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January 2012 Weddings
hippolover
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Anyone feel like they don't fit in
Around here? I tried Married Life and my state board on TN and still I don't feel super included like I do here. But I feel like this board is dying. 
I don't wanna find a new group of internet friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!
On a side not: J has decided to take that job. Its either in TX or NM (Both 11 hrs from me) sigh, its going to be a long year.
I don't wanna find a new group of internet friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!
On a side not: J has decided to take that job. Its either in TX or NM (Both 11 hrs from me) sigh, its going to be a long year.
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Re: Anyone feel like they don't fit in
That sucks about the 11 hours apart. Hopefully the year passes quickly for you.
I just really want a nap right now. I've got a headache from my allergies and I'm dreading class tonight.
There is an anniversary board for January 2012 but it says no posts when I click on it and I don't think it allowed me to post. I wonder how we can it it to work. Maybe Mark knows.
[QUOTE] On a side not: J has decided to take that job. Its either in TX or NM (Both 11 hrs from me) sigh, its going to be a long year.
Posted by hippolover[/QUOTE]
WHAT?! I must have missed something. Why would he take a job 11 hours from you?
Tara-I posted about it a few days ago. I am going to go to see if I can find it so I don't retype the whole thing
Anyways...H has been out of school since 2010. He graduated with a B.S. in Geology. He just can't find work in the field. I just gradated in May with a dual M.S. in Clinical Counseling and School Counseling. I was offered a job the night before I graduated to be a school counselor in eastern CO.
J got a job in NM or TX (He needs to decide which place he wants to work) one month after I got my job. 60,000/yr. Working 24 on and 24 off the whole week for a grand total of 96 hours. Personally, I think he would die. So there isn't really time to visit each other as he would be working/sleeping all weekend.
Anyways its 11 hours from my new job. I have signed my contract yet, but I am excited about the job and don't really want to not take it. I offered to move down there in 1 yr when school ended. He doesn't think that we can make it as a couple. I think we could make it but it would be hard. As much as I don't want him to move, I don't want to be the reason he doesn't take a job. So we decided to give it a shot. He is moving down there July 16th. I move into my place June 28th. So we will have 2 week together which is nice I guess.
At what point to we give up our careers to be with the one we love? Are we crazy?
I think if you can make it work then it's worth it for both of you to pursue your careers. I'm not sure if it's possible, but maybe over the holidays or long weekends you could go visit him. Even if you only see each other for a few hours between him working and sleeping, you'd get to see each other.
What happens if you sign your contract and X months down the road you decide it's better for you and DH if you moved there? I'm just curious. I'm not trying to send bad vibes or anything.
I will say this...J moved me out there so he could go to school. I do not resent him for this but I had a good life in MN. 6 months later, he decided it wasn't a good fit. I just don't want the same thing to happen and be out an awesome job. I did 60 some applications. I only got one interview. So I feel like a complete idiot if I walk away from this.
I really hope it works out for you guys.
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[QUOTE]It is about how well you communicate and keep assessing the situation as you go. I was prepared to spend a lot of time away from H because he was going to be going into the military. I am glad I don't have to now, but you have a long time to be together, and a year will go really fast. I say go for it, and start submitting applications for the areas around him, just incase, you might find something since you can go anywhere.
Posted by awarm014[/QUOTE]
Thanks everyone. I will probably be leaning on you a lot as we aren't telling a lot of our friend because I am tired of being called a bad wife.
Alyssa-What happened with H going into the military?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone feel like they don't fit in : Thanks everyone. I will probably be leaning on you a lot as we aren't telling a lot of our friend because I am tired of being called a bad wife.
Posted by hippolover[/QUOTE]
This was the thing that frustrated me. Joy asked everyone from her mom to her best friends and they all told her she needed to stay with her husband. On one level I agree with this, but the intent was that I would find a job and follow her.
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[QUOTE]He was in ROTC, and for as long as I have known him, I always thought his sleeping was odd. He switched from his peditricitan at my urging about halfway through college. New doctor sent him for a sleep study, and he was diagnosed with narcolepsy, which basically means he can fall asleep anywhere. He told the ROTC uppers, and they discharged him. At least he didn't have to pay any of his scholarship back though.
Posted by ImperiumWife[/QUOTE]
That sucks! :( The sad thing is there are a lot of military jobs he could have done, but the military doesn't work like that. :(
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