My fiance and I are discussing the wedding favors. He doesn't think we necessarily need to have them, and I could go either way. What do y'all think? Are favors a must-have or could we do without them?
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Re: Favors: yes or no??
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General consensus is that if you go with favors, do something edible. That way if people leave it behind (as so many do), it's easier to dispose of.
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IMO, it can be a good idea if you have something really good to give ... like really good chocolates, cupcakes, caramel apples, something from your home area or your family that you really can't get anywhere else, etc.
I don't like the favors that are "just for the heck of it," know what I mean? If it's something that I could get in a corner store for 75 cents (like M&Ms or mints or something), IMO it's not worth the money.
I've only ever been to one wedding out of countless that had favors and guests who stayed to the end were forced to take them and they were edibles that were in plain sight the entire time so no one missed them obviously at any of those weddings.
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[QUOTE]I'm with PSquishy on this one. I think that favors are polite (although, ettiquette says that they're not necessary). But then again, I'm one of those people who always brings a hostess gift and sends packages to my neighbors on various holidays. Call me old fashioned, but that's just the way I am. Posted by Da0419[/QUOTE]
I always bring a hostess gift to someone's house, too, and yet I still consider favors to be unnecessary. Because I feel that the newlyweds are taking care of their guests by giving them food and drinks and entertainment. I don't think that they need to give out a little trinket or a small edible gift on top of all that.
I also don't consider bringing a hostess gift to be old-fashioned. I think it's just good manners. Good manners and proper etiquette will never go out of style (I hope! With today's society, sometimes I question that :P).
(I'm not arguing with you or trying to say you're wrong, because you're not ... just adding to the conversation.)
Everyone here says do something edible or nothing at all, but most weddings I go to give an item. We had bud vases from Lenox, and there weren't any left behind.
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I think if you give something that's universally "good" (Which, the only thing I could think of that isn't edible that falls into this category is lottery tickets) then YAY!
But if you're going to give out something like a champagne flute with your name and wedding date on it, then please, save your money and put it towards a better bar or cake ... or pretty much something else that's "nice" for your guests.
FWIW, the last 4 weddings I've been to gave away the engraved champagne flute (Yeah, nobody even had the decency to change it up and have shot glasses or something, lol). FI and I now have a lovely little collection of them in our cabinets collecting dust, and we're just waiting for the day when we've had them long enough to not feel bad about tossing them. And with the exception of one of those couples (Where the bride still swears she's so "original" for thinking of this idea ... she was bride #3 in our collection), everybody else pretty much has admitted now that they were a huge waste of money, since 1/2 the guests wound up leaving them anyway.
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I'm deciding between hot cocoa 'kits' (http://www.cureington.com/16.html) and some very lovely snowflake shaped sugar cookies that are my specialty.. We're having a small winter wedding though, so it's not too much work. In my family, there are always favours at weddings, they are always edible, and they are most definitely always DIY.
[QUOTE]You should only go with favors if you would have fun shopping for them, if you can find something that you know people will enjoy or will add to the fun of the occasion, and, of course, if you have the budget for them!
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I completely agree here! Do a favor if it has meaning to you not because you feel obligated to do so.
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Both my fiance and myself live in Los Angeles; but are getting married in Mil, Wi in the summer of 2010 my home city. Anyway because I am incorporating a "wine" style theme into our beautiful vintage reception wedding we are having favors. There will be two. A "Ring WIne Stopper" at each place settting and a popcorn or candy jar table at the exit of the reception. People will love both. It is "ALWAYS" nice to show your appreciation to your close friends and family and for all they have done for you through the years. I love this idea and very excited to incorporate both nito our beautiful and vintage mansion for our reception.
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