My sis/MOH is in charge of throwing the shower, I know she plans to throw one but she has not spoken to my other bridesmaids (FI’s sisters) or my MIL about anything and they are getting worried (wedding is 3 months away). My MIL reached out to my my mom, but my mom basically said, “Thanks, but no thanks” which really rubbed my MIL the wrong way. My sis/mom don’t have jobs and my MOH has never been married (unlike my BMs) and my BMs are more than willing to help financially and really want to be involved in the process. I texted my sis w/their #s and told her to involve the other girls. She said “when the time is appropriate” she will contact the other BMs/MIL, but they all have kids/families and busy schedules.
I heard through the grapevine that my sis is planning something for Labor Day weekend and if that is so, my BMs will not be able to go! So I also told my sis that Labor Day is a busy time for most people, and she got really offended that I knew because she’s trying to make the shower a surprise, but I really don’t want this to be a surprise. I then hear she e-mails my BMs to keep every weekend in September open because she doesn’t know where/what or when it’ll be. I understand she doesn’t want me involved, but she has no experience doing this, etc. Should I just let it be? Ask her if she needs help? Provide a list of possible attendants? My BMs and MIL are now thinking my entire family is flighty/scatter-brained. Any way to repair this? I just don’t want any drama. I’ve been trying to be a relaxed/go-with-the-flow bride but family makes it difficult!