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Question about 1st dance song

gymchick05gymchick05
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So FI and I picked out a song and we let me mom hear it. The song is come on get higher lyrics by matt nathanson. We decided on it after we were out on our 1 year to our wedding anniversary and we heard it at the bar. His face lit up and told me he wanted to have this as our 1st song. He also said he was playing it on the night we got engaged, which I dont remember that haha. Anyway, my mom said since it starts out saying I miss the sound of your voice, etc its a breakup song. My FI said he thinks it just means you could be away for 5 seconds and I miss you, etc. We love the song, so it doesnt really matter, but I dont want our guest to all be like WTF when they hear the song. What do you guys think?
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  • gymchick05gymchick05
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    edited December 2011
    So FI and I picked out a song and we let me mom hear it. The song is come on get higher lyrics by matt nathanson. We decided on it after we were out on our 1 year to our wedding anniversary and we heard it at the bar. His face lit up and told me he wanted to have this as our 1st song. He also said he was playing it on the night we got engaged, which I dont remember that haha. Anyway, my mom said since it starts out saying I miss the sound of your voice, etc its a breakup song. My FI said he thinks it just means you could be away for 5 seconds and I miss you, etc. We love the song, so it doesnt really matter, but I dont want our guest to all be like WTF when they hear the song. What do you guys think?
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't really pay attention to the lyrics when I'm watching a couple's first dance. Especially because the DJ is usually talking over the first few words to introduce the couple.

    We picked a Metallica song as our first dance. There was some hemming and hawing amongst our parents about it, but we didn't hear a peep out of them on the wedding day, and most people were awww'ing and taking photos of us. We had one whole table of friends cheering REALLY loudly when the DJ announced that it was a Metallica song, lol.
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  • Laurms15Laurms15 member
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    edited December 2011
    Your dance...your song. If its important/special to you two thats all that matters
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  • K&J64K&J64 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd have to agree that it's a break up/make up sex song lol. But who cares if it's the song you want. The only time I really notice the song/lyrics is the father/daughter dance b/c people tend to pick from pretty effin creepy songs for it that are seriously inappropriate (see: Brown Eyed Girl - "Makin' love in the green grass, Uh behind the stadium, With you my brown eyed girl" so not ok to dance with your dad to that song lol)

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  • Danes983Danes983 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with PP. It isnt about meaning for everyone else, its about the meaning for you two. So keep the song.
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  • gymchick05gymchick05
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    edited December 2011
    hahaha that is creepy- a our pre-wedding party my dad and I were kidding around dancing to i'm bring sexy back and we keep teasing my mom that we are going to do that as a father-daughter dance haha 

    But its true w/ songs, so many songs that are listed as wedding songs, like I will always love you, are breakup songs. I personally love the aerosmith song I dont wanna miss a thing, but FI hates it and said unless a rocketship takes off at the wedding we cant use it haha and some other songs, like Amazing are great but just so overdone. He doesnt care about a lot of stuff w/ the wedding, so something that actually makes his face light up means a ton to me and if this is the song that does it, I wanna have it for him :)

    Thanks for all your help!
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_question-1st-dance-song?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:88ac838c-d360-4159-a0f7-a0156443cb0aPost:fd90144d-fdd8-464a-ac5b-bdf2531170c6">Re: Question about 1st dance song</a>:
    [QUOTE]I personally love the aerosmith song I dont wanna miss a thing, but FI hates it and <strong>said unless a rocketship takes off at the wedding we cant use it
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    Haha, that made me laugh :)
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    Agree, I never really pay attention enough to the lyrics of the first dance. It's meaningful to you two- who cares what everyone else thinks. I think it's sweet he rememebered that and then cared enough to want that as your first song.
    *~allie~*

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  • mcgoveermcgoveer
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    edited December 2011
    I love the Aerosmith song too... but my FI says the same thing about the rocketship/Armageddon/world ending thing LOL!!! 
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  • kwilkinson14kwilkinson14
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    edited December 2011

    Use the song that is most meaningful to you both. I know I don't pay attention to the lyrics.

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  • tori0417tori0417 member
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    edited December 2011
    the armageddon song is my wedding song! the words are great. and it makes us smile...some people think that its not a "wedding song", but whatever...we like it.
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  • dmoney79dmoney79 member
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    edited December 2011
    dh wanted to use "nothing compares 2 u" as our wedding song, to which i said no because it was a breakup song...
    however, he wanted to use the hawaiian version from forgetting sarah marshall....
    in retrospect, i think we should have gone with that..its a pretty song, and really, noone pays attention to lyrics...

    and btw, i love that matt nathanson song....i had considered it for a bit myself on account everytime we went to the movies at the plaza, that song would play before all the movies and through the lobby...and we go to the movies a lot, and i have the cd, so when i hear the song i think of dh....never thought of the lyrics, just think it's a pretty song...
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  • PeacefieldPeacefield member
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    edited December 2011
    It's much more about what the song means to you than the words of the lyrics.
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    You pick the song you want.  Don't let anyone tell you what kind of song to have, it is what has meaning and importance to you.  The opening line of our wedding song was
     "I'm here again,1000 away from you, a broken mess, just shattered pieces of who I am"  This line has a lot of meaning to us but a lot of people thought that it was a sad song, but the hook is "Then I see your face, I know I'm finally yours, I find everything I thought I lost before, You call my name, I come to you in Pieces, So you can make me whole"  

    It was important to us and being that we were the ones getting married, we just ignored others.  
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I think most first dance songs are that way -- they don't make sense, or are breakup songs, etc., but the couples picked them because they are pretty or bring back memories or like the band.  I wouldn't worry about it.  

    My husband danced with his mom to The Summer Wind(s?), which is about "sweethearts" who break up, and it talks about kissing and such.  But she really likes Sinatra.  It happens.
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