Leading up to this wknd, wedding drama has been minimal. I had my first fitting on Sat. and my mother came down from PA to go with me. As we were walking through the bridal store she mentioned that the print of dress was nice, and I said, "FMIL got that same style dress in Purple."
Not knowing the drama that this statement was going to lead too....my mother then spent the entire appt. crying because 1.) my mother's dress is short/cocktail style and FMIL is a long flowing gown 2.) my mother found this to be extremely rude of the FMIL to go out two months before the wedding and buy this gown when we all thought that she was wearing a short blue dress 3.) my mother said that the FMIL is to follow the style of the MOB, not wear a long gown if the MOB is wearing a short cocktail gown.
So my appt. was a mess and the remainder of the day was not much fun. In response to my mom's reaction, I sent an email right away to my FMIL about the situation. I also spoke to my fiance and he said that he would call his mom in the morning and we could discuss, and that he didn't see it as being a problem. The email was very nice I just said that my mother was very upset to hear that she was wearing a gown, when she had expressed to her that she was wearing a short cocktail dress and assumed that she would follow suit, as is customary. I indicated to my FMIL that I would greatly appreciate if she could shorten her dress, tea length, and that I would take care of the alterations.
Well come Sunday, FMIL asked my fiance for my parent's phone number. She phoned my mom and basically blamed the whole thing on ME! The list of what she said is long 1.) that she asked me if I had a preference what she wore, color, style, and I said no (this is true, I said she could wear whatever color it didn't need to coordinated) 2.) that I never told her what the BM's were wearing (short black cocktail dresses) 3.) that she has no memory of having a conversation with my mother as to the fact that she would be wearing a short cocktail dress, but wasn't sure about the color and that FMIL could wear whatever color she wanted 4.) that her dress can not be altered to be made shorter, is not returnable, etc. 5.) she never had made a decision 100% that she was wearing the blue dress that we all saw a picture of.
I know what dress FMIL purchased and it is able to be altered and made shorter, it is chiffon and has a basic skirt, so she is being difficult. I never did tell her what color/style the BM's were wearing bec. she never asked. If you don't ask me about the wedding, which she hasn't, I am not going to ramble on about it. FMIL has done next to nothing, I picked out the rehearsal dinner site, I designed and purchased the RD invites, and I am sure I will be sending them out. The list goes on.........
So to wrap this whole thing up and to see what others out there think. Was anyone in the wrong here? Is it customary for the FMIL to wear a short style if the MOB is ? Do you think FMIL will look like the odd one out being that no one is wearing a gown? Should I leave things as they are? I have enough on my plate then to listen to my FMIL blame me for this!