. Can the two events be a couple hours apart? Our venues are in different locations. <strong>If we have an outdoor wedding say at noon (for best sunlight)</strong> is it acceptable to start the indoor reception at 5 or is that too long? I'm clueless! We aren't doing a cocktail hour or anything just catering food for a dinner.
Posted by redlavausf[/QUOTE]
<div>I agree that the gap is too long. I also have to add that most photographers avoid taking photos at noon because generally it's the absolute worst time to take photos outside when the sun is directly overhead. </div>
We are having a small wedding with probably no more than 30 guests if even that. Mostly just family coming from out of state. We are also not having a bridal party so it shouldn't take us too long for some photos after the ceremony with family.
The reason I mentioned best sunlight at noon in my first post was because our ceremony location is a grassy area in the mountains and there are tall trees on both sides. We were concerned about shade being cast and ruining our photos during the ceremony. We don't want guests to be blinded by the sun of course but was trying to figure the best daylight for that area. We decided to change our ceremony time to 2:30pm. Thinking it will only last about 30min or so we will do photos afterwards another 30 min and then guests can head back into town. We will snap a few more photos of just the two of us then. And have a chance to breathe before we head to the cocktail hour/reception!
Our reception is 15-20 min away but we aren't having the outdoor cocktail hour begin until 5pm. Our area and the drive back to town are scenic so we've made suggestions for our guests on places they may want to stop and check out briefly if they are interested or they may want to return to their hotels to freshen up etc. Dinner will be at 6pm with dancing and dessert to finish off the night. Our reception is in a historic barn with a bon fire ring out back. Again we want a simple celebration with our family nothing super big fancy or formal. But no I won't be wearing cowboy boots either! Everything we are doing is to represent who we are and we also are hoping our guests will enjoy too. I really think it will all turn out just fine.
Fiance and I are doing all this ourselves. Including setting up the even sites the morning of which is why we can't do photos beforehand. It's not that we are traditional and can't see one another but that we just have to be busy to make all this happen. We can barely afford anything but have been together a very long time and are finally trying to make a wedding happen so we can start a family in the coming years. I'd love to have a coordinator but we can't afford it. We are hand making a lot of our stuff. Family is going to help us morning of but I think everyone will still appreciate our event. I just want a day full of happy memories to share with ones we love!