We've been dating for two years, but have known each other for four. He is the most amazing guy in the world but when he brought up marriage it scared me. However, he kept talking about how incredible it would and he wants to start a family and all this other stuff and now it's got me OBSESSED with getting married to him! I've already looked at dresses, colors, flowers, EVERYTHING! And now he won't mention it at all! I didn't lead on that I really, really want to get married but this is now all I can think about and he isn't doing anything! He hasn't brought it up in about two months and I'm going crazy waiting for him to actually propose. I thought he was going to do it on our 2 year anniversary (January 8th) but he didn't. How can I mention that I'm okay with and really want to get married to him and all this? Whenever he did mention it I never acted like it scared me I just didn't say anything really about it, was this a huge mistake on my part?! And why am I SO OBSSESSED? I was never the little girl who planned a wedding until now or even thought of it
Re: my boyfriend mentioned marraiged!
It's great that your BF mentioned marriage. But it sounds like you are focusing on a wedding. The wedding is one day. The marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. My advice to you is to sit down with your BF and discuss your goals in life, where you see this relationship going, what you both want a 1, 5, and 10 years from now. Be honest with him - tell him you are ecstatic at the thought of marrying him and you want him to know that. He may propose tomorrow, he may propose a year from now. Either way what is most important is focusing on where your relationship is at right now and enjoying that time. You are never going to get this time back so don't rush towards the future. Things will happen when they are supposed to.
[QUOTE]We've been dating for two years, but have known each other for four. He is the most amazing guy in the world but when he brought up marriage it scared me. However, he kept talking about how incredible it would and he wants to start a family and all this other stuff and now it's got me OBSESSED with getting married to him! I've already looked at dresses, colors, flowers, EVERYTHING! And now he won't mention it at all! I didn't lead on that I really, really want to get married but this is now all I can think about and he isn't doing anything! He hasn't brought it up in about two months and I'm going crazy waiting for him to actually propose. I thought he was going to do it on our 2 year anniversary (January 8th) but he didn't. How can I mention that I'm okay with and really want to get married to him and all this? Whenever he did mention it I never acted like it scared me I just didn't say anything really about it, was this a huge mistake on my part?! And why am I SO OBSSESSED? I was never the little girl who planned a wedding until now or even thought of it
Posted by arika94[/QUOTE]
Are you for real? 0.o You are crazy. And listen to Beth.
Married! May 27th, 2012
As an added note, though, my B-day is January 8th, so that's cool it's your anniversary.
Yes, yes you are.
Just because he mentioned wanting to marry you doesn't mean he is actually in the process of planning to ask you at thie very moment. You should be talking about marriage because you want to make sure you are both heading in the same direction.
If he mentions that he likes ice cream, does that mean he has secret plans to take you to Baskin Robbins? Of course not. Well, maybe he does, but don't get your hopes up. Am I making sense?
I do think you're being kind of nuts, but slow down and realize that looking at all that stuff and starting to obsess is not healthy.
Oh, and she's only 18 if she was born before January 18th, so that's a stretch.
"His farts smell like Satan's asshole mixed with a skunk's vagina. But it's okay, because I love him." -CSousa
Getting marraiged sounds scary. It sounds like some painful odd test done in a doctor's office.
OP, you cray cray.
Even so..he was going to propose on our anniversary, and then a vehicle catastrophe emptied his savings on the ring. If I was spending all my time dwelling on being engaged and married I'd have lost my mind by now.
A wedding is just a big expensive party. If you truly want to be married to him, and make a life long commitment, then what are you anxious about? You have the rest of your lives to spend together. What's the rush.
[QUOTE]HULU your roll picture is making me hungry. OP, you cray cray.
Posted by DetArt00[/QUOTE]
That pic makes me want to go to Texas Roadhouse or O'Charley's right now!
OP, As PP's mentioned a wedding is one day, and sure you may want this, that and whatever, that's all fine and dandy, WHEN THE TIME COMES (i.e. engagement). Until you are engaged you do not need to be worrying about these things, let alone obbsessing.
Your time dating yoru BF should be spend doing just that, dating! Enjoy everyday for what it is, live in the moment. Before and even after you are engaged focusing on how your marriage will be is healthy, obsessing over wedding details is never healthy. What are your and your BF's plans for life, careers, family, how do you expect to work together as a team and to resolve real-life issues that come up? These are way more important than any dress, cake, whatever.