I am getting married in April 2012.
I have a little dilema.
I originally asked my best friend if she would like to be my maid of honor. She responded that they are trying to get pregnant and are hoping to be 7 months pregnant by then, so they will try there best to be there but if they fall pregnant then they obviously cannot make it due to the fact they live overseas and unable to fly.
The i thought and asked my 2 x sister in laws if they would like to be my bridesmaids, they said YES. Now the one sister in law has fallen pregnant and is due the day before my wedding. She said she will probably not make it to the wedding but will do all the bridesmaids duties before the wedding. I am very happy for her but what if my best friend also falls pregnant within the next 2 months - then i am stuck with only 1 bridesmaid?

My fiance has 2 best man so won't it be uneven? Is it right then to ask someone else to step in as a bridesmaid or what do you suggest?
Re: Only left with one bridesmaid :(
[QUOTE]I am getting married in April 2012. I have a little dilema. I originally asked my best friend if she would like to be my maid of honor. She responded that they are trying to get pregnant and are hoping to be 7 months pregnant by then, so they will try there best to be there but if they fall pregnant then they obviously cannot make it due to the fact they live overseas and unable to fly. <div>
</div><div><strong>Realistically, it can take people months or even years to get pregnant. She would have to basically be pregnant right now but not far enough along for the positive test yet to be that far along in April. And people can fly at 7 months pg. My SIL did it. Not overseas, but still. Either she's a bit clueless about pregnancy or she's making excuses because she doesn't want to or can't afford to travel.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>The i thought and asked my 2 x sister in laws if they would like to be my bridesmaids, they said YES. Now the one sister in law has fallen pregnant and is due the day before my wedding. She said she will probably not make it to the wedding but will do all the bridesmaids duties before the wedding. I am very happy for her but what if my best friend also falls pregnant within the next 2 months - then i am stuck with only 1 bridesmaid? :( My fiance has 2 best man so won't it be uneven? Is it right then to ask someone else to step in as a bridesmaid or what do you suggest?
Posted by cherisedb[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Don't replace bridesmaids. It hurts feelings. Uneven sides are not the end of the world. The wedding police won't show up to call off your wedding. Be happy for your SIL (and your friend if she does get pregnant). Babies trump weddings.
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Actually, flying at 7 months is somewhat frowned upon depending on the pregnancy and the doctor. My sister's bridesmaid flew from California to PA at 7 months. Her doctor was very hesitant to agree. It all worked out fine, but yeah - I can totally see living in another country, knowing it's a long flight, having a doctor who isn't totally sold on the idea, being pregnant with your first and saying "Yeah, no."
Otherwise, OP - I know it's hard! Uneven sides don't matter so don't worry about that. All I can say is that - life happens! If you only have one then you only have one on that day. Once you walk down the aisle, it won't matter how many people are standing next to you. Promise :-)
[QUOTE]I am getting married in April 2012. I have a little dilema. I originally asked my best friend if she would like to be my maid of honor. She responded that they are trying to get pregnant and are hoping to be 7 months pregnant by then, so they will try there best to be there but if they fall pregnant then they obviously cannot make it due to the fact they live overseas and unable to fly. The i thought and asked my 2 x sister in laws if they would like to be my bridesmaids, they said YES. Now the one sister in law has fallen pregnant and is due the day before my wedding. She said she will probably not make it to the wedding but will do all the bridesmaids duties before the wedding. I am very happy for her but what if my best friend also falls pregnant within the next 2 months - <strong>then i am stuck with only 1 bridesmaid? :( My fiance has 2 best man so won't it be uneven</strong>? Is it right then to ask someone else to step in as a bridesmaid or what do you suggest?
Posted by cherisedb[/QUOTE]
Yes, two people and one person is uneven. But it doesn't matter. Your wedding will still be legal. Uneven wedding parties are perfectly acceptable.
Only ask who you know will be there for you. Do NOT ask people just to make sides even because you will run into trouble...so many posts on this board are from jumping the gun on asking and then regret from asking the wrong people.
I know its disappointing if some of your best friends wont be there because they are pregnant...but as long as your groom is there you wont even notice! good luck
A wedding party is not a sactioned sporting event. Think of it like this: there is not a minimum number of bridesmaids or groomsmen required at the alter for the wedding to take place. With that being said, you do not need replacements!!
[QUOTE]<strong>People can fall ill or fall over and stock markets and government can fall. Women do not fall pregnant! Be careful with your wording please! </strong>A wedding party is not a sactioned sporting event. Think of it like this: there is not a minimum number of bridesmaids or groomsmen required at the alter for the wedding to take place. With that being said, you do not need replacements!!
Posted by Karenofcourse[/QUOTE]
I agree that it sounds wrong to say 'fall pregnant', <em>however</em>, in the UK (and maybe elsewhere, I don't know), this is what a lot of people say. I have lived in England for the past three years (grad school) and that is just mostly what people say here, that women 'fall pregnant', not 'get/become pregnant'. Yeah, it's kind of odd, but for some dialects of the English language it's the norm.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Only left with one bridesmaid :( : I agree that it sounds wrong to say 'fall pregnant', however , in the UK (and maybe elsewhere, I don't know), this is what a lot of people say. I have lived in England for the past three years (grad school) and that is just mostly what people say here, that women 'fall pregnant', not 'get/become pregnant'. Yeah, it's kind of odd, but for some dialects of the English language it's the norm.
Posted by sweetbird[/QUOTE]
Thanks, sweetbird! I learned something new today!! :)
I guess my thinking is that I would rather be asked second teir then not at all! I was honored she thought of me! And I had a blast.
I think if your honest with a friend about the situation it could be OK.
Good Luck!