I could swear that I'd read something like this on this board before, but I've searched and can't find it.
I am building my wedding website and would like to put a note out for non-Catholics as we're having the full Catholic Mass. I was thinking of putting something like, "While they will not be able to participate in communion, we would appreciate all non-Catholics participating as fully in our wedding ceremony as possible." The majority of our families are Catholic, but we have a few family members and some friends that are not.
I know that most non-Catholics will realize that they can't take communion. However, I would really like everyone to "do the Catholic dance" - sit, stand, kneel, stand, sit, etc;
join in the Rite of Marriage responses, etc. In particular, I have some Lutheran cousins that just sat there looking pissed at my aunt's wedding that they had to even be in a Catholic church a couple of weekends ago.
Am I being too hard on people? I don't know - I just want everyone to join in our special ceremony with us, and I don't know how to approach the issue.