I'm looking for help with where people draw the line at invites for a shower. I have recently been asked to draw up a guest list for my bridal shower. Its going to be at my aunt's home (informal, fun, traditional, females only - she had one for my sister too). I just don't know where to draw the line. I have a lot of friends who are males and am friends with some of their girlfriends, but others are acquaintences I wish I knew better. Do I invite the acquaintences? They are coming to the wedding. I just don't want to hurt someone's feelings by not inviting them, but I also don't want to look greedy by inviting people that aren'y in my inner circle. I wish I could just have a giftless shower and that would remove the anxiety I feel about inviting people I don't know well.
The problem really complicates when I get to the friends I know through my FH. I will be inviting his groomsmen's wives (I know them well so thats not a problem)...but then some of the groomsmen have girlfriends I only met a few times. Then there are girls who love going to showers that are aqcuaintences, that are coming to the wedding, these girls are very close friends of the groomsmen's wives so they will know I had a shower and that they didn't make the cut...
a second shower isn't an option. In my FH's family there are only men that are involved in our lives and I don't expect they will throw us a coed shower - which would solve much of the awkwardness. My aunt's home is too small to have a coed shower and invite everyone...plus can anyone blame me for wanting to spend a day with just women?
Im wishing it was a surprise shower so I wouldn't have to worry about it.