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April 2013 Weddings
vk2204
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Addressing Invitations
I received an STD in the mail last week. It was sent to my parents house, addressed to FI lastname and VK last name. I didn't think anything of it because FI and I have been together for so long that I didn't find it odd his name was first.
Well another friend received her STD to her parents house addressed BF and FRIEND. They've barely been dating 6 months and she found it odd that it was labeled with his name first - especially because her BF is only invited as her guest.
She asked me if that was correct and honestly, I am not sure how that works. Is the guys name ALWAYS first no matter what? If I am inviting my girlfriend and she has a SO when invitations go out, who gets listed first on the envelope? And does it matter if they live together or not? TIA
Well another friend received her STD to her parents house addressed BF and FRIEND. They've barely been dating 6 months and she found it odd that it was labeled with his name first - especially because her BF is only invited as her guest.
She asked me if that was correct and honestly, I am not sure how that works. Is the guys name ALWAYS first no matter what? If I am inviting my girlfriend and she has a SO when invitations go out, who gets listed first on the envelope? And does it matter if they live together or not? TIA
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Re: Addressing Invitations
Oh, Here is another question. I asked M to be a bm, she is one of my very best friends. She started dating A a few months ago. They were both on our list separately when we made a rough draft, but since they are dating who should it get sent to?
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[QUOTE]Vk-I think technically for M and A, they're supposed to get their own invitations if they live separately. That being said, I did not do that for my friends in similiar situations because I wanted to save time, money and materials and I knew the people receiving the STD or invite would think I was crazy for sending two, anyway. I just sent it to the person I was closest to, listed their name first and then the other person's name.
Posted by lch0708[/QUOTE]
M told me just to send one to A, because she was in the wedding and would know what was going on. But I am inviting M's parents as well, so I will just send her one too lol
Thank you!
If both parties in the couple are friends that you would invite seperately (and you are not trying to save time/cost/ect) you can send individual invites (there are one or two on our list that I am doing that with).
I don't know what the actual etiqutte is, but that makes sense to me.
[QUOTE]To me it makes sense for couples that are not living together whoever's address you are sending it to goes first on the invitation. For example if your friend has a boyfriend that she has been with for several months and you know he is going to be her date, you would <strong>send it to her address with her name & his name. To me that implies that her boyfriend is coming as her guest (you know, in case something blows up in the relationship). Plus to me it is very weird to get mail that is addressed to someone who doesn't live at the address and listing the SO name first implies that. If both parties in the couple are friends that you would invite seperately (and you are not trying to save time/cost/ect) you can send individual invites (there are one or two on our list that I am doing that with).</strong> I don't know what the actual etiqutte is, but that makes sense to me.
Posted by gooseberry234[/QUOTE]
This is how we're doing ours, and it makes the most sense to me as well. It just doesn't make sense to me to address it to my friend's date if I don't even know him and he's just my guest's guest, you know what I mean?
I will just continue to do it as I had planned!!