Anyone else's man work weekends?

Knittibell · July 2010

MrsKing- that's tough, but at least you know it won't be forever!!

The one good thing about not really seeing fi at all on weekends is, come monday, we got stuff to actually share when we're eating dinner.

Knittibell · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Oh, and Knitti, I also agree you are a really strong person. I couldn't imagine. A friend of mine recently lost her hubby, he was in the Army and in Iraq, and he was just 5 days away from coming home. It took me a week to even call her because I just didn't know what to say to her, and I knew nothing I said, anyone said, would make her feel better.Their 1 year wedding anniversary was last week and I still think about her and how she's doing daily.
Posted by FutureMrsFraser[/QUOTE]

That is horrible! She probably has a better network of widows to talk to, being in the military- the only "young widow" group I could find... well I was 28 and the next youngest was 57. Which is still young, but there's a difference. You can't really say anything to make her feel better, but drop her little cards/notes and let her know you are thinking of her. She may want to talk incessantly about him for a while, and it may pop up later than you think- when I suddenly couldn't remember exactly what my husband smelled like, things like that- I lost it. To this day I feel like I'm responsible for his memory, if that makes any sort of sense. If you think it would help at all, I'll send you my e-mail if she'd like to talk to someone who has been there. I also wrote a lot in a blog for a while, and reading that may help her a bit. I just remember feeling so very, very alone. No one could really understand what I went through. But don't worry about saying the right thing- just "I'm thinking of you" goes farther than you think.

ricksang · July 2010

Yes. Mine works Fridays and Sat.

brookelynpaisley · July 2010

Sort of. DH is on call every third weekend. He also tends to pick up side jobs (like today) to make extra money and get out. He can't handle being in the apartment all day

We usually do our couple stuff Saturday late afternoon/evening and then Sundays.

brookelynpaisley · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:5ce5dc0a-3ccd-4749-b640-0acdc397d75e">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone else's man work weekends? : That is horrible! She probably has a better network of widows to talk to, being in the military- the only "young widow" group I could find... well I was 28 and the next youngest was 57. Which is still young, but there's a difference. You can't really say anything to make her feel better, but drop her little cards/notes and let her know you are thinking of her. She may want to talk incessantly about him for a while, and it may pop up later than you think- <strong>when I suddenly couldn't remember exactly what my husband smelled like, things like that- I lost it.</strong> To this day I feel like I'm responsible for his memory, if that makes any sort of sense. If you think it would help at all, I'll send you my e-mail if she'd like to talk to someone who has been there. I also wrote a lot in a blog for a while, and reading that may help her a bit. I just remember feeling so very, very alone. No one could really understand what I went through. But don't worry about saying the right thing- just "I'm thinking of you" goes farther than you think.
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

Okay, THAT breaks my heart. I can't imagine. I'm so sorry for your loss, and yet happy for you that you've found love again.

Knittibell · July 2010

Yeah, typing that made me tear up, even after all this time. Five years later and I still miss my best friend, and I always will. We say "until death do us part"- but it's not like there's some magic switch that makes us stop loving someone, even when it hurts. The love I'll always carry for my late husband is both my burden and my joy and I would not have done anything differently, even knowing how things would end.

I'm SO lucky to have a fiance who totally gets it, and is comfortable with himself and confident in my love for him to be ok with all of my widow-crazy. I tell him it's a good thing he's a big guy, because my baggage includes the whole Louis Vuitton steamer trunk set.

Honestly though, it took me a really long time to be used to being alone, and then I went through this weird hermit stage where I would not leave the house and got a little agoraphobic, which is really unlike me. That's better now, for the most part. My fiance totally gets I need my alone time now and then so he knows not to feel guilty when he's working weekends, or at a poker game. But I do admit to missing him sometimes on the weekends- and also thinking it's really nice to 'miss' someone you really love now and then.

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

Nope, but I do!
The only real day off we have together is Sunday, and even sometimes that is not true. The worst is when he is working nights and I am on weekends. He is a civil engineer on a job project so often major thing like paving and concrete pouring have to happen at night.

Marrin713 · July 2010

Brand new H owns his own business so he works 7 days a week if necessary and 12 - 14 hrs a day. I'm in the medical field so my hours are all over the place as well. But we've been together for almost 7 years so it's nothing new to us. We just make do with the time we do have together. What little time we were going to have together this week end just got ki-boshed due to the storms that went through Chicago last night. Lots of rain and our town is flooded, as is T's office - 1 ft of water

Knittibell · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:cd909422-312a-496f-acb6-bcfaa2f58841">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]Brand new H owns his own business so he works 7 days a week if necessary and 12 - 14 hrs a day. I'm in the medical field so my hours are all over the place as well. But we've been together for almost 7 years so it's nothing new to us. We just make do with the time we do have together. What little time we were going to have together this week end just got ki-boshed due to the storms that went through Chicago last night. Lots of rain and our town is flooded, as is T's office - 1 ft of water :(
Posted by Marrin713[/QUOTE]

Oh, that sucks! We had horrible flooding in MA over the Spring. My FI also wants to start his own buisness, and I totally support it, although I know I won't see him much for a while if he does!

Marrin713 · July 2010

Yes Knitti - you don't own the business; the business owns YOU. He's available 24/7 to employees, clients, potential clients.

T's office is located across the street from a school/sports field that floods horribly, so all that lovely water has to go someplace and it's picked his building. A local politician also has his offices on the same floor. There's a car repair business at the end of the block and all the cars are under water as well as a couple of cars that stayed overnight in the commuter lot. It's fascinating in that hideous way that we see an accident and can't look away, but I know it's awful for a lot of people.

M&R7111 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:47a9a245-e34f-4904-bc9d-53c5ff5f0ebc">Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]My fi works incredibly long hours on the weekends. He teaches Motorcycle Safety and does racing clinics. It's a second job and one he does because he's so passionate about it, and loves it. But it means he's up at 5am on Sat/Sun, and not home until 8PM. I miss him on weekends!
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

He just started a job on the weekends :( It's so tough because I never get to see him anymore. I get home from work really late and have to wake up very early due to a long commute. So does he. So basically we see each other between the hours of 7:30 - 10:00pm every day. I'm hoping this changes soon.

Knittibell · July 2010

Marrin, this is what I'm thinking, as well. As long as it makes him happy, I'm ok with it.

M&R That's tough- hopefully the time you have is good! I'm all about quality, not quantity.

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