WTF!

**Mutley** · June 2010

On the off chance that any of the new people are actually real, I just cannot take it any more. Too many wacko newbs at once, even for NEY.

Maere (Is that like Mary? If so, your parents should have consulted another thread on here.)
So you put off being engaged due to distance, but already have a date? I don't quite understand.

In Response to Re: New Newbie! (kinda long...sorry!):
[QUOTE]hehehe, well I know that when i go back school this fall i'll be able to see him again. That's why we put off being engaged... cause of the distance and how long we'd be apart. T.T oh sad.
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

In Response to Re: TMI Question:
[QUOTE]aaaah, i thought about getting one of those.... I have really really really bad periods. but from the sounds of it I am kindof glad that i didn't!
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

So why are you thinking about getting an IUD? I doubt that the Mormon church would look too kindly on that.

In Response to Re: Private Ceremony... not sure how to handle it.:
[QUOTE]no, i don't think you sound like a zilla cause it is ultamitly what will make you and your husband happy... or make the moment special to you. I am kindof in the same situation. I am having one ceremony were it is just me and my guy.... no one else, because I am LDS and my parents can't get into the temple. (and his parents opted to stay outside with them). But I also am having a ring ceremony where my close family and friends will be invited as well... so they don't feel like I am saying "Screw you all!" type of thing... cause I know some of my relatives would freak out about it. =/ Nothing too lavish though, as I don't want to go in dept for a ring ceremony (seeing as the other is free). Good luck!
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

I could continue to pull your crazy posts, but what would be the point?

Ronetta, hey randomness.

isteph, let's have your first time be you last time. That would be wonderful. Then again, if you are not an AE, I would be very surprised. I think CC already handled you, yet you are still trolling around for more. You suck at it.

itsmydestiny, you are still getting major side-eye for moving your boyfriend in with you and your child when you have not experienced a non-LDR with him.

rubyannk, why are you contemplating marrying someone you don't think can be honest with you about his true feelings? Seems like a no-brainer. Neither of you are ready for marriage or to even be talking seriously about marriage. Enjoy your current relationship and leave marriage out of it for awhile. When you are BOTH ready to discuss it, then get to talk about the MARRIAGE and not the f-ing proposal/wedding.

Oh and Cate, please stop trying so hard. Your MUD last week was

.

noelle24 · June 2010

Thank you for expressing my feelings in such a nice NUTshell Mutley... I was skimming these but decided I have too much work tonight to deal with all the crazy.

Maere · June 2010

I think you would have to know me personally before judging me like this. Maere is a screen name anyways... and I have health issues I don't think you are in a place to judge me for.

And, it's the Catholic church that doesn't go for birth control.

Yes, we picked a date because we KNOW we are going to get engaged. We didn't want to start an engagement when I had to live 2 hours away from him for the summer months. I am in college.

Maere · June 2010

Plus I am not married yet, and I don't have sex.. so it's not like I am using birth control to avoid pregnancy..

zipis1 · June 2010

Maere, if you're LDS you may want to rethink the IUD. While the primary way the Mirena (hormone) works is through the hormones (essentially the same as the pill), both Mirena and ParaGard (copper, which works by creating a hostile environment for sperm to travel through) have a "back up" method of action wherein they prevent any fertilized ovum from implanting. Most LDSs would consider that abortion. If you're planning to get married and start having sex in the next five years, and agree that fertilized eggs are sacred life, the IUD is likely not for you (it's too big a commitment to just have taken out willy-nilly. You CAN, but it's a PITA both for the wallet and your body. I have one and love it to pieces [though I don't have sex. I just wanted my periods to go away], but the first six months sucked).

Maere · June 2010

Thanks, I WAS considering it is the point though. I used to get hospitilized for my cramps and bleeding... (sorry if tmi). I do appriciate that you would tell me that instead of attacking my religion though. I'm not planning to have children ANY time soon though. I'm gonna be in college for a while...

Narwhal · June 2010

What the eff do health issues have to with what Mutley said about you?

You can drop that card, you're not trumping anyone.

KD+BC · June 2010

Thanks for summing it all up. I'm not gonna lie, I'm ignoring intro posts. I can't keep them all straight anyway. I'll wait until they've been around a while before I try to figure out who they are.

tafft1 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:9b3f5c1f-46d0-43ad-897f-11efc71e5938">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for summing it all up. I'm not gonna lie, I'm ignoring intro posts. I can't keep them all straight anyway. I'll wait until they've been around a while before I try to figure out who they are.
Posted by KD+BC[/QUOTE]

Good plan ;)

ekathleen684 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:92f2b0df-19e1-4ea6-81b1-de0857760612">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]What the eff do health issues have to with what Mutley said about you?
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

My thought exactly!

oceana919 · June 2010

I am soooo lost...

::goes scrolling through old posts to find out what the F everyone is talking about::

hetshup · June 2010

Ocean, save yourself. Don't do it.

Maere-- If you come on here acting like nutjob don't be shocked if we call you on it. It's like me saying, hey I'm thinking about having a baby in a few years, let me paint the nursery RIGHT NOW. It's insanity.

PS- why does everyone come out at night? Is it a full moon?

isthsmydestny · June 2010

I can understand why some people might think that it would be a mistake to have my BF move in with me, having been in a LDR for the past year, but we've known each other for NINE YEARS. We've been friends since high school. And it's not like we've been LD and haven't seen each other at all within the past 12 months.

ETA: I never said that I have never experienced anything other than a LDR with my BF, just that we've been LD for the past 12 months. So, yeah...that's kind of an unfair assumption, don't you think?

I'm a little surprised by the snarky nastiness and the unnecessary judgments from the women on this board. This is not at all what I remember TK being like when I was a regular poster 5 years ago...

noelle24 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:ed1ea47c-9b8d-4dc7-a58e-c03ffa8b4d2a">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]I can understand why some people might think that it would be a mistake to have my BF move in with me, having been in a LDR for the past year, but we've known each other for NINE YEARS. We've been friends since high school. And it's not like we've been LD and haven't seen each other at all within the past 12 months. ETA: I never said that I have never experienced anything other than a LDR with my BF, just that we've been LD for the past 12 months. So, yeah...that's kind of an unfair assumption, don't you think? I'm a little surprised by the snarky nastiness and the unnecessary judgments from the women on this board. This is not at all what I remember TK being like when I was a regular poster 5 years ago...
Posted by isthsmydestny[/QUOTE]

You may have "known" each other for 9 years, but you've just been DATING for a year according to your intro post. And that year has been LDR. A friendship is very different from a relationship, as I'm sure you know.

I've been with my FI for 8 years, and known him for 9. There was no losing touch and "reconnecting" (in which case, you can't say that you've "known" someone for the missing years). Over half of that time has been LDR, and a part of me is concerned about how well we'll adjust to living together. I'm super excited, but I know it will be tough at times. Change always is. But hey, if it's rough, it only affects me and FI.

If I had a 3 year old kid to take care of, NO WAY would I take risk with her well-being. FI and I would be living in different apts in the same city for at least 6 months before I'd consider letting him move in and upset my child's idea of routine and normal.

JMO, but I do give it the side-eye. Everyone of course, needs to make the decision that they think is best. What does it really matter what people on a message board think?

oceana919 · June 2010

Oh dear god...can someone pass me some of midnite's migraine meds?

1) maere - People who throw around medical issues as a defense/guilt trip after getting called out/criticized piss me off. I could probably go toe-to-toe with you at the moment, sweetheart (ask any of the regs around here, they can vouch), so don't go there. If you can't take the heat, get out of the friggin kitchen.

2) isteph's post reminded me of when parents let their 13 year old get on Facebook for the first time and they have to update their status 20 times in a day and "like" every friggin group they come across, like "if you break our pinky promise, i'll break your pinky i swear" or "I lost my phone. Oh wait let me call it! CRAP, it\'s on vibrate! EVERYONE SHUTUP!!"

3) I second the side eye for moving yourself and your young child in with a guy that you've never had a non-LDR with.

4) rubyann sounds like the average nervous/OMG newb that we come across here. My best advice? Relax and enjoy this stage of your relationship. You will want to elope in no time, believe me.

5) hetsh - yes, they all come out at night. Kind of like werewolves. Or chupacabras.

noelle24 · June 2010

They do come out at night... and I'm running on zero sleep, so I'm less inclined to sugar-coat my opinion today.

isthsmydestny · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:a69ca9c3-df5b-4cc8-9897-b6011f5b16f3">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]3) I second the side eye for moving yourself and your young child in with a guy that you've never had a non-LDR with. Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]
Again, who said I've never had a non-LDR with him? I certainly didn't. "Reconnected last year" does not equate to "never experienced anything other than a LDR." But why am I bothering to defend myself against people who have already formed opinions? If anyone had bothered to ask, they would know that I already have one roommate, so all I'm doing is adding another adult to the mix.

**Mutley** · June 2010

Maere, I don't want to know you personally. I think you have me confused with someone who cares. Also, where did I attack your religion? I was talking about you and your crazy. I never said anything negative about the Mormon church in this post.

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:315a0887-6fcd-4ed3-9284-eb7fdca1e4c0">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]I think you would have to know me personally before judging me like this. Maere is a screen name anyways... and I have health issues I don't think you are in a place to judge me for. And, it's the Catholic church that doesn't go for birth control. Yes, we picked a date because we KNOW we are going to get engaged. We didn't want to start an engagement when I had to live 2 hours away from him for the summer months. I am in college.
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

What is that prevents a couple from being engaged while not living in the same zip code?

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:97aedea5-003d-47ac-8494-a8491bec7266">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]Plus I am not married yet, and I don't have sex.. so it's not like I am using birth control to avoid pregnancy..
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

If you are not using birth control to prevent pregnancy, then WHY would you be looking into getting a non-hormonal BC method?

isthsmydestiny,
I only have what YOU post to go off of. It is that simple. So yes, I will judge away. And to be clear, you reconnected with your BF LAST year and have been in an LDR for the past 12 months?

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_intro-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ee00719f-8ffc-45dd-96d0-ec62b5d628efPost:7e04233a-c692-4eb6-93f1-9eeddcf16c9d">Intro</a>:
[QUOTE] Anyway, my BF and I have been in a LDR for almost a year, now, and he's going to be moving to SE PA (where I live) at the end of this month.
Posted by isthsmydestny[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_intro-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ee00719f-8ffc-45dd-96d0-ec62b5d628efPost:a168b17b-33ef-4478-8cef-9fdf187e561c">Re: Intro</a>:
[QUOTE]To answer your questions, dwest: 1. We've known each other since high school. We reconnected last year, at my best friend's wedding, where he was a groomsman and I was the MOH. 2. He's moving here to live with us. I'm excited.
Posted by isthsmydestny[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:ed1ea47c-9b8d-4dc7-a58e-c03ffa8b4d2a">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]I can understand why some people might think that it would be a mistake to have my BF move in with me, having been in a LDR for the past year, but we've known each other for NINE YEARS. We've been friends since high school. And it's not like we've been LD and haven't seen each other at all within the past 12 months. ETA: I never said that I have never experienced anything other than a LDR with my BF, just that we've been LD for the past 12 months. So, yeah...that's kind of an unfair assumption, don't you think? <strong> I'm a little surprised by the snarky nastiness and the unnecessary judgments from the women on this board.</strong> This is not at all what I remember TK being like when I was a regular poster 5 years ago...
Posted by isthsmydestny[/QUOTE]

If you don't like it here, then go find another board. It is simple. There are lots of boards on TK. You do not have to post here.

P.S. Was isth<strong>I</strong>smydest<strong>I</strong>ny taken as an sn or do you just have an aversion to I's?

**Mutley** · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:236c41a5-1d42-48b8-b260-9de17945bf2f">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF! : Again, who said I've never had a non-LDR with him? I certainly didn't. "Reconnected last year" does not equate to "never experienced anything other than a LDR." But why am I bothering to defend myself against people who have already formed opinions? If anyone had bothered to ask, they would know that I already have one roommate, so all I'm doing is adding another adult to the mix.
Posted by isthsmydestny[/QUOTE]

So you were with him before? Please do explain how you have had a non-LDR with your boyfriend who has been LDR for the last 12 months and who you just reconnected with last year. If any part of this non-LDR was before the reconnection, it does not count. And if you were friends for sooo long, there wouldn't have been any 'reconnecting.' There is a big difference between knowing someone 9 years ago and having a friendship with someone for 9 years.

As to just adding another adult to the mix, now I am judging you even more. So adding your BOYFRIEND to a living situation with your daughter and another adult is no big deal? Serious WTF now. The more you type, the more I think you are an idiot. So please keep on typing and proving my assumptions correct.

oceana919 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:236c41a5-1d42-48b8-b260-9de17945bf2f">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF! : Again, who said I've never had a non-LDR with him? I certainly didn't. "Reconnected last year" does not equate to "never experienced anything other than a LDR." But why am I bothering to defend myself against people who have already formed opinions? If anyone had bothered to ask, they would know that I already have one roommate, so all I'm doing is adding another adult to the mix.
Posted by isthsmydestny[/QUOTE]

Mutley summed it up pretty well. We can only go off what you post. Unfortunately, my psychic abilities are on the fritz today.

catemeg · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:7785dc77-9086-4172-abb7-c20972b0e10b">WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE] Oh and Cate , please stop trying so hard. Your MUD last week was .
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

Seriously? WTF dude... so much I could say, but ya know? Just not worth it.

Kroliczku · June 2010

Way too much to read here and try to be piece together...but...I just wanted to say: I'm a good new newbie

(other then the fact I feel like Im posting WAY too much already. Feel free to tell me to STFU.)

And....I don't want to cause any trouble, really- but how can Moderators allow people to tear into new contributors like that? Everyone has their own opinion, obviously....but....bah. Maybe its just over my head.

PaigeMcC · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:0e732209-66e7-47db-ba67-cd11f3420e08">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]Way too much to read here and try to be piece together...but...I just wanted to say: I'm a good new newbie :) (other then the fact I feel like Im posting WAY too much already. Feel free to tell me to STFU.) And....I don't want to cause any trouble, really- but how can Moderators allow people to tear into new contributors like that? Everyone has their own opinion, obviously....but....bah. Maybe its just over my head.
Posted by Kroliczku[/QUOTE]

<div>Mods are really here to make sure that nothing gets out of hand. It's a public forum so people have a right to their opinions. As long as there's no inciting of hatred or anything along those lines, most mods will let people continue along. If Jeana really thought people were being cruel, un-necessarily mean or offensive she'd stop it. But really, honest or blunt opinions (sometimes with snark) are just part of the game around here. If you want to see nasty go play on Snarky Brides or E... dangerous places! *shiver*</div>

oceana919 · June 2010

Everyone is allow to have their own opinion. Even if it's a negative one.

The moderator is supposed to step in when a) the language gets abusive ::coughcough::destiny::coughcough::, b) a poster begins to get racist/homophobic or throws around things that could be construed as discriminatory, c) something they're posting can be construed as spam or soliciting, d) a poster posts things that could be considered dangerous, like another poster's facebook profile or email address, or e) they're uber trolling.

Nothing I've seen in this post can be construed as meeting any of the above-mentioned criteria.

As people have said, you have to have a thick skin to be on this board. People tell it like it is around here. I wouldn't have it any other way.

katanne9 · June 2010

Jeana is the board mod, not the board mom.

Kroliczku · June 2010

Oh man....ok. I might not be good at playing that game though. I appreciate when people tell me what they really think, But I guess I've never been into posting on forums. I have a feeling I'll learn fast....but I'm happy to at least have stayed off the radar for a full day

Anyway....have at it!

oceana919 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:df416d3f-19a8-4e4d-867d-17572ead8993">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]Jeana is the board mod, not the board mom.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

Wait......................she isn't? :(

PaigeMcC · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:dae07f0f-bf8e-42a2-82fc-b27b37a8dbd1">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh man....ok. I might not be good at playing that game though. I appreciate when people tell me what they really think, But I guess I've never been into posting on forums. I have a feeling I'll learn fast....but I'm happy to at least have stayed off the radar for a full day :) Anyway....have at it!
Posted by Kroliczku[/QUOTE]

<div>You seem normal....*side eye* stick around and play....I think I might end up liking you.</div>

katanne9 · June 2010

*Pssst, except for you Oceana.

oceana919 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wtf-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:8d0dfb11-de72-42e3-8c67-d83225e118baPost:9fae3784-5f3c-4adf-8565-d56b9347bea1">Re: WTF!</a>:
[QUOTE]*Pssst, except for you Oceana.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

Damn straight. I need a board mom now and again. Especially if she bakes cookies and tells bedtime stories.

(ps. my favorite is the Going to Bed book. That book ruled the school when I was a kid)

noelle24 · June 2010

1) If you have to be in the same zipcode to be engaged, I guess I should take off my ring now... but I agree that if you someone has years of college left, it's best to wait

2)isthsdestiny: This is not Three Men and a Baby. Living situations don't work out that well IRL with tons of unrelated roommates and kids in the house. I'm assuming unrelated, because otherwise you'd have no reason not to say "my mom" or "my sister".

WTF!

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