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Moms and Maids
Braids maid dilemma
So I have a fairly large group of core girlfriends and I can't have all of them in my wedding it would just be too much. I'm going to have my sister in law, whom is like a sister to me, and my very best friend. I want the other girls to feel included and special somehow without having them in my wedding party....any ideas? please help.... 
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Re: Braids maid dilemma
[QUOTE]Maybe they can do a reading, or perform music/sing if that is their talent. But any other job (other than bm, reading, or performance) is a crap job.
Posted by marinabreeze[/QUOTE]
Agreed.
[QUOTE]Guest book attendant, cake server, handing out programs. They should feel honored with any duties you give them
Posted by greenturtlelove[/QUOTE]
No they shouldn't. These are all pity/crap jobs. I especially have a big problem with your statement that they should feel honored at any duties you give them. This is something a child would say about her wedding day. An adult would know that her wedding day is not "her" day and that she should not expect the world to fall all over itself to be part of "her special day."
OP - just invite them. Weddings are damn expensive and are getting smaller and smaller. Gone are the days where everyone you, your FI or the parents have ever met are invited. Just being invited is an honor.
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[QUOTE]Guest book attendant, cake server, handing out programs. They should feel honored with any duties you give them
Posted by greenturtlelove[/QUOTE]
Those are not duties that one should be "honored" by. Those are pity positions and are simply ridiculous to ask a friend to do. Friends don't ask friends to do scut work.
[QUOTE]Guest book attendant, cake server, handing out programs. They should feel honored with any duties you give them
Posted by greenturtlelove[/QUOTE]
I'm not surprised you would think this way. Your 18, just engaged, and posted on another board you want to be "whatever" about your FMIL because she's concerned about you two getting married at 18! This right here shows your lack of maturity and understanding of people and relationships.
[QUOTE]What is a braid's maid? You're having your hair braided or what? So the girl braiding your hair has an attendant?
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE]If your choosing to have a small WP that is fine (<strong>FYI, I have seen large WP up to 13 ppl and never heard a peep from anyone bashing it</strong>) but prepare that you friends can't do a whole lot then because after WP there are only a few things that you can honor them with like reader, being a usher, or having them perform if they are talented in the music area. The cake server (which I have NEVER heard of or seen), guestbook attendant, personal attendant are very meaningless to most people (been a guestbook attendant and its so boring, only little kids who probably like it). Remember just being a guest to be at your wedding is a honor.
Posted by AutumnFair[/QUOTE]
I'm sure they were silently judging. I would be.
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Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]You could have one be your <strong>personal attendan</strong>t. Others could be <strong>in charge of the guest book</strong>, <strong>hand out programs</strong>, do readings during the ceremony, or if they're musicall inclined, perform at either the ceremony or reception. I'm sure they will understand you can't ask everyone. If you are that close to them, you might even include them in some professional wedding pics.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
No, no, and no. Busywork =/= honor. Personal attendant is the worst of the three, because day-of coordinating is a LOT of very tiring work that makes it impossible to just sit back and enjoy the party, which is something I would hope you would want your very closest friends to be able to do.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]Guest book attendant, cake server, handing out programs. They should feel honored with any duties you give them
Posted by greenturtlelove[/QUOTE]
HAHAHAHAHAAAAAaaa...oh wait...you're serious. Wow...
And what the heck is a "personal attendant" anyway? Is that the person who holds up your dress when you have to pee?
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Best granddaughter ever: Everleigh Brielle, born 01.04.2012
[QUOTE]What is a braid's maid? You're having your hair braided or what? So the girl braiding your hair has an attendant?
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
I thought this too...this is the only reason I opened this post was to find out what a Braid's Maid was/is.
Cake Server= the messiest part of the wedding, not honorable. Please ask someone at your venue to do this, not someone who has dressed up for the occasion who doesn't want to be given THAT kind of a job. Don't give people JOBS that require an apron. COME ON.
Program hander-outer= ever heard of a basket? Who wouldn't know what to do if they saw this? The exception that I can think of is if an usher is handing it out while they are seating people.
I agree with PP--readings are a great way to include friends who might as well be BM's at the service. If they volunteer to help, thats different--I have friends that aren't in the wedding party who want to help put programs and favors together. A fun but not demeaning way for them to be an important part of your day. And wine is included
Also, you can invite them to the bach party and shower.