My finace has recently decided that he wants to change his last name to that of his birth father's. His parents were teens when he was born, and his birth father died shortly after that. His mother gave him her last name. Years later, when FI was in highschool, his mother married and her husband adopted FI. Well, they are now going through a divorce, and some things have surfaced about FI's adoptive father and FI no longer wants to carry on adoptive father's name (a move I feel will tarnish FI's relationship with his adoptive father forever, but I'm being supportive, I'm not too fond of adoptive father in the first place). FI still has contact with birth father's family, I've met them and they're invited to the wedding. My question is, how do we inform everyone of the name change? His side of the family will understand the situation a little more as they've been there through the years of events, but I feel my family will be confused. Why is my new name "Doe" instead of "Smith"...they know FI as "John Smith," and FI is "John Smith" on our save the dates, etc. What's the best way of handling this?
