interesting read

laladypoet · February 2010

anyone remember this from a christian child-rearing blog? it was posted about a year ago:
This has been a long afternoon for Mommy and Baby. When I got him up from his nap I said to him (like I do every day), "Say 'Hi Mommy!' " But this afternoon, instead of his usual, "Hi Mommy!" he said nothing. He refused, I mean refused, to say it.

It occurred to me that I haven't shared with you one of my favorite child training tips for babies. Here it is:

You can make a baby do things. For example, if you say, "Pick that up" and they won't do it, you can lead them to the item, take their little hand and make them pick it up.

But there are four things you can NOT make a baby do.

1. Sleep
2. Eat/swallow
3. Poop/pee
4. Speak

In this case, Baby wouldn't say something that I told him to say. It wasn't like he just looked around and did something else. He was obviously disobeying me.

Like I said, I can't make him speak. But I can make him sit; I can make him open a book; I can make him come to me when called. But there is no way to make him speak. So what do I do? I'm glad you asked.

I make him miserable, absolutely miserable. At first I called the other children in and I said, "Say 'Hi Mommy' " and they would repeat, "Hi Mommy". Baby could see their example. He would say hi to them, but not to me. More proof that he is deliberately not obeying me.

Next I got out his favorite snack (he is in my arms this whole time....no opportunity to go anywhere else or be entertained). He reached for it. "Say Hi Mommy". Nothing. I would call in a couple of the little boys. I'd tell them to say it and when they did, I gave them a bit of the snack. Baby would reach for it and I would pull back. "Say 'Hi Mommy' ". It apparently wasn't worth it to him. OK, we'll figure out what is worth it.

I took him back into my room where he begged to see G&G's picture on the computer (this is one of his favorite things to do). "Say 'Hi Mommy' " Nope. Finally I sat him on my lap facing me and when I told him to say it he shook his head, no. So I got my teeny, tiny baby spanker. It's a little back scratcher that barely stings, but it's great for babies.

One little swat and he screamed. "No screaming" I'd say (in a very gentle way....I always spoke gently and calmly) and give him another little swat. When he'd stop I'd tell him again to say "Hi Mommy." Nope. Swat. Cry. Swat. This went on for about 30 minutes. I'd cradle him and rock him and he would be soothed, then I'd tell him again, "Say 'Hi Mommy.' " over and over.

Finally, when I was trying to decide if he would get dinner or not (I was actually thinking I would give him something else besides the pizza that everyone else was having because he is too young to go without a meal), he leaned his head on my shoulder and said, "Hi Mommy." and it was over.

All of the children cheered when I brought him out. He was exhausted, but he got a little snack and a special drink.

Now he's happily eating his dinner and saying "Hi Mommy" all I want.

The victory for me isn't that he will say "Hi Mommy", but that he understands that he has to do what I say. This is a lesson that will carry on into his future and keep him safe and secure. It will help to lead him to that greater relationship with our Lord. Obedience to Christ will come easier to him because of what we have taught him in these formative years.

Of course, I didn't get done what I had planned this afternoon. We had to order pizza because I couldn't make dinner. I had to set everything aside to do this. But I never wished for anything else. It was a great opportunity to spend these precious moments with my sweet boy."

AlexiaANDRobert · February 2010

FWIW, I read the book and HAVE the book 'The Lies Women Believe' and it's not like that AT ALL and it makes me really annoyed that it's referenced in that ridiculous feminist blog.

ETA: feminist blog = Feminism Exposed blog

pinkpinot · February 2010

P2, I hope so too. I thought medical waste was disposed in locked containers, I always see them at my Dr's office.

kikibaby · February 2010

lala- that is awful. That's gotta be emotional abuse, right?

louisvillebride21 · February 2010

I also feel extremely sorry for her. To be that brainwashed into a faith and not have a chance to make your own choices, I can't imagine.

And WTF was that Lala? I really want to punch that woman in the ute.

MeaghanandMichael · February 2010

Make it stop Lala, make it stop.

AmoroAgain · February 2010

LA, there are... NO WORDS to describe that. My jaw dropped. How awful!

vallyhoo · February 2010

Disturbing.

BecW2be · February 2010

lala, I'd like to meet the woman in that blog you just quoted and spend about 45 minutes with her and her "back scratcher". What a fucking sadistic nutjob. She needs her kids taken away. How old is "Baby" in that post?

That's infuriating.

louisvillebride21 · February 2010

And who are all those kids that she keeps calling in to say that? Does she have that many kids running around? If so, I guess she beat it all into them too.

AmoroAgain · February 2010

YOU WILL BE OBEDIENT. Ugh.

wadingmoose · February 2010

Sweet mother of God. I'm all for Bec having 45 minutes with that mother and the back scratcher.

AlexiaANDRobert · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-read?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d4422681-4ea6-482a-aae8-d46eaf87a751Post:a50f720e-61c5-4013-b280-42be15a5773b">Re: interesting read</a>:
[QUOTE]Sweet mother of God. I'm all for Bec having 45 minutes with that mother and the back scratcher.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

laladypoet · February 2010

the baby was like, a year or something? the lady has since had her blog changed to "invitation only."
https://www.blogger.com/blogin.g?blogspotURL=http%3A%2F%2Flivingmybestlife-lisa.blogspot.com%2F

BecW2be · February 2010

Between the three of us (me, her and the back scratcher), only two would emerge. Put your money on me and the one that rhymes with lack matcher.

SwedishChick2011 · February 2010

Now he's happily eating his dinner and saying "Hi Mommy" all I want.

And on the inside he's saying, "Fuuck you, bitch."

cengle · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-read?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d4422681-4ea6-482a-aae8-d46eaf87a751Post:3acb1cf8-dfd8-4042-a192-7af47298c9cb">Re: interesting read</a>:
[QUOTE]Now he's happily eating his dinner and saying "Hi Mommy" all I want. And on the inside he's saying, "Fuuck you, bitch."
Posted by cocoreo3[/QUOTE]

No kidding. Someone's going to grow up with mommy issues.
Hope he doesn't turn out to be the next Dahmer.

laladypoet · February 2010

butt-scratcha??

BecW2be · February 2010

I can imagine Baby at age 15, stabbing his mother with the broken end of a back scratcher, screaming "Hi Mommy!" every time he stabs. One can dream, anyway.

laladypoet · February 2010

creepy. and something I'll throw into my horror movie screen play.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · February 2010

Yes, obedience is always good. Like when your basketball coach wants you to take off your pants.

Stackeye210 · February 2010

Ok there's a fine line between follow through on discipline with a child and psychotic baby maker who really just wants mini me followers to do what they say, when they say it. B*tch is crazy!

laladypoet · February 2010

when this blog first came out on the bump or the nest, I can't remember which, people were calling CPS. I wonder what happened after that.

goheels05 · February 2010

Hi Chloe's mommy.

Stackeye210 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-read?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d4422681-4ea6-482a-aae8-d46eaf87a751Post:3aedba6e-c907-44f4-a9f3-41e1675c703c">Re: interesting read</a>:
[QUOTE]when this blog first came out on the bump or the nest, I can't remember which, people were calling CPS. I wonder what happened after that.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

That's good, because she sounds like a nut job that would enclose her kids beds in cages with locks and alarms or tie them to chairs (you know, for their "safety").

MeaghanandMichael · February 2010

You want a real trip? Google blogs on domestic discipline. A girl I went to grad school with used to keep one about how and her husband practiced this and how Godly it was/is. Sick.

wadingmoose · February 2010

I need to stop reading this now. Before I get all stabby and irrational.

laladypoet · February 2010

me: ruining one person's day at a time.

wadingmoose · February 2010

Far from ruined. I just prefer the ignorance is bliss approach sometimes and since I'm happy today, I'm going for that.

jamiefour · February 2010

ITA-with everything you all said. No need to repeat. And I read the whole blog. I am bored on my snow day!

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