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cappiellog
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Future Mom-In-Law Wants Hair & Make-Up Done With Us...Help!
First time poster and hoping you lovely ladies can help me out here. 
I sent a note to my bridesmaids asking if anyone would be interested in having their hair and make up done. That night, I saw one of my BMs (who happens to be my fiance's sister/daughter of future mother in law) and she said she'd love to have both hair and make up done.
A few minutes later, my BM asked if future mother in law could also have her hair and make up done with us. I panicked and said yes, but I'm starting to regret it. Any advice on how to either get myself out of this or how I can have her participate without being with us the whole time would be appreciated!
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Re: Future Mom-In-Law Wants Hair & Make-Up Done With Us...Help!
Why don't you want her there? And why would you tell her yes if you don't want her there?
My MIL basically invited herself along to get her hair and makeup done by the same people doing mine and my BMs. I wasn't thrilled because she made the scheduling a bit difficult. She wanted to be done last so that her hair and makeup would stay nice all day. I didn't want to be uber rude but I told her the last appointment slot was for me. Because out of everyone, I should be the one looking the most fresh.
Anywho, she came, got her hair and makeup done (we had it all done at my home) and then she left to make sure her son and the other guys were up and getting ready as well as get dressed herself.
Needless to say, this wasn't a hill worth me dying on so I just let it all go. You already said yes, so just suck it up and deal with it.
Is there a timing concern, a price concern, or a "I wanted to use this time to bond with my BP without moms" concern? Or is there a cap on how many people your stylists can manage?
I think you are stuck now. It is much harder to uninvite someone than to invite someone. You will hurt her feelings on a day that is very important to her. If there's a timing concern, work with your makeup artist/hair stylist to start earlier. If it is a price concern, send her the price list so it's clear you're not covering it. If it is that you wanted it to be BP-only time, just tell her that and give her an arrival time of just before her appointment and an exit time right after her appointment.
man I just typed out this whole thing and then the knot ate it... anyway, synopsis:
It shouldn't be a big deal that your MIL wants to hang out with you that morning (especially since her daughter will be there). You can try the time slot thing but don't let it stress you out if it doesn't work. I gave MIL a time slot (and everyone else) and she still arrived at the very beginning and just hung out the whole time. Frankly I'm glad we got to spend that time together; I believe it was a nice memory for her rather than trying to find a salon in an unfamiliar town and spending the morning by herself. Just relax and let it be.
Unless of course she's crazy or something, that changes the game a bit.
[QUOTE]I don't see the issue either, <strong>Will she be getting ready with you also? If not, then there shouldn't really be any issue.... </strong>You'll get BM time when you're putting dresses on. Maybe even have breakfast with the BM's beforehand too..
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Even still, I don't get the issue. We're having someone come to us and rented out basically an empty hotel room (instead of beds, it's a coffee table with chairs, a bathroom, and a full kitchen. I'm getting breakfast for everyone and we're just doing everything there with all of them. For the girls who aren't getting their hair & make-up done, I'm leaving it up to them as to when they want to join us (right when I get into my dress for photos or before to hang out with us and enjoy breakfast).