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Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?

Since we are all planning our weddings.. what are 1 or 2 things you hate to see at weddings??

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Re: Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?

  • Danes983Danes983 member
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    edited December 2011
    Mine is the garter/bouquet toss.  I hated to do this as a single person which is why we wont be having it at our wedding. 

    Ps: I was asked this at my interview with TLC yesterday.
  • edited December 2011
    1) garter/bouquet toss as well...I just think they're annoying...
    2) useless, dust collecting favors
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    Went to one recently where we literally sat around waiting between the salad and entree... a good 45 minutes-1hour wasted just sitting there insted of dancing. It sucked- main reasons I believe is that the dance floor was in another room, and most of the guests didn't dance even when the party was in full swing.
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  • jchristeljchristel member
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    edited December 2011
    Long gap of time between ceremony and reception
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    1.  Too many or just excessively long toasts
    2.  Too much time or too much distance between the ceremony and receptio
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  • oxox14oxox14 member
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    edited December 2011
    electric slide, macarana, chicken dance.........
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  • edited December 2011
    Snotty, whiney cry-y kids.

    NOTE: I love kids. I love well-behaved kids at weddings. But I was at a wedding recently where the kids were screaming, crying, rolling around on the floor, showing their underwear (at like 8-years-old) and basically running wild, a la Lord of the Flies.


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  • edited December 2011
    Bad music that only the bride and groom like and no one else has ever heard of and you most likely can't dance to.
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  • edited December 2011
    Bouquet and Garter toss-I agree with Danes--I hated doing it as a single person!!!
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    1-garter/bouquet toss
    2-bride wearing rubber flip flops

  • edited December 2011
    when people have a head table, especially if its raised off the floor on some sort of stage.
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    1. Long toasts especially where jokes are told that no one gets except possibly the bride and/or groom.
  • edited December 2011
    Long distance and/or time between ceremony and reception!
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    favors with bride and grooms name and wedding date on them.. what do i honestly need that for? im at the wedding i know what the date is!

  • edited December 2011
    As a guest:

    -Crappy cocktail hour - when the lines are long and it's basically a cheese and cracker spead with some veggies and dip.

    -Crappy music and bad DJ

    -Useless favors

    -Huge distances between ceremony and reception

    As the bride/groom:

    -The cost

    -Last minute cancellations

    -No shows

    -Crappy gifts


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  • edited December 2011
    I can't stand when they do the bride & groom dance, mother-son, father-daughter.. and cake cutting within the first 15 minutes of the reception back to back! 
  • jchristeljchristel member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_non-clicky-poll-biggest-wedding-pet-peeve?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:ab6c8c17-ce45-4752-984b-dd85e6cb45dfPost:b91fb985-98fa-4acb-9faf-9737000423e2">Re: Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can't stand when they do the bride & groom dance, mother-son, father-daughter.. and cake cutting within the first 15 minutes of the reception back to back! 
    Posted by misschristinec[/QUOTE]

    <div>I hear what you're saying, but as the bride and groom, it's kind of nice to get it all overwith in the beginning so you can attempt enjoy yourself.  One of the biggest surprises to us was that EVERY time, and I mean EVERY time we were about to relax at our reception, something happened, someone wanted to take a picture, a vendor had a question, one of the staff pulled us away to make sure we ate something, someone was leaving early and wanted to say goodbye, etc.  By the time we got through saying hello to everyone (about 200 people) it felt like it was over.  </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_non-clicky-poll-biggest-wedding-pet-peeve?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:ab6c8c17-ce45-4752-984b-dd85e6cb45dfPost:60375833-b194-4b56-9223-52369c5a27df">Re: Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?</a>:
    [QUOTE]As a guest: -Crappy cocktail hour - when the lines are long and it's basically a cheese and cracker spead with some veggies and dip.Posted by USER876[/QUOTE]
    Yes!!! I went to a wedding in the Poconos 2 years ago and the cocktail hour was this... and I get to the table and I'm like wtf... this is it?!?!?!?!
  • edited December 2011
    Long gaps between the ceremony and reception
    Long dragged out toasts
    Dust collector favors
    Only one type of music that's not even danceable

  • leah2bleah2b member
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    edited December 2011
    1.  useless favors
    2. personal vows written by the bride and groom.  I'm not against non-traditional vows at all, but simply when bride and groom write something for "each other".  It makes me feel very weird and umcomfortable, like I am watching something I shouldn't.  WHy do you need to share this very personal thing in front of all of your guests?

    3.  long toasts or too many toasts.

    4.  No bar!!!!
  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Long gaps between ceremony and reception

    When the bride and groom come to our table to say hi and thank you, but they have a handful of envelopes (because that makes it seem to me that they're "collecting admission" instead of thanking us).  And satin bags to collect envelopes (unless there's a cultural reason for that).

    Sunday night and Friday night weddings.  

    Ridiculously huge cocktail hours followed by mediocre meals.  I'd much rather have crackers and veggies followed by a good meal than have to gorge myself on cocktail food because the meal is going to be bad.  Over the top cocktail hours aren't my thing.
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    i hate when there is a long shuttle bus ride from the hotel to the reception.. last wedding i went to it was 45 minute shuttle ride, thats just ridiculous
  • NJgurl19NJgurl19 member
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    edited December 2011
    No Bar!!!! YES
    No dancing
    Head tables feels very sweet sixteen ish
    Whole Wedding party choreographed dances
    Stupid favors
    Cheap cocktail hours

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    no dancing
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    Garter Toss/Bouquet
    No Bar
    Limited food at a wedding where there are really expensive flower centerpieces (I guess we know where the bride and grooms priorities are)  
  • chrissy31805chrissy31805 member
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    edited December 2011

    bad cocktail hour and bad music.

  • NJgurl19NJgurl19 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_non-clicky-poll-biggest-wedding-pet-peeve?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:ab6c8c17-ce45-4752-984b-dd85e6cb45dfPost:56d64811-2938-4b1c-8c47-458a1c005334">Re: Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Long gaps between ceremony and reception When the bride and groom come to our table to say hi and thank you, but they have a handful of envelopes (because that makes it seem to me that they're "collecting admission" instead of thanking us).  And satin bags to collect envelopes (unless there's a cultural reason for that). Sunday night and Friday night weddings.   Ridiculously huge cocktail hours followed by mediocre meals.  I'd much rather have crackers and veggies followed by a good meal than have to gorge myself on cocktail food because the meal is going to be bad.  Over the top cocktail hours aren't my thing.
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    Friday nights and Sunday night weddings are a pet peeve od yours?
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  • edited December 2011
    By "long gaps," how long is too long? And I'm pretty sure some people complaining about them had "long gaps" themselves (but it didn't seem that way since time flies when you're having pictures taken).

    Sometimes, there's no way around it if you want a Catholic wedding on a Saturday, when the latest it can start is 2 p.m. (because of evening services), and the earliest the reception can start is 6 p.m.

    But if it's a non-religious wedding in a park or on the beach in the early afternoon, but the party isn't until dinnertime, then yeah. Please don't do that.

    These are my two big peeves, which there are no excuses for having:

    1. The slideshow/photo montage of the couple that guests are forced to sit through for at least 10 minutes.

    2. Wedding photographers who choreograph or manipulate moments. For instance, before the bride tosses the bouquet, she's positioned in a way that provides optimum lighting for the photographer. But the flowers end up landing far from the crowd. Not that "all the single ladies" (gag) care, since most of them were forced out there by the bride. (Oh look, I brought up another peeve!)




  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_non-clicky-poll-biggest-wedding-pet-peeve?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:ab6c8c17-ce45-4752-984b-dd85e6cb45dfPost:e071e0cf-418e-4995-bdd3-2c9cf2e32840">Re: Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Non Clicky Poll: What is your biggest wedding pet peeve? : Friday nights and Sunday night weddings are a pet peeve od yours?
    Posted by NJgurl19[/QUOTE]

    Yes.  Friday night because it is hard to get out of work and I'd normally have to take a half day, and Sunday nights because of work the next day.

    Butterknives, to me anything that is an hour plus more than the time it takes to get from the ceremony to the reception is a long, annoying gap to me.  I understand it is sometimes unavoidable, but that doesn't mean it isn't annoying to be all dressed up with no place to go!
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  • edited December 2011
    no bar, weird/long toasts, and loud music you cant dance too/no one likes, DJs that stop a song midway to make silly announcements...think thats about it. But if there is a bar, all the other stuff stops bothering me haha
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