Sleepy SB? Good Morning!

number55 · February 2012

Where is everybody this morning? I figured I would get to work and there would be a morning thread!

We met with the bank yesterday, got our mortgage rate (not being at the end of my current term is somewhat screwing us - it would cost 14k to get out of my current mortgage - um, not happening) and now we can really actually start looking. Now this is all more 'real' and it kinda scares me more than I thought it would. The act of selling AND buying is way more stressful than just buying was.

And it is sort of my Friday - no kids tomorrow at work!

raynes · February 2012

Morning!

What kind of rates are they offereing now numbers?

We were very productive last night and put the first coat of paint on the walls in the nursery. Derek had some time to think about things yesterday and I think he's come up with a good plan to get the work done in the kitchen and on the second floor that we need to do before the baby gets here.

Tonight, we're finally off to Home Depot for lumber and to look at carpet!

[Deleted User] · February 2012

This week seems to have dragged, and I didn't even go to work on Tuesday. Last night we watched the movie The Change-Up. It was really stupid, but surprisingly funny in a lot of places. I got some grading done but I still have a lot to do tonight.

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Morning! <strong>What kind of rates are they offereing now numbers?</strong> We were very productive last night and put the first coat of paint on the walls in the nursery. Derek had some time to think about things yesterday and I think he's come up with a good plan to get the work done in the kitchen and on the second floor that we need to do before the baby gets here. Tonight, we're finally off to Home Depot for lumber and to look at carpet!
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

<div>Nothing awesome for us since we have to go with a blended rate - ends up at 4.081 for the last two years of my term, it's better than the 4.99 I have now but not as low as other rates, if you are not blending and just starting from scratch. But I still have 24 months left on mortgage so I knew it wasn't going to be pretty, buying out the remaining interest just isn't possible, it would cut too much into what we have for a DP.</div><div>
</div><div>I can't wait to see photos of your house when its done. </div>

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>This week seems to have dragged</strong>, and I didn't even go to work on Tuesday. Last night we watched the movie The Change-Up. It was really stupid, but surprisingly funny in a lot of places. I got some grading done but I still have a lot to do tonight.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

<div>OMG yes! Brutal.</div><div>
</div><div>How do you like marking Sesh? :)</div>

Nebb · February 2012

Adam had inventory lastnight so I slept really lightly until he got home, I woke up twice and each time it was from really REALLY weird dreams. The last one I remember had something to do with the characters from that 70s show, jello blocks and jumping around. For some reason I also remember spelling "jello" a number of times. Weird!

I bought some awesome bamboo soled flip flops lastnight and true to form I got the most boring colours possible - black, charcoal and cappuccino! I couldnt bring myself to commit to a colour because I over think everything.

Ok now im gonna be late for work so later!

chelseamb11 · February 2012

How the heck does it cost THAT much to get out of a mortgage? That's BS. Good luck hunting/selling though!

FI wrote bitch girl a FB message the other night basically asking her what the heck was going on. Her reply was similar to what she sent to me, but it also added that she thinks he is marrying the wrong girl, that I'm not right for him, that it should tell him something when his friends and his family both are upset with him being with me, and that she's finally going to be the first one to tell him that.

Um what? She barely knew FI before we started dating, and she obviously knows me even less. Who is she to judge our relationship? Not to mention she has NEVER met his family and not a single one of them has ever expressed concern of him being with me (and believe me, they're vocal... they would). FI e-mailed her back basically calling her out for treating me the way that she did and for saying that she has no right to tell him who is right for him when she doesn't know him that well and she knows me even less. He is an extremely passive person, so this was huge for him to do. I could tell it struck a nerve with him.

Then she decides to e-mail me with a half assed apology for being a bitch to me, but still stating that she can't be my friend because she simply can't get past some things that happened when she first met me (mind you this was a year and a half ago and they were things FI and I both did). These are also things she addressed to me in like September of 2010 and we had a really good talk about it and she said we were good. Nothing has even happened since that talk. So basically she is bouncing all over the place with her reasons and she's holding a grudge, a very old grudge, over stuff that isn't THAT big of a deal. I basically told her I appreciated the apology but that if she can't let something that insignificant go from 18 months ago, then that's all on her. I've done my part to show her plenty of times who the real me is. And when she's ready to accept my apology let it go and get to know me, she can let me know. And then she blocked us both lol. It's so dumb when people block you on FB when you're not even messaging them anymore. It's so passive agressive. But I'm hoping this means it's the end of it. So we'll see!

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Adam had inventory lastnight so I slept really lightly until he got home, I woke up twice and each time it was from really REALLY weird dreams. The last one I remember had something to do with the characters from that 70s show, jello blocks and jumping around. For some reason I also remember spelling "jello" a number of times. Weird! I<strong> bought some awesome bamboo soled flip flops lastnight and true to form I got the most boring colours possible - black, charcoal and cappuccino! I couldnt bring myself to commit to a colour because I over think everything.</strong> Ok now im gonna be late for work so later!
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>I do the same thing. Where did you get them. I used to have a pair that I loved. </div>

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>How the heck does it cost THAT much to get out of a mortgage?</strong> That's BS. Good luck hunting/selling though!
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

<div>Well it was a 5 year term mortgage and I want out about 22 months early. That means I owe them the interest that I would have paid on the entire 5-year term. </div><div>
</div><div>None of this would have been an issue if I had met my DH about 1 year earlier than I did. Oh well, nothing I can do now. </div>

Nebb · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : I do the same thing. Where did you get them. I used to have a pair that I loved.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]
dessy

J&K10910 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Adam had inventory lastnight so I slept really lightly until he got home, I woke up twice and each time it was from really REALLY weird dreams. The last one I remember had something to do with the characters from that 70s show, jello blocks and jumping around. For some reason I also remember spelling "jello" a number of times. Weird! I bought some awesome bamboo soled flip flops lastnight and true to form I got the most boring colours possible - black, charcoal and cappuccino! I couldnt bring myself to commit to a colour because I over think everything. Ok now im gonna be late for work so later!
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I LOVE BAMBOO (ha, I typed bamboob) sole flip flips. They're the only ones I'll wear, and they're so hard to find. Where did you get them??

Morning! I'm here. We're meeting with our lender this morning, then I don't have to be to work until 1:30, so I'm totally going to the bank unshowered so I can work out after. I should still have time to enjoy a leisurely lunch and put dishes away too. Of course, the tradeoff is working until 8:30, but that's ok every once in awhile!

ricksang · February 2012

I have got a job interview this morning! I am soooo nervous!

chelseamb11 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : Well it was a 5 year term mortgage and I want out about 22 months early. That means I owe them the interest that I would have paid on the entire 5-year term. None of this would have been an issue if I had met my DH about 1 year earlier than I did. Oh well, nothing I can do now.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Bummer. I mean, I know that's less interest they'd get, but I don't get why banks penalize you for paying a loan back early. It's more money they have that they can lend out even faster.

chelseamb11 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I have got a job interview this morning! I am soooo nervous!
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

Good luck Ricks! Where is it at?

[Deleted User] · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : OMG yes! Brutal. How do you like marking Sesh? :)
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Marking? Is that Canada speak for grading? :)

I enjoy it, although I get frustrated at times when there is such poor grammar. I have to remember that this is an intro to fiction writing and that many of the students are not English majors, so I'm trying to be fair while giving as much feedback as possible. The feedback is what takes forever. What's funny though is that I post a few stories each week for them to give peer reviews, and this week I saw some of them giving feedback worded exactly like mine with their own stories from last week. So, they are learning!

Chels, what exactly did you and your FI do 18 months ago that she is so pissed off about? Honestly, at this point I think you should both just let it go that she doesn't like you.

number55 · February 2012

Nebb, you had to order them online, right? I hate doing that, I always want to try stuff on. Its pretty much why I never buy anything online.

J&K10910 · February 2012

Dessy. Interesting. I'll be looking later!

Ok...so the seller of our house accepted a March 23rd closing date. Now she's asking if we're at all flexible and can close at the end of Feb instead. I'd LOVE to, but our lease goes until the end of May, so as it is, if our landlord can't find a new renter we'll be double paying for a month. Plus, we need thousands of dollars of new furniture.

So she's asking us to potentially double pay for two months, PLUS pay an extra month's worth of property taxes. I feel bad, because she said she'd knock some more money off the cost of the house, but that won't help us at all with needing the extra month of rent, not to mention having to have the downpayment/closing costs/etc sooner.

Tell me it's not our job to bail her out and if she was that set on an earlier closing date she should have countered us with it, because I can't stop feeling bad, even though I KNOW those things.

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! :<strong> Marking? Is that Canada speak for grading? </strong>:) I enjoy it, although I get frustrated at times when there is such poor grammar. I have to remember that this is an intro to fiction writing and that many of the students are not English majors, so I'm trying to be fair while giving as much feedback as possible. The feedback is what takes forever. What's funny though is that I post a few stories each week for them to give peer reviews, and this week I saw some of them giving feedback worded exactly like mine with their own stories from last week. So, they are learning! Chels, what exactly did you and your FI do 18 months ago that she is so pissed off about? Honestly, at this point I think you should both just let it go that she doesn't like you.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
<div>
</div><div>It must be! </div><div>
</div><div>You are teaching at a college right? I only ask because I NEVER got any feedback on anything I wrote in University...just a grade and maybe one sentence. But then again you are teaching creative writing so no feedback would defeat the purpose! </div><div>
</div><div>But yes, feedback takes forever in my job too. </div>

J&K10910 · February 2012

Good luck, Ang! Is it for a job job, or an internship? How DID your internship interview go?

ricksang · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : Good luck Ricks! Where is it at?
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
Aww TY Chels. It's my first real job interview. It's for Dietary Manager at a nursing home. I really want this job as it would look good on my application for internships.

Have a good morning girls!

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Dessy. Interesting. I'll be looking later! Ok...so the seller of our house accepted a March 23rd closing date. Now she's asking if we're at all flexible and can close at the end of Feb instead. I'd LOVE to, but our lease goes until the end of May, so as it is, if our landlord can't find a new renter we'll be double paying for a month. Plus, we need thousands of dollars of new furniture. So she's asking us to potentially double pay for two months, PLUS pay an extra month's worth of property taxes. I feel bad, because she said she'd knock some more money off the cost of the house, but that won't help us at all with needing the extra month of rent, not to mention having to have the downpayment/closing costs/etc sooner. <strong>Tell me it's not our job to bail her out and if she was that set on an earlier closing date she should have countered us with it, because I can't stop feeling bad, even though I KNOW those things.</strong>
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Well if she signed the initial papers with a March closing date then you legally don't have to do anything. I wouldn't feel badly, she is looking out for her best interest/needs, you look out for yours. </div>

MRSBJS · February 2012

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[QUOTE]How the heck does it cost THAT much to get out of a mortgage? That's BS. Good luck hunting/selling though! FI wrote bitch girl a FB message the other night basically asking her what the heck was going on. Her reply was similar to what she sent to me, but it also added that she thinks he is marrying the wrong girl, that I'm not right for him, that it should tell him something when his friends and his family both are upset with him being with me, and that she's finally going to be the first one to tell him that. Um what? She barely knew FI before we started dating, and she obviously knows me even less. Who is she to judge our relationship? Not to mention she has NEVER met his family and not a single one of them has ever expressed concern of him being with me (and believe me, they're vocal... they would). FI e-mailed her back basically calling her out for treating me the way that she did and for saying that she has no right to tell him who is right for him when she doesn't know him that well and she knows me even less. He is an extremely passive person, so this was huge for him to do. I could tell it struck a nerve with him. Then she decides to e-mail me with a half assed apology for being a bitch to me, but still stating that she can't be my friend because she simply can't get past some things that happened when she first met me (mind you this was a year and a half ago and they were things FI and I both did). These are also things she addressed to me in like September of 2010 and we had a really good talk about it and she said we were good. Nothing has even happened since that talk. So basically she is bouncing all over the place with her reasons and she's holding a grudge, a very old grudge, over stuff that isn't THAT big of a deal. I basically told her I appreciated the apology but that if she can't let something that insignificant go from 18 months ago, then that's all on her. I've done my part to show her plenty of times who the real me is. And when she's ready to accept my apology let it go and get to know me, she can let me know. And then she blocked us both lol. It's so dumb when people block you on FB when you're not even messaging them anymore. It's so passive agressive. But I'm hoping this means it's the end of it. So we'll see!
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Chels WTF? She's crazy. You're better off w/out her.

Good Morning all! Nothing too exciting going on here - graduation ceremonies for the school I work for are tonight, but I'm skipping this one. I haven't been here long enough to really know any of the students, so I feel awkward about going to it.

Tomorrow night I have a great dinner planned out with 2 of my coworkers, it's going to be a great time, we're all looking forward to it.

And to whomever said it - YES this week is taking forever to finish!!!

J&K10910 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : Well if she signed the initial papers with a March closing date then you legally don't have to do anything. I wouldn't feel badly, she is looking out for her best interest/needs, you look out for yours.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

And see, the worst part is that I KNOW this. And I KNOW that while it would help her, it would hurt us.

But, believe it or not, I'm actually a REALLY nice person that really likes to help other people. So I can't help but feel bad. Especially since we're asking her to fix a few things from the inspection (just little things, but still).

I totally suck at this game ;)

raynes · February 2012

Yay for new flip flops. I think I'm going to need more slip-on shoes soon. Bending over is getting tough.

Good luck Ricks!

J, I don't think you should have to bail her out. BUT, maybe you can get her to cover a portion of your closing costs equal to (or maybe more than) your rent you'll be stuck double paying? Will you guys be able to come up with the downpayments that soon? Can either of your parents "gift" you the money you'd need in order to do it a month earlier?

J&K10910 · February 2012

Chels, I also want to know what the heck happened 18 months ago.

J&K10910 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Yay for new flip flops. I think I'm going to need more slip-on shoes soon. Bending over is getting tough. Good luck Ricks! J, I don't think you should have to bail her out. BUT, maybe you can get her to cover a portion of your closing costs equal to (or maybe more than) your rent you'll be stuck double paying? Will you guys be able to come up with the downpayments that soon? Can either of your parents "gift" you the money you'd need in order to do it a month earlier?
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

She's already bringing the limit of 3% of the closing costs. We have enough for the downpayment and our part of closing, but then we wouldn't be able to get our furniture right away (we don't put that stuff on credit at all). I'm sure our parents COULD "gift" us the money, but we'd rather not do that.

chelseamb11 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : Chels, what exactly did you and your FI do 18 months ago that she is so pissed off about? Honestly, at this point I think you should both just let it go that she doesn't like you.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Basically there are two events that she can't let go. The first being, the 2nd or 3rd time we all hung out after I joined the group, we went to a Brewer game. Before the game, we checked into the hotel and agreed to meet up a half hour later so people could settle in (some went to get lunch, others needed showers, etc). FI and I hadn't seen eachother in over a week, so we decided it was ample time for a little alone time. Bitch girl had come to knock on our door to ask us a question and obviously it took us a second to answer. To this day she's still convinced we were having sex and are lying about it.. we were doing other things yes, but not having sex. She thinks we "disrespected" them by going at it so quickly. Um it was our only chance for alone time that whole weekend, and we were IN OUR OWN HOTEL ROOM when everyone else was off doing their own thing. The other event was a few months later. Our whole group headed over to the Twin Cities to stay with one of the couples in our group that had just obught a new house. I had just started student teaching so I was beat by like 11:00, so I decided I wanted to go to bed. FI came upstairs with me to say goodnight and actualy started falling asleep fairly quickly. He realized he was tired and wanted to go to bed too, so he went downstairs and said goodnight. Her drama-filled brain of course was convinced that I <em>made</em> him stay upstairs when in reality I told him he should go back downstairs and spend time with them. But he's a big boy, he can do what he wants and he was tired. She still doesn't believe me to this day and thinks I was trying to keep him from spending time with his friends.

number55 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : And see, the worst part is that I KNOW this. And I KNOW that while it would help her, it would hurt us. But, believe it or not, I'm actually a REALLY nice person that really likes to help other people. So I can't help but feel bad. Especially since we're asking her to fix a few things from the inspection (just little things, but still). I totally suck at this game ;)
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, I am exactly the same way. I have contacted a total of 2 real estate agents so far but I have spoken to one more than the other, so I kinda of feel like I have to go with him. Then there is a co-worker whose husband is an agent, so I kinda feel like it is rude to not go with him. AND part of me wants to only get an agent to buy and try to sell privately but that seems like a diick move.</div><div>
</div><div>The thing is, there are (IMO) two kinds of people in the world when it comes to these kinds of things. I am like you, I want to help the other person, sometimes regardlless of what the cost is to me. But you also need to be able to look at that cost and decide if it is feasible. There is 'being nice' and then there is 'being a doormat'. Just don't be the latter. </div>

[Deleted User] · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : It must be! You are teaching at a college right? I only ask because I NEVER got any feedback on anything I wrote in University...just a grade and maybe one sentence. But then again you are teaching creative writing so no feedback would defeat the purpose! But yes, feedback takes forever in my job too.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Yes, it's at a college. Because it's an intro class, I feel that the feedback is important because otherwise, they will continue to amke the same mistakes in all of their stories. I make comments throughout the story, then a couple paragraphs at the end to sum up the grade. But really, only for the ones that need it. Some of them are fantastic writers and don't need a lot of feedback, so instead I guide them on how their story applies to the topic and overall subject of adolescent lit.

I'm hoping that with each story, I won't need to comment as much.

J&K10910 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sleepy-sb-good-morning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b718ad02-4098-4a73-8182-71af190e3826Post:34f3a670-29d8-48ee-847f-5e442817b54d">Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sleepy SB? Good Morning! : Yes, I am exactly the same way. I have contacted a total of 2 real estate agents so far but I have spoken to one more than the other, so I kinda of feel like I have to go with him. Then there is a co-worker whose husband is an agent, so I kinda feel like it is rude to not go with him. AND part of me wants to only get an agent to buy and try to sell privately but that seems like a diick move. The thing is, there are (IMO) two kinds of people in the world when it comes to these kinds of things. I am like you, I want to help the other person, sometimes regardlless of what the cost is to me. But you also need to be able to look at that cost and decide if it is feasible. There is 'being nice' and then there is 'being a doormat'. Just don't be the latter.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Ha, we felt the same way with realtors. We're glad we went with the one we did, but we feel bad because one other person was really awesome and helpful when we met him at an open house.

We're not GOING to move the closing date up, but I just feel so bad about it. Because I'm lame.

Ok, I'm done whining about it! Thanks for validating me, guys.

number55 · February 2012

Chels, none of that is any of her business and you justifying anything makes it sound like it is. Cut her out of your lives now. Who you do/don't have have sex/not sex with is nobody's business and you should never be talking/explaining what you are doing with your FI/BF/SO.

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