Why?

miguelhilary2010 · August 2010

Why are you marrying your FI? Of all the fish in the sea, what made you agree to marry this one specific person?

I don't want generic answers like "he's my soul mate" or "the love of my life". Be specific. I want to marry FI (or DH if already married) because he is some type of way, or makes your feel a certain way. Gush, go ahead and gush

miguelhilary2010 · August 2010

First and foremost DH allows me to be me. I dont have to look a certain way, or act a certain way, or agree with him all the time. He's also very childish and goofy with me, which is good because we laugh every day. When I met DH, I didn't like confrontation and let a lot of people walk all over me. He's made me a stronger person and we are strong together as a couple. Its us against the world and I know I can always count on him (which is big because I have huge trust issues!).

CHarley2B · August 2010

I am marrying my FI because he is the most kind, patient, loving, and giving man I have ever met. He is just a solid guy. We have the same values, he is respectful and he really challenges me. He is a lot of the things I'm not and being with him has made me more into the person I believe I was created to be. He far surpasses any of my dreams. He really transformed what I even thought a relationship was. He's amazing.....
(Love this post!)

sof0830 · August 2010

My man & I have been thru the ups/downs of home ownership, home rehabbing, relationship building, a rough pregnancy, child rearing, potty training, near misses, jobs lost, deaths mourned, passionate nights, 20 hour car rides, quiet talks, arguments had, scenes made, hugs & kisses, I'm sorry's --all the ebbs & flows . And we STILL dig each other.

Bride_to_be_2011 · August 2010

I would say because he also lets me be me. I never have to try to impress him or look a certain way. When I gained weight he never told me to loose weight or anything like that. I never have been with someone that I didn't fight with. We might bicker about little things but we never fight. This is huge for me because it seems I fought with every guy I dated. It will be 6 years soon and he doesn't bore me. That is a plus! Sure we don't have a perfect relationship but these things take work! I love how he trusts me to go out, even with other men (that sounds odd) but they are my friends and I get along a lot better with men than women. I also go to bars without him and he doesn't text and call me all night like some guys would. He doesn't like that scene, and I do. It is just the little things that make me want to marry him too.

caraellen23 · August 2010

Aww, this post gives me the warm fuzzies.

I'm marrying FI becuase I feel 100% myself with him. I've never felt pressure to look or act a certain way. He loves me for me, even when I'm at my worst. He's very kind and considerate, talented and creative and always knows how to make me laugh. We are stupid and goofy together and we love it. He's also the first man to treat me with respect. I never knew how well I could be treated until I started dating him. We're good to each other and we make it a known goal to continue being good to each other, no matter what. He's my home.

Bride_to_be_2011 · August 2010

Cara- That is kinda like my FI, he was one of the 'too nice' boys. Girls used to tell him, you are too nice. And that is why they didn't want to date him. Just because he didn't try to get in their pants... so silly. I am glad I didn't think of him that way. He is just nice enough. LOL

nicole8586 · August 2010

Although we have our disputes I have never intentionally wanted to start an argument with him just to argue like I have with other guys . He knows how to make me laugh and when I just need a hug. We share the same values and have the same sense of humor. I didn't get "bored" with him after 7 months like previous relationships. I have never considered him my "sole mate" but I just knew that there was no one else I rather be with.
Oh and because my mom hand picked him for me

ooodsie · August 2010

I'll make mine simple -

I wanted to marry DH because he makes me feel safe (emotionally, physically, mentally). He makes me feel like he 100% puts me first (and our future kids) and always will. There are so many selfish people in this world, and to know you have someone who has fully given themselves to you and are committed and focused on your life together is pretty special.

Play getaway · August 2010

MiguelHillary- that sounds a lot like me. I'm not a fan of confrontation but working on it and have had some trust issues as well. I know how much that means to have someone there to support that.

Bride- it's funny u say that too, every guy i've ever dated i was always "bored" with or found something that annoyed me about him, from the way he said words, down to his hair that i thought i could never marry him just b/c of that. i realize now it was my own issues that was creating that, fear of heartbreak and mentally not ready for a serious commitment but then, i was certain i would never get married b/c i found something with every guy.

I know this is tacky and overdone but seriously, the day i met him my second day of college, i said "i have to get to know that guy,even if we're friends just for a short time, there is just something about him." i've never done that before and hasn't felt that way since. We became great friends immediately and stayed that way for 3 yrs before dating.
He's been there for me through 9/11 when my dad was supposed to be working the twin towers that day and i couldnt reach him (ended up a few mins late so he just missed it), through both of our families sicknesses and deaths, my cancer scare twice of the yrs, and everything in between.
I've told him EVERYTHING about me & my life, things ive never told anyone before n my parents don't even know about without fear of embarrasment,judgement, or ridicule. (something that *really* surprised me as possible with him b/c in the past, what i've told ppl came back to bite me) He is nothing but understanding, loving, and brings me laughter everyday while being so patient with me and talking through things when i'm stressed or freaking out on something.
He makes me feel calm & happy. Everyone seems surprised when we also say thaty we never fight (just sometimes disagree but we talk about it & its done). For a while i thought maybe it's not normal but after talking to people its okay. We both love trying new things and experiences together too which i love. We just always have fun no matter what we do and he's so thoughtful , always surprising me whether be a favorite dessert of mine he brings home after work or planning out a surprise outing for the day, he's always so thoughtful and sweet. We are both always our goofy together esp. singing & dancing together on long car rides and not worry about what the other may think. Whenever theres an issue he says "don't worry babe, it'll be okay." and he'll say "we'll get through it together." that sums it up as a whole
no one is perfect but he is truly perfect for me. When he comes home, i still instantly smile & i feel that in my heart. Life with him is just easier.

Bride_to_be_2011 · August 2010

Like ooodsie said, he puts me first too. (reading everyone elses makes me think of MORE reasons to marry him) He always does things for me. Me alone. When he bought the bed we used to have, it was because of me, the futon he had SUCKED. When he bought the new bed, it was really because I hated the other bed. He always is thinking of the future and our kids. He is sweet and kind. My heart is beating faster typing this.

Our theme song could be 'every thing I do, I do it for you'

caraellen23 · August 2010

Play - we never fight either. It used to worry me, because I thought fighting was a normal part of a relationship. Now I'm okay with it. We have our disagreements and discussions, but we've never raised our voice to each other and we've never had a real fight. We would suck at it anyway. We'd probably both cry.

Play getaway · August 2010

there you go Bride!
weren't you unsure what song to pick for a first dance?

Bride_to_be_2011 · August 2010

FI and I used to fight but that is bc I am a biitch. LOL He doesn't fight with me back though. I since stopped. I think part of it was because I was depressed and attacking me.

Play- Yea I know but I don't want that song haha. Not that there's anything wrong with it. I will find a song, someday. Even if it is on the wedding day. HA!

Play getaway · August 2010

oh okay, thats fine, just thought if that was meaningful to you, might be a perfect fit.
i'm sure you will find something that you love!

lol i think everyone can be bitchy at some point, just blame it on hormones

Bride_to_be_2011 · August 2010

I think FI might laugh at me if I told him I wanted that song. And yes I definitely blamed it on hormones. (I am much better not, not depressed at all)

Amerbutt81 · August 2010

I married JEGs because he puts up with me.

I'm stubborn and overly independent. He is really good at letting me make my mistakes and rarely says 'I told you so'. I've put him through a lot of crap, and he has stuck by my side through all of it. I resisted our relationship for a long time, but he never faltered. He knew this was a good thing and patiently waited until I realized it too.

He is my rock. And he has a cute butt. That played a big role in it too

miguelhilary2010 · August 2010

amer - and he looks hot with contacts too?

taccoten · August 2010

Amer - I'm right there with you. J puts up with me and put up with me during some crazy times back in college. He loved me when I was overweight and he always believed in us.

He has the biggest heart ever and is just an amazingly caring and thoughtful person. With him, what you see is what you get. He's real and just so unique. We have the BEST time together and we are best friends above everything else. We have fun no matter where we are or what we're doing. He's funny, quirky and charming.

He is also soooo good with kids it's scary. They LOVE him. He's going to be an excellent Dad and that is so important to me.

I'm giddy - I am the lucky one who gets to marry him!!!

Amerbutt81 · August 2010

>>amer - and he looks hot with contacts too?

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Booyah. I snagged a hottie :0)

nicole8586 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_why-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:2521c7a3-37fc-43b7-8184-e49f92f7e401Post:296fdeb0-c69d-496f-b117-28164c6dc985">Re: Why?</a>:
[QUOTE]I married JEGs because he puts up with me. I'm stubborn and overly independent. He is really good at letting me make my mistakes and rarely says 'I told you so'. I've put him through a lot of crap, and he has stuck by my side through all of it. I resisted our relationship for a long time, but he never faltered. He knew this was a good thing and patiently waited until I realized it too. He is my rock. <strong><u> And he has a cute butt.</u></strong> That played a big role in it too ;)
Posted by Amerbutt81[/QUOTE]

this made me giggle!

blacksred · August 2010

I am marrying him because he is everything I always said I never wanted and every single thing I ever needed! He is my best friend and I never thought that I would find someone I wouldn't get tired of. We can spend an entire weekend together and still the time goes by too fast, and the only thing i am normally tired of is laughing so hard that my ribs hurt. Even when he pisses me off its not that bad and we laugh it off because its so much fun even during stressful and bad times being best friends.

FutureMrsTCT · August 2010

Because aside from being a huge pain in the rear some of the time - he is still my best friend. The person I can turn to with anything, someone who supports me, let's me be me (which can be annoying, cranky, too independent, etc.). He loves me for everything I am, accepts my faults and never rubs them in my face. Because I can and could never imagine growing old, waking up, and having a family with anyone else. I could go on further, but a) I think you ladies get the point since it seems to be a theme amongst us, and b) well the rest gets a little too personal *wink*

Stacylynn702 · August 2010

He balances me out. He lets me see the other side (usually the calmer side) of things. I tend to worry about every little thing in the world. He helps me realize what I can and cannot control. He's so live for the moment where I like to have things planned. I would have missed out on a lot in the last 7 years if I had not met FI. This makes me realize all I have to look forward to throughout my lifetime with him. I'm lucky.

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