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Snarky Brides
MrsParker6411
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Too many B*&%@*S!
OK so i'm just noticing a recurring pattern on these boards. and that's other brides being total bitches to girls who post. Seriously ladies. everyone is acting like were in the high school cafeteria.
It really sucks too when the Bride who posts has a real question or a real problem and she just gets jabs from all angles. not advice but putdowns, and attitudes, and flatout bitchiness.
It really makes the boards unenjoyable when all the comments are slams at the bride, or even eacother. I've seen that too. WTF! I think more damage is done on these things than good.
I may be a little biased because I had a situation like it too. I had a question and needed advice and no one helped, just made me feel bad about myself. I tried to respond as nice as i could to all the low blows but the bitches just kept coming. Then I lost it and went total bitch myself. But I have just had enough.
Stop being assheads and be supportive fellow brides.
It really sucks too when the Bride who posts has a real question or a real problem and she just gets jabs from all angles. not advice but putdowns, and attitudes, and flatout bitchiness.
It really makes the boards unenjoyable when all the comments are slams at the bride, or even eacother. I've seen that too. WTF! I think more damage is done on these things than good.
I may be a little biased because I had a situation like it too. I had a question and needed advice and no one helped, just made me feel bad about myself. I tried to respond as nice as i could to all the low blows but the bitches just kept coming. Then I lost it and went total bitch myself. But I have just had enough.
Stop being assheads and be supportive fellow brides.
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Re: Too many B*&%@*S!
[QUOTE]OK so i'm just noticing a recurring pattern on these boards. and that's other brides being total bitches to girls who post. Seriously ladies. everyone is acting like were in the high school cafeteria. It really sucks too when the Bride who posts has a real question or a real problem and she just gets jabs from all angles. not advice but putdowns, and attitudes, and flatout bitchiness. It really makes the boards unenjoyable when all the comments are slams at the bride, or even eacother. I've seen that too. WTF! I think more damage is done on these things than good. I may be a little biased because I had a situation like it too. I had a question and needed advice and no one helped, just made me feel bad about myself. I tried to respond as nice as i could to all the low blows but the bitches just kept coming. Then I lost it and went total bitch myself. But I have just had enough. Stop being assheads and be supportive fellow brides.
Posted by MrsParker6411[/QUOTE]
Really though? Because it seems to be the only girls complaining about the responses they get, are the whiny brats who do not get the validation they are looking for about their ridiculous ideas.
This was the wrong board to post this on. Good luck with that.
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edit: was this your thread about have a ceremony that you're only inviting 20 people to 2 hours away from the reception, which will have 200 guests? if so, no one was out right mean or rude to you, they just pointed out how rude YOU were being to you guests and the people you expect to drive for four hours in a single day for a 20 minute ceremony so you can have your lake side (note not mud puddle) ceremony.
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Yes, OP, now that you've come and told us what's what, we're all going to change and start validating the crap out of every girl that comes here crying that her "spashul day" is being ruined because her MOH didn't really feel like helping her decide between "pool" and "teal" colored napkins. Everybody is going to be spouting puppies and rainbows from now on because you came and showed us the error of our ways.
Well, except for me. But I'm more than willing to start validating people when they start having ideas worth validating.
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[QUOTE]But I'm more than willing to start validating people when they start having ideas worth validating.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
This. I have been flamed before too. Guess what? I may not have liked the responses, but they were what I needed to hear. These ladies give honest advice. It may be blunt, but they don't know you and don't owe you validation for a dumb idea. They didn't owe it to me either, and I understood that.
Too many girls come on here expecting a pity party because no one will let them be a bridezilla and let them have their "oh-so-special" princess day. While some responses may be a little meaner than others, who cares? They can write whatever they want to. Usually the meaner the response, the dumber the post anyway.
On this board, I expect it, welcome it and love it. It really irritates me on other boards. If someone genuinely has no idea about something, it's nice to have an explanation instead of "you're effin' stupid". Not everyone is a nuanced and studied etiquette marm; HELP instead of chiding sometimes. If they're a bratty bridezilla, okay, set them straight. If they're lost and really seeking help, give them direction.
That being said, OP, you should already know what you're going to get if you're going to post something iffy on the Snarky board (and you hit the iffy jackpot bitching about bitchiness on this board. Of all boards, you chose this one. Not your best move). Straight, unfiltered, harsh honesty. And as some PPs said, they needed it. It definitely serves a purpose.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]I agree that it is foolish to have posted this thread here of all places. OP, maybe you should post this on the Etiquette board if you're that concerned about people being polite.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
Excellent suggestion. I'm sure the women of Etiquette would agree wholeheartedly with OP that people should be more polite.
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In case anyone else is interested in reading the "bitchfest" where OP got mad that no one wanted to drive 4 hours to and from her ceremony to get to the reception (and then decided to only invite 20 of 200 to the ceremony): http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-lansing_ceremony-stressin
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
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I hope you mature and get some perspective soon, or you're going to have a very hard life.
[QUOTE]In case anyone else is interested in reading the "bitchfest" where OP got mad that no one wanted to drive 4 hours to and from her ceremony to get to the reception (and then decided to only invite 20 of 200 to the ceremony): <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-lansing_ceremony-stressin" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-lansing_ceremony-stressin</a>
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
Wait, THAT'S what this is about? Really? Like... that's it, OP? They didn't agree with you; that prompted THIS? Seriously?
Wow. I thought she had a legit "they jumped on me and I didn't deserve it". Nope.
Thanks for posting this, beatles. Good lord.
Someone posts this exact same message in a different way every week complaining about how mean everyone is. It's getting annoying, especially considering this is the snarky brides board. No one makes you post your questions here... if you can't handle the heat, get out of the kitchen!!
[QUOTE]MRSPARKER I agree with you. I just want everyone to be happy and I hate when girls are mean because they may not understand how someone else is feeling.
Posted by lilcassers[/QUOTE]
Oh, get off your high horse lilcasser. Your M.O. is to run into threads at the end and say "OP I AGREE WITH YOU!!! All these girls are bitches!!!" I've seen it 3 different times today and I'm not even trying to keep track of you. You are not going to save The Knot from people being snarky, and you're not helping the OP if you're just validating bad choices they shouldn't be making.
Andplusalso, if you don't even know what a crinoline is or that any poster can report something, chances are you don't know any better than anyone else here, so stop acting like it.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
1) What the ef are you expecting posting on "Snarky brides"?!
2) If you post looking for advice, be prepared to take it. People aren't sitting around here, waiting to validate your dumb ideas. They're going to give you advice, like you asked for. Duh.
3) I read your post about your 2 hour away ceremony site. The strange thing is, NO ONE WAS BITCHY! I don't know how sheltered you are, but someone giving their opinion is not being bitchy. it's giving advice, which is exactly what you posted for in the first place.
So....yeah.
What a dumb reason to start a thread. OP, get over yourself.
[QUOTE]I'm gonna play devil's advocate for a minute here (and get flamed, such is life), but let's not kid ourselves and pretend the snark stays here. There are some people who seemingly cannot, in any circumstance, answer a question without being rude about it, no matter how innocuous the question and nor what board it's on. The query could be where are you going on your honeymoon, what should I do about this relatively minor WP issue, taffeta or silk, church or outdoor wedding and someone will manage to find something rude to say. On this board, I expect it, welcome it and love it. <strong> It really irritates me on other boards.</strong> <strong>If someone genuinely has no idea about something, it's nice to have an explanation instead of "you're effin' stupid". Not everyone is a nuanced and studied etiquette marm; HELP instead of chiding sometimes. If they're a bratty bridezilla, okay, set them straight. If they're lost and really seeking help, give them direction.</strong> That being said, OP, you should already know what you're going to get if you're going to post something iffy on the Snarky board (and you hit the iffy jackpot bitching about bitchiness on this board. Of all boards, you chose this one. Not your best move). Straight, unfiltered, harsh honesty. And as some PPs said, they needed it. It definitely serves a purpose.
Posted by drileybubeck[/QUOTE]
Most of the people I know on here are way more creative and hilarious in their responses than "you are effin; stupid." This makes me believe you don't spend much time on other boards. If anything, we often flame people who do nothing but throw party lines or are over agressive to newbs. Furthurmore, the first few posts in response to a vague OP are almost ALWAYS asking for clarification. I would spend some more time around here before shooting your mouth off.
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