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Wedding Etiquette Forum
mica178
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Rehearsal dinner lameness
My priest said he can only do our rehearsal at 7pm. We're getting married on a Sunday, and the priest will be busy with Saturday afternoon mass and other obligations for most of Saturday. Originally, I thought "that's okay, we'll have a nice, grown up 8:30pm rehearsal dinner." But then I remembered that over half (more like 2/3) of the OOT guests invited to the RD are from EST (we're PST), so that'd be asking them to wait until 11:30pm to eat.
Here's the other thing. My FMIL only wants to invite 70 people max to the RD. Just WP and OOT family is 60, and we probably have 120 OOT guests total, so about 50 of my FI's and my friends traveling in would not be invited to my FMIL's RD. Yes, FMIL/FFIL are paying for the RD.
Here's the other thing. My FMIL only wants to invite 70 people max to the RD. Just WP and OOT family is 60, and we probably have 120 OOT guests total, so about 50 of my FI's and my friends traveling in would not be invited to my FMIL's RD. Yes, FMIL/FFIL are paying for the RD.
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Re: Rehearsal dinner lameness
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My FI and I just moved to the area, so most of our friends are OOT. Only my family and my parents' friends are local. I just feel that if so many people are flying across the country or from out of country for this wedding, they should be invited to the RD, but I agree that 120 guests for an RD is excessive and like a second wedding.
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[QUOTE]My priest said it'll take about an hour. I'm saying 8:30 for the RD to allow the hosts to drive from the church to the restaurant. Even if we could move it to 8:15, I'm guessing people wouldn't get fed until closer to 9, which might be too late for FI's grandmother and other older relatives.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
it'd be too late for me and I'm only 26. I'm ready to slap someone if I don't have dinner by 7.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal dinner lameness : it'd be too late for me and I'm only 26. I'm ready to slap someone if I don't have dinner by 7.
Posted by pooh8402[/QUOTE]
Hahahahaha. Me too.
Our RD consisted of the wedding party, my parents, his mother, and 2 of his aunts/uncles. Sil paid for it.
I had many oot people who were in town who were not invited, and they were fine with that.
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I say have a dinner before hand, then those ppl can drive together and they will be there on time, then the after party, FI and I are planningon have the WO and preists for RD, FI mom is paying for RD and all of our guest are OOT, so we are going to have a party afterwards at the hotel or something and meet up with our OOT guest
Why does the priest need to be at the rehearsal? Our rabbi will not be at our rehearsal, just the synagogue's event coordinator.
See if you can do the rehearsal without the priest, if not, see if you can do it Friday afternoon, and just have a "welcome dinner" for the WP and OOTers. That's what we're doing and I think its going to work out fine.
Friday would be an option for the church, but that would require us asking our OOT WP members (all but three of the 12) to fly out a day earlier, and we're trying to minimize that kind of inconvenience.