bridesmaid worries

charisg · March 2010

I'm still trying to decide who to ask to be in my wedding party. One of friends I'm considering asking I'm very hesitant to because she can be a drama queen and over the top, she's very outgoing and a lot of fun but I don't want her to take away my spotlight I guess you could say. We don't really talk much at all but when we get to see each other we pick up where we left off and are really close. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I just don't know what to do.

stina93446 · March 2010

Yeah, I didn't know that either Aerin. I want the names of both regs and who got set on fire?

OP, your friend is not going to change. If she's a drama queen now, she'll always be one. A wedding won't change her. I hate it when brides say that other people will take the spotlight away from them though. You're the freakin' bride for christ's sake.

blackfire5th · March 2010

Wasn't brooke the one with the bratty sister for her MOH?

baystateapple · March 2010

Yeah, Aerin. I think this is a story that needs to be told! Please?

emilyinchile · March 2010

Yup, Brooke (where is she?) had the sister who almost set herself on fire during the ceremony...although I believe it was accidental and not an attempt to highjack the wedding

Not sure who the other one is. Meg? Although I don't know if her sister was MOH, that's the only one who springs to mind.

banana468 · March 2010

I'd wait until June at the earliest to ask.

Think about who you picture being there in your "dream". If the person isn't there, then invite her as a guest.

lalap69 · March 2010

You should definitely wait to ask until the summer at the earliest.

Something big happens, who do you call right away? Those people should be your BP.

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

Meg and Brooke are who I was thinking of. Brooke had a Greek Orthodox ceremony, during which the MOH had to hold both a candle and her bouquet. The bouquet caught fire. I do think it was an accident, but they can both tell you plenty of stories about things their sisters did that were entirely intentional.

nackiejichole · March 2010

I would definitely wait until as close as possible to the wedding. Just be sure to give them enough time to plan accordingly (work, money, etc.) When you are planning a wedding ALOT can change over time and you still have quite some time. Some girls may seem excited for you at first then their enthusiasm could fade soon after. Some may be jealous and spiteful during this happy stage in your life and sometimes friendships just change. I've seen it with several weddings.

I made the mistake of asking my close friends at the time right away. HUGE mistake! One of my BM threw a fit because I was unable to attend her birthday dinner because I had a prior engagement with my son. She snapped and said then she wouldn't be in my wedding! She then tried emailing my oher BM's to tell them I was evil, they shouldn't be in my wedding and they needed to take me down. Just like that though our relationship changed and she is no longer in the wedding THANKFULLY. This all happened within the first 2 weeks of my engagement.

Just wait and you will see who genuinely cares and deserves to stand next to you. Best of luck!

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