In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7043b43a-ec7e-4e2c-9ce1-a96c3c35cd0bPost:5092237a-487c-42b5-8d50-efb77c08a885">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>: [QUOTE]As I have mentioned before, I am obsessed with England, specifically the royals, specifically Kate Middleton. I told my mother and sister that I wanted to wear a fascinator to my bridal shower, since when else can you really wear one? What I meant by a fascinator was a pretty white headband with a fluffy white flower on it. My mother surprised me the other day by giving me a fasicinator, except its really more of a birdcage veil. It's not cute, it has these weird ribbon things, and I do not want to wear it. I asked a couple questions about it, sort of hinting that I didn't like it, and my mother got defensive. I feel like if I bought something for someone and they didn't like it, I'd feel really bad, not try to force them to wear it. Also, my mother hasn't bought me clothing/accessories in years because I never EVER like what she picks out for me, we've discussed it before, I'm not sure why she thought this would be different. My first shower is Sunday, its the one my FMIL is throwing me in FI's hometown. I'm not sure if my mother is planning on bringing her fascinator over before we leave for the shower, but I need to figure out a way to not wear it. I really just can't. It's humiliating and people will most definitely be like "WTF?!" I haven't flat out told my mother that I hate it yet because she was so excited to give it to me and she's been really defensive about everything lately, but I really don't know what to do. I hope this doesn't come off sounding like I'm a selfish brat, I'm really not, but its Therapy Thursday and I needed to get it out! Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]
Is your mom going to be at this shower? If she's not, wear it just long enough for someone to take some pictures to show your mom, then put the one you love on!
I'm so ready for school to be over, yet I don't want it to be! Our teacher is retiring so I'm dreading next year. She's a great principal and loves me so I'm afraid of what we are getting. We'll have new superintendent (just started in Dec. and a new principal. Anyone who knows me knows that I don't like change.
Every morning though I look around and think about how much stuff I have to do around the house before FI moves in and how much wedding stuff I still need to do. We've only got 11 days so I don't want to take any days off. I'll be teaching summer school in June right up to the day before the wedding, but I plan to finish nearly everything before then. The biggest things right now are the table numbers, escort cards, programs. I just want to get it all done so I can relax!
I finally caved today; we made the decision that I'm going down to part time at work for the foreseeable future to finish up the last few credits on my degree.
On Monday I failed my licensure test so I really need to buckle down and I had to accept that I can't work full time, go to school and get my licensure at the same time. It's going to take some time to train someone to take one of my responsibilities so I can drop down to 32 hours per week, but the deadline they have is July 2nd.
I don't know why this bothers me so much but I feel like a big fat failure. I've always tried so hard to be independent but it's just not working out...
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7043b43a-ec7e-4e2c-9ce1-a96c3c35cd0bPost:5e6517ee-3631-4544-8399-a4b94587c31b">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>: [QUOTE]I finally caved today; we made the decision that I'm going down to part time at work for the foreseeable future to finish up the last few credits on my degree. On Monday I failed my licensure test so I really need to buckle down and I had to accept that I can't work full time, go to school and get my licensure at the same time. It's going to take some time to train someone to take one of my responsibilities so I can drop down to 32 hours per week, but the deadline they have is July 2nd. I don't know why this bothers me so much but I feel like a big fat failure. I've always tried so hard to be independent but it's just not working out... Posted by melntaitt[/QUOTE]
Sorry to hear that, Mel. You're not a failure. Doing the work and school and tests thing is hard, I've been there, done that. You'll pass the next time, I just know it!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7043b43a-ec7e-4e2c-9ce1-a96c3c35cd0bPost:7abc3123-613a-4051-bea6-a77991a0ff85">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>: [QUOTE]Daria why couldn't you register for the formal flatware you wanted? Or is the tradition part that FMIL picks out the flatware for you? Posted by HilareyL[/QUOTE]
<div>Because we didn't want flatware! We have an every day set, we will never use a set of formal flatware, and FI tried for YEARS to tell his parents we didn't want or need one. And this has resulted in a flowered Kate Spade pattern. </div>
I think I'm going to cry, right here at my desk at work. I just got an email from our caterer with the final contract and invoice, and there are a LOT of mistakes. No big deal, they can be fixed. Well the part that has me close to tears is the invoice. When we first started planning we estimated 150 guests, which has grown to 190, and our catering is now almost $4,000 over budget .
I really don't know what we are going to do. We have the money we budgeted for the wedding saved with a little bit of wiggle room, but we do not have anywhere near $4,000 extra, and I don't know how we can come up with it in less than a month. I really hope a lot of people can't come (and that they would send their damn RSVP's back letting me know that they can't!)!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_therapy-thursday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:7043b43a-ec7e-4e2c-9ce1-a96c3c35cd0bPost:44e50674-2f0b-4ea9-a62d-eb8faa7eece5">Re: Therapy Thursday</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : Sorry to hear that, Mel. You're not a failure. Doing the work and school and tests thing is hard, I've been there, done that. You'll pass the next time, I just know it! Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the vote of confidence hon....you don't know how much I needed that...
My sister (who drives me nuts!) stopped by today. She brought FI and I birthday presents that she picked off the gift registry. Very nice of her, yes. Then she tells me that since our brothers (both older than me) won't go buy us wedding presents she'll pick something out and have them pay her back. Backstory: I don't expect anything from either of my brothers. They don't give Christmas presents or birthday presents....they are barely making ends meet for necessities. I'd rather not get a gift than to know that she picked it out, put their names on them and then hit them up to pay her back. Seriously?
Re: Therapy Thursday
[QUOTE]As I have mentioned before, I am obsessed with England, specifically the royals, specifically Kate Middleton. I told my mother and sister that I wanted to wear a fascinator to my bridal shower, since when else can you really wear one? What I meant by a fascinator was a pretty white headband with a fluffy white flower on it. My mother surprised me the other day by giving me a fasicinator, except its really more of a birdcage veil. It's not cute, it has these weird ribbon things, and I do not want to wear it. I asked a couple questions about it, sort of hinting that I didn't like it, and my mother got defensive. I feel like if I bought something for someone and they didn't like it, I'd feel really bad, not try to force them to wear it. Also, my mother hasn't bought me clothing/accessories in years because I never EVER like what she picks out for me, we've discussed it before, I'm not sure why she thought this would be different. My first shower is Sunday, its the one my FMIL is throwing me in FI's hometown. I'm not sure if my mother is planning on bringing her fascinator over before we leave for the shower, but I need to figure out a way to not wear it. I really just can't. It's humiliating and people will most definitely be like "WTF?!" I haven't flat out told my mother that I hate it yet because she was so excited to give it to me and she's been really defensive about everything lately, but I really don't know what to do. I hope this doesn't come off sounding like I'm a selfish brat, I'm really not, but its Therapy Thursday and I needed to get it out!
Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]
Is your mom going to be at this shower? If she's not, wear it just long enough for someone to take some pictures to show your mom, then put the one you love on!
I'm so ready for school to be over, yet I don't want it to be! Our teacher is retiring so I'm dreading next year. She's a great principal and loves me so I'm afraid of what we are getting. We'll have new superintendent (just started in Dec. and a new principal. Anyone who knows me knows that I don't like change.
Every morning though I look around and think about how much stuff I have to do around the house before FI moves in and how much wedding stuff I still need to do. We've only got 11 days so I don't want to take any days off. I'll be teaching summer school in June right up to the day before the wedding, but I plan to finish nearly everything before then. The biggest things right now are the table numbers, escort cards, programs. I just want to get it all done so I can relax!
On Monday I failed my licensure test so I really need to buckle down and I had to accept that I can't work full time, go to school and get my licensure at the same time. It's going to take some time to train someone to take one of my responsibilities so I can drop down to 32 hours per week, but the deadline they have is July 2nd.
I don't know why this bothers me so much but I feel like a big fat failure. I've always tried so hard to be independent but it's just not working out...
[QUOTE]I finally caved today; we made the decision that I'm going down to part time at work for the foreseeable future to finish up the last few credits on my degree. On Monday I failed my licensure test so I really need to buckle down and I had to accept that I can't work full time, go to school and get my licensure at the same time. It's going to take some time to train someone to take one of my responsibilities so I can drop down to 32 hours per week, but the deadline they have is July 2nd. I don't know why this bothers me so much but I feel like a big fat failure. I've always tried so hard to be independent but it's just not working out...
Posted by melntaitt[/QUOTE]
Sorry to hear that, Mel. You're not a failure. Doing the work and school and tests thing is hard, I've been there, done that. You'll pass the next time, I just know it!
[QUOTE]Daria why couldn't you register for the formal flatware you wanted? Or is the tradition part that FMIL picks out the flatware for you?
Posted by HilareyL[/QUOTE]
<div>Because we didn't want flatware! We have an every day set, we will never use a set of formal flatware, and FI tried for YEARS to tell his parents we didn't want or need one. And this has resulted in a flowered Kate Spade pattern. </div>
I really don't know what we are going to do. We have the money we budgeted for the wedding saved with a little bit of wiggle room, but we do not have anywhere near $4,000 extra, and I don't know how we can come up with it in less than a month. I really hope a lot of people can't come (and that they would send their damn RSVP's back letting me know that they can't!)!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : Sorry to hear that, Mel. You're not a failure. Doing the work and school and tests thing is hard, I've been there, done that. You'll pass the next time, I just know it!
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the vote of confidence hon....you don't know how much I needed that...
My sister (who drives me nuts!) stopped by today. She brought FI and I birthday presents that she picked off the gift registry. Very nice of her, yes. Then she tells me that since our brothers (both older than me) won't go buy us wedding presents she'll pick something out and have them pay her back. Backstory: I don't expect anything from either of my brothers. They don't give Christmas presents or birthday presents....they are barely making ends meet for necessities. I'd rather not get a gift than to know that she picked it out, put their names on them and then hit them up to pay her back. Seriously?