anyone get weirded out by their future last name?

M&R7111 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name? : Same here! I've tried saying it and it's just weird. And not me. And makes me sad. So I've never doing it! His name is way simpler than mine, though - 4 letters vs. 9 letters.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Whew - THANK GOD there is another woman out there that feels the same way! I'm getting a lot of slack from him, his family, and his friends b/c I don't want any other name!! Their reasoning: You're the woman, you HAVE TO. He doesn't have to change anything b/c he's the man. So irritating! His brother even said "if you're not going to change your name, why even get married" (?!)

Anywho - glad I'm not the only one. :) Hope your decisions is better supported, though.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: anyone get weirded out by their future last name? : what initial combination would possibly be that bad that you are going to hyphenate your name just to avoid? that seems silly to me honestly. i've been called mrs. FI before and it is kinda weird, but whatever. his mom is making a big deal about it since i'll be the first to have the last name since she took it. i never really thought about it before we got engaged, i just assumed i would take his name since it's custom. i'm starting to think about what a pain it's going to be at work though, but whatever.
Posted by psichick[/QUOTE]

My first initial is F. Our last name would be Artman. I'd be known as F. Artman. Fartman. No thanks.

amwilli5 · June 2010

I'm taking his last name because I'm sick of having the most popular name and getting asked several times a day are you related to this person? But I just can't get used to my first name and his last name it has no ring to it. His mom's like "you'll get used to it but you might want to practice your signature." I tried that and OMG it's hard not to mention that fact that I had to look up how to make 2 of the letters in cursive lol. You're not the only one feeling weird, I think most of us do especially since we've been known as our names for the past 20 some odd years.

BrilhanteBride · June 2010

not weirded out.. but i know i'll be annoyed because NO ONE can pronounce it correctly!

InATizzy1601 · June 2010

I'm not weirded out. The only thing is his last name is somewhat similar to a--hole and so thats a fun nickname. I'm def taking his. I don't think it's sexist at all. Just because it is tradition doesn't make it sexist. If he wanted to take mine, okay. I don't care, but his brother has no intention of ever getting married/having kids, and I have two brothers (one with kids already) that will carry on my family name. So, his name it is. I don't think a good defense is "I'm taking it because I love him so much" either, but I don't think it's sexist at all.

Srbageldog · June 2010

My FI and I have the same initials (SRB) so when I change my name, it won't change much.

I hate my last name and am eager to shed it!

ksmith67 · June 2010

My FH and I actually share the same last name(makes family gatherings a mess, so many "did you mean your mom or mine?"), so I think its actually weirder to me to think that no one will notice I'm married unless I'm being addressed as Mrs. I'm actually kind of jealous of the ladies who get to be someone new

Lady Proserpina · June 2010

I'm going to miss my last name (it's pretty awesome), but I'm going to take his when we're married. His is unique, and everyone says I'll sound like a porn star or a secret agent with it, so that'll be fun too. Plus facebook apparently doesn't allow his last name, so I'll get to keep mine on cyberspace ^.^

julie21homes · June 2010

I am really excited, FI last name is extremely rare (noone I have ever met has heard it before). I love my maiden name, but I plan to combine my first and middle names, take my maiden as my new middle and his for my last. My last name initial stays the same, so I am very happy about that as well!

balymullen · June 2010

I was never sure if I would change my name or not. I'm the only child and a girl to boot so no one will carry on my father's last name. Then one day in a sleep deprived stupor I had to fill out and sign papers while my FI was having surgery. I suddenly realized I had signed using his last name, not mine. Guess I'm ok with it after all.

What I especially like is that we share the same last initial. So I won't have to change my monogram!

Carrie0222 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I never had any intention on taking anyone's last name, even as a little girl. So that weirds everyone else out (AKA his family) - which sucks. So I'm totally weirded out about the possibility of having any other name by what I have now.
Posted by M&R7111[/QUOTE]

I TOTALLY agree with the message above! I never intended on taking my FI's last name. My mom has always gone by her maiden name, so to me, keeping my name is normal. I think it's just so weird to change my name - it's MY NAME!!!!! It's very important to me! But I have to mention - my twin sister is getting married a few months after me and she's happily taking her FI's name. So to each their own I guess!

bradget1 · June 2010

My first name is Bridget, living in new england (with the accent dropping the 'r') I have always had a problem confusing my name and the name richard (they DO sound exactly the same depending on who is talking)

My fiancees last name is Simmons....so I am totally going to be Richard Simmons...

He thought I was crazy and nobody was going to think that..but about a month ago I figured Id try it out, we went out and were asked what name the reservation was under, I said 'Bridget Simmons" and the mans responded..Richard Simmons? I turned to my fiancee and said "told you so!"

commothompson · June 2010

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[QUOTE] I keep thinking that I will never been known as the person I am now (if that makes sense />!) and that kinda weirds me out a little. Its like I wont exist anymore.
Posted by gemmalouise85[/QUOTE]

I <em>totally </em>get this! I'm in the military, so I'm called by my last name. So when I get married and try to take his last name, it's like I won't be myself anymore. So I'm going to be double-barrelling the last names without a hyphen. So I keep my last name, take his name, but could be called either or both and it still wouldn't be a big deal. You could call me whatever you're comfortable with and you'd still be calling me by my last name.

HeatherN78 · June 2010

I'm looking forward to marrying wonderful FI, but not so much to taking his name! It is always mispronounced and my maiden is simple yet unique. I plan on making my maiden name my second middle name as opposed to hyphenating it. Here's to a life of mispronounced last name! Good thing I love the guy with all that I am.

Rmburgio · June 2010

My FI and I have dated for 11 years so the last name issue has come up many a time. I have always said that I do not plan on changing my name and he has slowly grown acustomed to it. I am the last of my firends to get married as well and so far none of them have changed it either. I love my last name and it is who I am. I asked him to change his last name and we can all guess the response that got!!! I am not doing it to be "different" or "difficult" it is just how I have always felt. I am sure people will have issues with it. Oh well.

meangreengurl04 · June 2010

I'm actually kind of excited about taking his last name! Although, his is pretty common, and I'm the only person IN THE WORLD with my last name...everyone says they love it. But it's hyphenated, and it can be a pain when it comes to forms...and sometimes my name goes under the wrong letter because people can't comprehend hyphenated names. People have asked me if I have considered just adding on his name to my maiden...and I look at them like they're crazy! That would be a ridiculously long name! Plus, I want the same name as our future children.

And taking on his name has a fun factor...think of a very popular song by Simon & Garfunkel. Haha! The only thing I'll have to get used to is signing my new name...but I'll be grateful to not have to enunciate my last name as much or spell it for people.

neknight86 · June 2010

I always wanted to keep my last name since I think it is pretty cool. But after thinking about it I realized that I really don't want to have a different last name than my kids (when/if they come). So I can't seem to decide whether I am going to do the hyphenated last name or make my last name a second middle name, as in First (MIddle Maiden) FI Last. It is such a tough decision.

Oh and I really don't want to be introduced as Mr & Mrs his first and last name. At that point it seems that not even my first name is important. I hate these outdated traditions.

KathrynR19 · June 2010

Weirded out. Yup. I have a very Hispanic last name so once I get married I feel like I'll be loosing part of my heritage. My family wants me to keep my last name. His name makes me giggle and freaks me out all at once. His last name is basically something that can be found in the breakfast isle of a grocery store. So there will forever be mocking by my family, friends and everyone else, but he's my love and if that's the worst thing we have to deal with then we are truely blessed.

superjules916 · June 2010

I can't wait to change my name. My current last name is 9 letters, his is 4. Mine starts with Wo (way down the end of the list) his starts with J. Also, I'm not against hyphenating for other people but I would never do it, mainly because my first name is hyphenated.

MioAmoore10 · June 2010

Yeah, a bit weirded out, but the worst thing about it is that his last name is always mispronounced and no one can spell it. It's a very German last name and it actually means onion lol

annaliesehart · June 2010

I'm not weirded out by it, so much as I'm dreading having to sign my name. My first name is 9 letters long, his last name is 12 letters long. Ooooh yeah. Maybe I'll be lucky in Vegas though.. 21 and all.

My mom, however, and actually most of my family now that I think about it, is kind of weirded out by a name change. I think it has to do with not being able to pronounce his last name. My mom didn't take my dad's last name, saying that she'd always thought it was weird that you would do that. But I had always thought that I would change my name, and even this monstrosity of a name hasn't stopped me.

elorgwhee · June 2010

I don't see any problem with taking his last name, but I am a little weirded out about losing mine. I don't feel like I'm losing my identity or anything - it just feels strange to me to have to get used to a new name. We both have REALLY common last names which is kind of funny. I think the thing that bothers me the most is just how it "sounds". It doesn't flow as well as my current first+last name. Everyone asks what I'm going to do, and I just tell them that I haven't officially decided, but I will most likely take his name.

sonnolaluna · June 2010

I haven't made up my mind about it. We both have Latin last names, and his is easier for people to understand in english, but I agree with some of the girls here..I sound my name with his last name....and it sounds weird....I'm so used to see my name with my last name.

On the other hand, i'm kinda excited to become Mrs. C.

jayleensmama · June 2010

not me.. im not changing my last name..

summer4077 · June 2010

I feel the exact same way. I worked really hard to put myself through two undergrad degrees and one grad degree, plus have become established at work under my maiden name. And my name is ME--losing that seems like losing part of myself. FI knows I'm not taking his last name and is perfectly fine with it. His mom and my mom have grumbled but I just let it roll off. They're old-school and think a woman should change her last name but they'll get used to it. My sis, however, rushed to change her last name and couldn't be happier. There is no right or wrong, it's a very personal thing and each option is perfectly fine.

allurea · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Considering my FI has a horrible last name - not looking forward to that! Haha. Not to pat myself on the back but I have a pretty last name (it's the same as a flower) and dont look forward from something pretty to something harsh and 10 letters long =/ Actually just recently I felt like I was losing my identity. MB will no longer exist, ya know? As much as it freaked me out I know why I'm taking it and try to shrug it off. By the way, funny side note: His mother, brother and I will all be MF. That freaked HIM out! haha.
Posted by dalmatinka77[/QUOTE]

I know exactly how you feel. My new last name, will be a rather comman male first name. It could be worse though, FH's first name is usually a last name. When he went to register to vote once, the lady gave him a hard time and kept asking him if he was sure his name wasn't "last, first" instead of "first, last". He replied with something along the lines of "Lady, I've lived with this name for 20+ years, I think I know which is my first and which is my last".

Still, I kind of wish I could just pick a new last name :P

audreynicolle · June 2010

my fiance has a funny last name but at least people can pronouce it. most people cant pronouce mine at all so im super excited to change it!! and his parents are divorced so his mom doesnt have his last name. but he has 3 half brothers and 4 half sisters so i wont be the only mrs lastname

kellbellc09 · June 2010

I will be happy to take his! My first name is gender neutral (and happens to be a common last name) and my last name is a very common guys name, so often when people who don't know me call me by Last Name First and then First Name, it can be embarrasing!! There will be no mistaking my name, once it's changed. His last name is meant to be a last name and is filled with heritage, that I share

ShadowAP · June 2010

I have a very unusual/unique maiden name, and I was always planning to keep it. But it's really important to him that I take his last name, so I compromised - I figure I'll keep my maiden name as an extra middle name and just have two middle names (four names? sure - sounds classy).

His last name is so common and boring, though! It's kind of a bummer.

We're not getting married until March, but I had to order a Medic-Alert bracelet, and I didn't want to get a new one next year (they can be pricey), so it already has the new married name on there - it still weirds me out when I turn it over and read it.

Lady Proserpina · June 2010

I like reading everyone who has issues with pronunciation of their last names. My fiance's last name is really simple, 4 letters, but everyone pronounces it wrong out of a misguided sense of propriety. When he graduated the speaker still said it wrong even though he wrote clear pronunciation directions on his name card.

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