One of my BMs has still not ordered her dress, and last I spoke with her when I visited her, all she did was complain about her finances. She is recently married, just moved (we spoke days before her move), and started back to college. She is now about 4 hours away from our wedding location, and I feel like crap knowing she would have to take on $300 ish for a dress, hotel room for 2 nights, gas, etc.
So I sent her a FB message (she is not a phone girl and I made sure to add smileys and !s so she would know I was not mad or "kicking her out.") letting her know that I still want her to be a BM, but that I will not be upset if she would prefer to attend as a guest. I told her I felt bad hearing about all her woes and did not mean to cause her more stress than she needed. Yes, I know, I probably shouldn't have sent a message, but I couldn't help it. I didn't want her feeling trapped into this commitment, you know? I get that times are hard. NBD. I also mentioned if she does still want/can afford to be a BM, she needs to order the dress no later than Feb 11, or she will have to pay a rush fee.
That was a week ago...no reply. No text, call, returned FB message, nada. I'm sort of annoyed that she can't just give me an answer, you know? I have to pay my florist bill soon, and I need to know how many bouquets to order! FILs are budgeting for the RD and need to know how many are in the WP! My MOH asked me today if she should send said BM an email about shower/bachelorette stuff, because we don't know if she is a BM at this point.
FTR, she and I discussed budgets and she said getting a dress was no problem. I let them pick the style, just knee length in AA petunia. She's always been bad about this kind of thing (had a prom dress, limo and tickets paid for, but bailed 2 days before), so I knew this might happen when I asked her. Just annoyed that's all. Ok vent over!
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