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XP:What other honors/duties are you asking people to do?

KateJ10KateJ10
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in Minnesota-Minneapolis and St. Paul
What are you planning on having people do, or did you have people do, besides your wedding party?

I can think of:

Hand out invitations
Gift table help
Host couples (not sure what they do, possibly help with order of eating or??)
Readers
Cake Cutting


What am I missing? I am starting to think what else I will need to include and I am just not sure what there is!!
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Re: XP:What other honors/duties are you asking people to do?

  • shan87shan87
    2500 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Do you mean Hand out Programs?

    other Duties :
    *My 11 yr old cousin will be heading out the bubbles for ppl to blow during our exit
    *bringing up the gifts during Mass
    *bringing the gifts back to our suite
    *BM is getting alcohol for the limo
    *Ushers or other ppl to decorate the limo
    *depending on your timeline someone to grab a sandwhich tray


    thats all I can think of at the moment
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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
    2500 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Do ushers & PAs belong on this list?
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  • drdifabiodrdifabio member
    Seventh Anniversary 2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We had a host couple greeting people at the door. Guests loved that. I had really good ones though :). They directed people what to do - grab their escort card, sign the guest book, and go grab a drink...etc. They also knew where stuff was like the bathroom in case guests asked.

    Are you doing any sort of bubble or sparkler exit? You could need someone to help pass that out or get guests into a certain area for it.

    You will need people to take stuff home at the end of the night! Presents could take up more than one car depending on guest list. Then you would need space for any DIY stuff you might have brought in.

    How about music? Do you want to ask anyone to sing or play an instrument?

    Are you staying at a hotel? You could have someone check you in, bring your overnight stuff over, and the hand the key to your then H so that all you would need to do is go to the room.

    ....if you have a ton of this kinda stuff too having a DOC might be something to think about unless you have really responsible people that want to help. But that is just me. I didnt really want guests doing that kinda stuff I listed. More of the readers, handing out programs, greeting the door of the reception kinda thing...sorry maybe that was more of what you were looking for! :)
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  • I Want CakeI Want Cake
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011

    I'm having one of my brothers (both ushers) also hand out bubbles and programs as people come into the ceremony space, that way the guests will already have their bubble tubes for our grand exit, and the other one will be in the parking lot paying for our guest parking and directing them to the ceremony space unless we hand out parking tokens ahead of time in the invitations or if we see the OOTers before the rehearsal dinner.  I wish there were a more graceful way to pay for parking, but there really isn't.

    Might ask my mom to do a reading, but not sure yet.

    Cake cutting is done by the venue, so we couldn't give anyone that "honor" if we wanted to.


    No guest book or gift table attendant, but maybe I should think about having a greeter at the reception to direct our guests to these spots.  Maybe my cousin that I actually like (seriously, I only have a few I can stand)?

    As far as loading up the car and taking the DIY projects home, I was hoping that the BP would help with it.  My MOH and officiant will be staying at our house with us, so I know they'll be there until the end and could help out.



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  • beka0404beka0404
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    edited December 2011
    Our "helper" list ballooned because my church suggested having 4-6 greeters (!!!). So we had:

    - Two sets of aunts/uncles on H's side and one set on my side as greeters at the ceremony
    - My nephew and H's nephew handed out programs
    - H's cousin (teenage daughter of host couple) was the guest book attendant (seemed a little unnecessary in hindsight)
    - My BIL was the reader and also was an usher

    Honestly, we wanted to keep the helper jobs to a minimum - we wanted everyone to be able to relax and party at the reception instead of having a task. We would have preferred a more streamlined helper list!

    I highly doubt you'll need a cake cutter - that's usually taken care of by your caterer. My DOC took care of gifts - aside from having a designated vehicle in which to haul away the gifts (my parents') - and tear down of my decor. I do wish that we would have had a host couple at the reception, mostly because I worked so stinkin' hard on favors and a guest book, and both were largely ignored due to the sensory overload at my venue.


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  • KateJ10KateJ10
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    edited December 2011
    oops yep I meant programs- I just have invitations on the brain lately Tongue out

    We will have a few ushers, no PAs, but I was thinking I would have:

    PROGRAM hander-outers (possibly give this to a couple younger people, I did this when I was young and loved it

    Maybe a host couple or two? I will have to think more about this. Greeters- I didn't even think of this. Maybe have one couple be greeters and another for the reception. hm.

    A reader or two-

    And our venue does allow the option of having someone cut your cake- otherwise they charge a fee to do it. So I will have to think carefully about it and figure out if there is someone that would like being asked to do it.

    DOC isn't quite yet in my budget, as it gets closer I may be able to get one and that would be wonderful, to take care of all the extras!!

    I don't think we are doing a grand exit
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  • wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    We had 2 host couples for our wedding because we had a private ceremony and the cocktail hour began while we were finishing up photos at the ceremony site and our parents wouldn't be there right away.  They were basically "in charge" of the party until my folks came.  DH and I asked each of our childhood best friends' parents to fulfill that role.  Our reception coordinator knew to go to them to approve any "extras" like if a guest threw a fit about not having white zin at the bar, etc.  (which someone did - believe it or not)

    Our usher gave out programs  but our ceremony guest list was 15 people including the bridal party so that wasn't a biggie.

    We chose to have one each of our godparents do our readings.

    I did have the wife of one of the groomsmen help out by pinning on corsages.  She was going to be hanging around early with us with nothing to do otherwise and it needed to be done so that worked out perfectly. 

    lol - I didn't have a "typical" wedding so I didn't need a lot of helpers.  No guest book attendants, no gift table watchers (the hotel porter brought them to our room once everyone was seated for dinner), no cake servers. 
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