Eager to purchase wedding dress & no help!

Re: Eager to purchase wedding dress & no help!

• VeggieLove1022

  

  May 2012

  Buy the dress if it's the one you want. She may not be the dress shopping type. And honestly, will it really change your mind if she said she didn't care for it? I would go ahead and buy the dress if you're ready. You can send her pics and see what she says if her opinion matters a lot to you. 

  

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• Grits8812 member

  

  May 2012

  Well if you know you like it then you don't really need them there anyway.  I only took my mom and grandma with me, and my grandma was a last minute thing because I didn't know if she would be up for it that day.

  Do what Dot said, make an appointment with the store, and tell those that you want there the date and time.  If they can make it they will, but if they can't or don't want to then don't get your feelings hurt over it. 

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• LeiselEB member

  

  May 2012

  I had wanted my mom, MOH and my fiance's mom to come dress shopping with me, but ended up buying a dress on an impromptu trip with just my mom there. It honestly didn't feel like I missed out on anything by them not being there, and we just made a day of them coming in another time to see me in the dress. Sometimes fewer opinions are better, and this gives you an excuse to go "visit" your dress another day with your sister

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• Legu member

  

  May 2012

  Maybe I missed the point, but... I thought the issue was that there are two dresses and OP doesn't know which one to go for? OP... Will the store let you take a pic of you in each dress? If so, let MOH see them and pick from there. If not... Clear your mind of all wedding related stuff, then close your eyes. The first dress you see is your best bet. If there's something specific you like about dress number two, see if your seamstress can incorporate it onto dress number one. That way, you can kinda have both. Hope something there helps...

  So, maybe things don't always go as planned... Maybe that's okay. I may be alone for now, but my baby boy is on his way, and I wouldn't change a thing.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  May 2012

  It sucks that you want your MOH there, but she probably really is busy. I went dress shopping with my mom because the day I was going that worked for me over a school break was a weekday when everyone else was working. I understood they couldn't be there. I picked out my dress with my mom and sent my MOH a picture of it to share in the excitement. If you love the dress, buy it. If you are between two and want extra opinions, ask if you can take pics of you in both and text it to her (some stores don't allow pics, so ask). If they don't allow pics, you can probably find the dress online and send her the links if you really want her input.

  
  
  
  
  

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• aragx6 member

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_eager-to-purchase-wedding-dress-no-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2695d722-4d4a-48d4-8a93-ead79cb0524fPost:1d5ca39e-d5fb-4b3f-9739-0ad125dc5a61">Re: Eager to purchase wedding dress & no help!</a>:
  [QUOTE]I set a date and said this is the day I am hoping to buy my dress mom, sister, bms. Id like it if you were there but if you can't make it I understand. I bought my dress that day. Everyone who could make it was there. If you wait around for other people to make your wedding a priority it could be a long wait.
  Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]
  
  This is exactly what I did as well.
  
  edit: I also see, OP, that your wedding is more than a year away. I might consider waiting a while -- if you buy a dress too soon you might find later that you prefer another one. Dress envy would be a bummer!

  

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• kfras member

  

  May 2012

  I agree with PP. You have TONS of time. Although I understand that if you find "the dress" you can't wait to just buy it! Ask her which day in the next week or two works best for her. Tell her you are really torn between two and you would love to get her opinion, but if she can't make it any time soon then you will have to make the decision without her input.
  
  Honestly, I went first with my mom to find the dress and also was torn between two. When I brought my sister (MOH) to see it, she seemed less than thrilled to be there. I think she may have just been in a bad mood that day. But I had hope she would seem a little more excited for me. Towards the end she got a little better, really expressing how much she liked the one over the other. And thankfully she liked the same one mom (and I eventually) did more. But I don't know what I would have done if she liked number 2 better.... at one point she did until I put number 1 back on and then she changed her mind.

  

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