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Gifts for Wedding Participants

Andrea02192010Andrea02192010 member
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I have a couple questions that I was hoping all of you would be able to assist me with, but first a few details.  We have 52 guests attending our wedding.  Ten of those guests are friends that are helping in some way: readers, photography, ushers etc.  We are not having a wedding party.  And we cannot have a rehearsal because we cannot have access to the location until the day and we cannot have a dinner the night before because everyone is traveling in.  So my questions are:

1) When do we give the gifts to the wedding participants? We will not see all of them before the wedding.  We have a cocktail hour, seated dinner and then cake a champagne.  If we give them out during dinner will that look bad?  Will the other guests wonder what is going on and why they are getting gifts?  I really don't want to draw attention to it.  What about duing the cocktail hour?  Just try to pull them to the side?

2) I have asked a friend to give a toast since I do not have a MOH and my parents do not like speaking infront of crowds.  Should I get her a gift as well?

3) We have purchased bottles of wine for each couple as our gifts.  How do we kindly say take one PER couple?


Thanks in advance!
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Re: Gifts for Wedding Participants

  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    Don't give out gifts during the reception.  Give them out before or after, the next day, or the next time you see them, or mail it to them.  Anything other than giving it out in front of people who aren't getting one.

    With the bottles of wine, do you mean for favors?  You can't really tell people what to take.  You could put them on the individual tables and people will see that there is one for every two seats.
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  • Andrea02192010Andrea02192010 member
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    Good suggestions.  Thanks!  We may not see some of the people though for months.  I guess we could mail them.  Yes the wine is favors. 
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  • DavidandAmyClarkDavidandAmyClark
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    Another thing with the bottle of wine is to put the guests names on them, it will make it very clear what is expected to be taken and could be really cute and personal.
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  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
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    Definitely don't give out gifts to the ceremony participants at the reception.  You could give them something that fits in an envelope to mail, like a gift card, or order their gifts online and have them shipped to their homes.

    Have the wine placed at each couple's seats labeled with their names if you're doing assigned seats.  Or put tags with name and table number on them and use them as escort cards if you have assigned tables.
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  • alewpandaalewpanda member
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    If you can't have a rehearsal, but still want to get them together to give them personally, you could hold a thank you brunch or grill-out in your home.  It wouldn't need to be anything big, but it would be fun, relaxing, and you could say thank you personally :)
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  • jbentijbenti member
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    see if you could arrange something to meet up with them b/f the wedding. if not a ty lunch is a good idea. i would def put names on the favors. good luck
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  • californiadreamin07californiadreamin07
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    I don't know if this would be possible for you, but what about doing a hotel drop- i.e. give them to the hotel with names, and then have the hotel put it in their rooms?  You could do this the day before, or maybe even a couple of days before, depending on the hotel.

    Only other thought would be to make sure you put them in bags, so that it's easier.
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  • Andrea02192010Andrea02192010 member
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    Great suggestons ladies!  Tomorrow is the big day!!
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