'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism

stefanielynn25 · February 2013

Hey there! I've been lurking here for a while and thought I'd say hello!

Also, I just found this article about 'You're not invited' alerts. Not sure if people have seen it already, but thought I'd share

http://thelook.today.com/_news/2013/02/07/16871656-youre-not-invited-alerts-new-wedding-trend-draws-criticism?lite&lite=obnetwork

mattycam · February 2013

Thanks for sharing. I have never heard of this "trend"; it's ridiculous to say the least.

nycrose2013 · February 2013

is someone gonna post on this topic every day now?

PrettyGirlLost · February 2013

I had never heard of this trend either, until last year.

A few friends of mine received them. They opened what they thought was a wedding invitation, and instead it basically read, "Yay! We are getting married, but sadly we can't invite you. P.S. here is our registry information!"

One friend sent a card to the couple, the other didn't even respond. I told them I would have sent a card back that said, "Congrats on getting married, but sadly I can't send you the gift you were fishing for!" :-P

Is this a trend with younger brides and grooms (under 30 crowd), or are other age demographics doing it too?

peekaboo2011 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_youre-not-invited-alerts-new-wedding-trend-draws-criticism?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b925d392-8e6f-4c1c-830f-093f420db5b5Post:f263be9f-ff24-42b1-b9dd-e8bd295f9078">Re: 'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism</a>:
[QUOTE]I had never heard of this trend either, until last year. A few friends of mine received them. They opened what they thought was a wedding invitation, and instead it basically read, "Yay! We are getting married, but sadly we can't invite you. P.S. here is our registry information!" One friend sent a card to the couple, the other didn't even respond. I told them I would have sent a card back that said, "Congrats on getting married, but sadly I can't send you the gift you were fishing for!" :-P<strong> Is this a trend with younger brides and grooms (under 30 crowd), or are other age demographics doing it too?</strong>
Posted by cmsciulli[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm guessing somewhat. I was told yesterday that etiquette is only for 20-somethings on wedding boards and the rest of the world doesn't care.</div>

kmbryant2413 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_youre-not-invited-alerts-new-wedding-trend-draws-criticism?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b925d392-8e6f-4c1c-830f-093f420db5b5Post:5a371158-ede0-42ad-a64b-4b2f5a9b144f">Re: 'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism : I'm guessing somewhat. <strong> I was told yesterday that etiquette is only for 20-somethings on wedding boards and the rest of the world doesn't care.</strong>
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Did you tell them to get bent? :P

</div>

misshart00 · February 2013

In Response to Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism:I had never heard of this trend either, until last year.nbsp; A few friends of mine received them.nbsp; They opened what they thought was a wedding invitation, and instead it basically read, "Yay! We are getting married, but sadly we can't invite you. P.S. here is our registry information!" One friend sent a card to the couple, the other didn't even respond.nbsp; I told them I would have sent a card back that said, "Congrats on getting married, but sadly I can't send you the gift you were fishing for!" :P Is this a trend with younger brides and grooms under 30 crowd, or are other age demographics doing it too?Posted by cmsciulliI'm guessing somewhat. nbsp;I was told yesterday that etiquette is only for 20somethings on wedding boards and the rest of the world doesn't care. Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

I'm surprised they said 20 something's. Usually I hear tht etiquette is for old ladies.

peekaboo2011 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_youre-not-invited-alerts-new-wedding-trend-draws-criticism?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b925d392-8e6f-4c1c-830f-093f420db5b5Post:29713ea0-1ae6-4c36-9b60-5c23dfb93ac6">Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism: I'm surprised they said 20 something's. Usually I hear tht etiquette is for old ladies.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

<div>She just got engaged, is having a PPD after they get married at the courthouse next month, they're having a cash bar, and probably limited food. I spent about 3 hours trying to tell her this was a terrible idea, and she flat out told me that etiquette doesn't matter when you have kids, as well as my previous statement.</div>

misshart00 · February 2013

In Response to Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism:In Response to Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism: I'm surprised they said 20 something's. Usually I hear tht etiquette is for old ladies.Posted by misshart00She just got engaged, is having a PPD after they get married at the courthouse next month, they're having a cash bar, and probably limited food. nbsp;I spent about 3 hours trying to tell her this was a terrible idea, and she flat out told me that etiquette doesn't matter when you have kids, as well as my previous statement. Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Wow. Just wow. It's not about all these rules you have to abide by; it's just about treating people with some respect. Etiquette doesn't matter when you have kids? Those two don't even relate.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_youre-not-invited-alerts-new-wedding-trend-draws-criticism?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b925d392-8e6f-4c1c-830f-093f420db5b5Post:d0388a8f-576f-4278-92e4-ad81b7d0a951">Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism : She just got engaged, is having a PPD after they get married at the courthouse next month, they're having a cash bar, and probably limited food. I spent about 3 hours trying to tell her this was a terrible idea, and she flat out told me that etiquette doesn't matter when you have kids, as well as my previous statement.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Were you being trolled? Some posts across the boards seem like that. . .

Personally, I enjoy reading the Etiquette discussions.

AddieCake · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_youre-not-invited-alerts-new-wedding-trend-draws-criticism?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b925d392-8e6f-4c1c-830f-093f420db5b5Post:5a371158-ede0-42ad-a64b-4b2f5a9b144f">Re: 'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'You're not invited' alerts: New wedding trend draws criticism : I'm guessing somewhat. I was told yesterday that etiquette is only for 20-somethings on wedding boards and the rest of the world doesn't care.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

<div>WTF? I weep for humanity. </div>

peekaboo2011 · February 2013

I wish I were being trolled. She just moved into base housing with her FI, I've known her since HS, and I sent her a private message asking if they had done the JOP because of the obvious. I was the third person to ask questions, and apparently the first person to tell her it was all a terrible idea.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2013

Oh this was a person you knew personally. . .I'm sorry!

Amyzen83 · February 2013

Ouch! I think if you're not planning on inviting someone you wish to remain friendly with, but for some reason you cannot invite them to the wedding. Don't say anything!!! It's like the saying "If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it." It's bad enough the guest isn't invited, but going out of your way to tell them is like adding salt to a fresh wound. I know that there are people who may assume that they are invited to my wedding, but sadly I had to make cuts for various reasons. But I'm not going to go out of my way to tell them! If they ask or try to invite themselves then that's different, and I'll deal with each on a case by case basis.

CLI242009 · February 2013

Yeah I'm beginning to think the future is in some DEEEEEEEP trouble. Just the way the generation of today acts. I'm not saying EVERYONE is like that, don't get me wrong, but the majority of what I've seen, humanity is going to hell in a hand basket from the way kids act today.

Again not everyone, but the parents are getting younger so unless those young parents were taught etiquette by their older parents or even grandparents then they won't show that to their own kids, and the cycle just declines even more.

Yeah all of us "old ladies" need to catch up with the times I guess.......NOT! This just sounds like something a "mean girl" would think up. (if you've seen the movie mean girls you will understand that lol)

PatriceC59 · February 2013

??? I'm with Addie. This makes me weep for humanity.

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