In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:27b29350-8807-4390-be47-7ff161a2f339">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]The OP ran away. Which is sad, because she really needs to rethink her wedding and listen to the advice. I wouldn't want over half of my guests to hate me... Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]
<div>The only thing she's thinking is we're mean old biddys and she feels sorry for our husbands.</div>
I don't think it's that hard to know 500 people. In fact, I would be surprised if anyone didn't know 500 people. I just wouldn't invite them to my wedding and not feed them.
Wait. How about this? You could bring in the first round of people and let them eat and then tell them that the place is on fire. Since they're elderly, you'll need to give them extra time to get out what with their walkers and all. Then you can have the second round of losers come in. Problem solved!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:3feee76c-da75-4c46-a426-55a174c199f9">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]I think you should make some sort of contest where your guests race to the reception to determine who gets to eat. Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
I think this was by far the best response. I also do not know 500 people that would love to come be hungry and watch me dance in my wedding gown.
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this is her second wedding.. why is she making such a big deal about it!?!? and who really knows and invites 500 people to their wedding? i would rather have 150 of my closest family and friends to celebrate this special day of my life, rather than an additional 350 to just party with. i think she is in it for the gifts!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! <strong> I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line".</strong> I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE] So we're all advising that you don't do this because its a horrible idea, yet we're the ones with no class?? Why don't you, I don't know, give your friends and coworkers the chance to come see you? If you really think they're just there for the alcohol, why invite them? More gifts? That's how it seems. If they are people that matter to you, maybe the alcohol is nice, but they would want to see you get married. <div> </div><div>Now please, get over the fact that you got a resounding "NO!!!!!" and try to plan something a little better. And get over yourself.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Callaway, you are BSC if you think we are the ones who need a lesson in class. If you don't mind feeding all 500 people then invite them and let them make the decision to come to the ceremony or not! Seriously, grow the eff up!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
It's sad that you have friends and family who don't care about your wedding ceremony and are only coming for the alcohol.
Your little rant here doesn't change the fact that what you're doing is wrong.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Actually, no. I've been to a full Catholic service, and never once moaned or groaned. Why? Because I've got some damn class and was there for the people getting married, not the booze. Talk about class... Are you kidding me? That's stupid to say. I LOVE that you are trying to tell us about that. Riiiiiiight.
Seems like you're the one lacking in etiquette in inviting 500 people to a "wedding" whereby you get gifts from people who aren't important enough to attend your ceremony, but sure are important enough to actually get something from, you gift grabby snot.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:9773f996-a0fd-435e-b1cf-8d8f09a37133">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]Dude, WTF. My name is POOPYPANTS and I think you're being crazy. Posted by PoopyPants23[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:0e79487b-b705-441b-b9ed-ad4a5f7dcfa1">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]As an added side note, When you think about 500ppl, most of you are not including children. I make sure that all of my guests know that their entire family is invited. I see no point in hiring a babysitter because someone doesn't want to deal with children! I love my kids, my nieces, nephews, and all of my friends children. I want them to be there and have fun as well! What you don't realize is that I myself have a VERY large family, as does my FI. SO think what you may wish...but I'd rather invite someone and them not come, than not invite them and hurt their feelings! You all need to understand that I am under no circumstance "running away" because I don't answer you right away. Here in the real world, some of us have jobs that don't allow us to sit on the computer all day long. My venue is fully aware of the number of guests I have. The venue does not charge by the number of people you invite. Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Yeah.. I invited kids too. You're an idiot. If you'd take a step back out of the wedding haze you have right now, you'd realize that what you're doing is wrong, and we're just not validating it. You're angry why? People told you the truth? There's not ONE person here who said it was okay, and there are people I've never even seen before posting in this topic.
And, most of the rest of the people here have jobs as well. You've got your shiit mixed up.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:9773f996-a0fd-435e-b1cf-8d8f09a37133">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]<strong>Dude, WTF. My name is POOPYPANTS and I think you're being crazy.</strong> Would it have been more helpful if someone had said: Oh sure, I did this too! 5:00-6:00- Ceremony 6:00-7:00- Cocktail hour 7:00-9:00- Dinner 9:00-9:30- Allow for extra time to clean up from dinner 9:30-midnight- DANCE PARTY! WOOOOOOOOO! Posted by PoopyPants23[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:8467c662-3269-4f42-bf35-e3f1cda4af47">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : Actually, no. I've been to a full Catholic service, and never once moaned or groaned. Why? Because I've got some damn class and was there for the people getting married, not the booze. Talk about class... Are you kidding me? That's stupid to say. I LOVE that you are trying to tell us about that. Riiiiiiight. Seems like you're the one lacking in etiquette in inviting 500 people to a "wedding" whereby you get gifts from people who aren't important enough to attend your ceremony, but sure are important enough to actually get something from, you gift grabby snot. Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]
you should definitely stand up and take a bow for this! <-----cheering AMORO AMORO AMORO Well said :-)
Kind of sounds like you want the best of both worlds - the cost of a 150 person wedding and gifts from 500 people. Either you invite everyone to everything or you cut your list down to the 150 you like enough to feed the 5 courses. Or don't listen to the ladies on here and get talked about by everyone you know.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE] Stay on your local board where everything is rainbows and butterflies if you don't want honest advice. By all means continue with your tacky, pathetic, AWing, tiered reception. Just know every single one of your 350 guests that aren't good enough for you are going to be "catty little b*****es" behind your back.
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The ceremony is sort of the important part. The REASON for the party. So no, I'm fine suffering through that part.
And how can your venue not care about the number of people? Getting food and alcohol for 500 people is much different (and more expensive) than 50 people.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:0e79487b-b705-441b-b9ed-ad4a5f7dcfa1">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]As an added side note, When you think about 500ppl, most of you are not including children. I make sure that all of my guests know that their entire family is invited. I see no point in hiring a babysitter because someone doesn't want to deal with children! I love my kids, my nieces, nephews, and all of my friends children. I want them to be there and have fun as well! What you don't realize is that I myself have a VERY large family, as does my FI. SO think what you may wish...bu<strong>t I'd rather invite someone and them not come, than not invite them and hurt their feelings</strong>! You all need to understand that I am under no circumstance "running away" because I don't answer you right away. Here in the real world, some of us have jobs that don't allow us to sit on the computer all day long. My venue is fully aware of the number of guests I have. The venue does not charge by the number of people you invite. Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE] But... You aren't inviting them. You're inviting 150 of them. The rest are more of an afterthought and "Hey come watch us dance, we wont feed you but you can listen to music and give us presents!" You are going to hurt their feelings even more by inviting them to the real wedding. You are essentially inviting them to the after party.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:28eb91c9-9c36-4188-b057-38eb55380b4f">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
I don't think you know what the word "etiquette" really means.
Based on your proposal story, you sound like a peach.
My FI and I were sitting in the hot tub one night in September, enjoying the stars when he looked at me and said, "What would you say if I asked you to marry me?" I just kind of laughed it off, since we had only been dating a few months. He moved closer to me and asked again, this time I told him my answer would be determined on if he was serious or kidding. He told me he was dead serious, that he never wanted to know a day without me in his life. I told him if he ever asked me right, that I would tell him the answer then. On October 9th, I was working the Austin County Fair (I'm a medic), and had been having a REALLY bad day. He came to visit me at work that day and had seen that I'd had a really rough morning. He bought me a ring and handed it to me. I looked at him like he was crazy...I didn't understand what that ring meant at that moment. He put it on my finger and said, "there, that looks better." I told him I wouldn't wear it until he asked me. He said he already did...I laughed and told him that he needed to ask me the right way. So, I wore the ring on my right ring finger and that whole night, he walked around introducing me as his fiancee. When we got home that night, we walked in the door of the house, and he dropped to his knees right there in the doorway, grabbed my waist, and with tears in his eyes, he asked me to marry him. Needless to say, after bawling my eyes out, I composed myself enough to tell him yes!
My FI and I were sitting in the hot tub one night in September, enjoying the stars when he looked at me and said, "What would you say if I asked you to marry me?" I just kind of laughed it off, since we had only been dating a few months. He moved closer to me and asked again, this time I told him my answer would be determined on if he was serious or kidding. He told me he was dead serious, that he never wanted to know a day without me in his life. I told him if he ever asked me right, that I would tell him the answer then. On October 9th, I was working the Austin County Fair (I'm a medic), and had been having a REALLY bad day. He came to visit me at work that day and had seen that I'd had a really rough morning. He bought me a ring and handed it to me. I looked at him like he was crazy...I didn't understand what that ring meant at that moment. He put it on my finger and said, "there, that looks better." I told him I wouldn't wear it until he asked me. He said he already did...I laughed and told him that he needed to ask me the right way. So, I wore the ring on my right ring finger and that whole night, he walked around introducing me as his fiancee. When we got home that night, we walked in the door of the house, and he dropped to his knees right there in the doorway, grabbed my waist, and with tears in his eyes, he asked me to marry him. Needless to say, after bawling my eyes out, I composed myself enough to tell him yes!
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[QUOTE]The OP ran away. Which is sad, because she really needs to rethink her wedding and listen to the advice. I wouldn't want over half of my guests to hate me...
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]
<div>The only thing she's thinking is we're mean old biddys and she feels sorry for our husbands.</div>
No way can you even think about doing this.
[QUOTE]I think you should make some sort of contest where your guests race to the reception to determine who gets to eat.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
I think this was by far the best response. I also do not know 500 people that would love to come be hungry and watch me dance in my wedding gown.
[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! <strong> I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line".</strong> I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
So why aren't you feeding them again?!?!
[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
So we're all advising that you don't do this because its a horrible idea, yet we're the ones with no class?? Why don't you, I don't know, give your friends and coworkers the chance to come see you? If you really think they're just there for the alcohol, why invite them? More gifts? That's how it seems. If they are people that matter to you, maybe the alcohol is nice, but they would want to see you get married. <div>
</div><div>Now please, get over the fact that you got a resounding "NO!!!!!" and try to plan something a little better. And get over yourself.</div>
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[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Callaway, you are BSC if you think we are the ones who need a lesson in class. If you don't mind feeding all 500 people then invite them and let them make the decision to come to the ceremony or not! Seriously, grow the eff up!
[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
It's sad that you have friends and family who don't care about your wedding ceremony and are only coming for the alcohol.
Your little rant here doesn't change the fact that what you're doing is wrong.
[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Actually, no. I've been to a full Catholic service, and never once moaned or groaned. Why? Because I've got some damn class and was there for the people getting married, not the booze. Talk about class... Are you kidding me? That's stupid to say. I LOVE that you are trying to tell us about that. Riiiiiiight.
Seems like you're the one lacking in etiquette in inviting 500 people to a "wedding" whereby you get gifts from people who aren't important enough to attend your ceremony, but sure are important enough to actually get something from, you gift grabby snot.
[QUOTE]Dude, WTF. My name is POOPYPANTS and I think you're being crazy.
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[QUOTE]As an added side note, When you think about 500ppl, most of you are not including children. I make sure that all of my guests know that their entire family is invited. I see no point in hiring a babysitter because someone doesn't want to deal with children! I love my kids, my nieces, nephews, and all of my friends children. I want them to be there and have fun as well! What you don't realize is that I myself have a VERY large family, as does my FI. SO think what you may wish...but I'd rather invite someone and them not come, than not invite them and hurt their feelings! You all need to understand that I am under no circumstance "running away" because I don't answer you right away. Here in the real world, some of us have jobs that don't allow us to sit on the computer all day long. My venue is fully aware of the number of guests I have. The venue does not charge by the number of people you invite.
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Yeah.. I invited kids too. You're an idiot. If you'd take a step back out of the wedding haze you have right now, you'd realize that what you're doing is wrong, and we're just not validating it. You're angry why? People told you the truth? There's not ONE person here who said it was okay, and there are people I've never even seen before posting in this topic.
And, most of the rest of the people here have jobs as well. You've got your shiit mixed up.
[QUOTE]<strong>Dude, WTF. My name is POOPYPANTS and I think you're being crazy.</strong> Would it have been more helpful if someone had said: Oh sure, I did this too! 5:00-6:00- Ceremony 6:00-7:00- Cocktail hour 7:00-9:00- Dinner 9:00-9:30- Allow for extra time to clean up from dinner 9:30-midnight- DANCE PARTY! WOOOOOOOOO!
Posted by PoopyPants23[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : Actually, no. I've been to a full Catholic service, and never once moaned or groaned. Why? Because I've got some damn class and was there for the people getting married, not the booze. Talk about class... Are you kidding me? That's stupid to say. I LOVE that you are trying to tell us about that. Riiiiiiight. Seems like you're the one lacking in etiquette in inviting 500 people to a "wedding" whereby you get gifts from people who aren't important enough to attend your ceremony, but sure are important enough to actually get something from, you gift grabby snot.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]
you should definitely stand up and take a bow for this!
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Well said :-)
*Coming out of lurkdom for this one*
Kind of sounds like you want the best of both worlds - the cost of a 150 person wedding and gifts from 500 people. Either you invite everyone to everything or you cut your list down to the 150 you like enough to feed the 5 courses. Or don't listen to the ladies on here and get talked about by everyone you know.
[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves. You are being quite b****y and could have SIMPLY stated that you didn't think it was a good idea. The ONLY people at our wedding ceremony are family, and the significant others of our bridal party...NOONE else! I don't mind feeding all 500ppl at all! I mainly don't want people showing up during our ceremony to be "the first at the serving line". I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! Because, lets be honest...you catty little b*****es have all been guilty of moaning and groaning about having to sit through a long wedding! I know now why it is that most of the brides stay off of this board. You ladies all need a lesson in class!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Stay on your local board where everything is rainbows and butterflies if you don't want honest advice. By all means continue with your tacky, pathetic, AWing, tiered reception. Just know every single one of your 350 guests that aren't good enough for you are going to be "catty little b*****es" behind your back.
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And how can your venue not care about the number of people? Getting food and alcohol for 500 people is much different (and more expensive) than 50 people.
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45 people must be wrong and the OP is the only one who sees the light.
[QUOTE]As an added side note, When you think about 500ppl, most of you are not including children. I make sure that all of my guests know that their entire family is invited. I see no point in hiring a babysitter because someone doesn't want to deal with children! I love my kids, my nieces, nephews, and all of my friends children. I want them to be there and have fun as well! What you don't realize is that I myself have a VERY large family, as does my FI. SO think what you may wish...bu<strong>t I'd rather invite someone and them not come, than not invite them and hurt their feelings</strong>! You all need to understand that I am under no circumstance "running away" because I don't answer you right away. Here in the real world, some of us have jobs that don't allow us to sit on the computer all day long. My venue is fully aware of the number of guests I have. The venue does not charge by the number of people you invite.
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
But... You aren't inviting them. You're inviting 150 of them. The rest are more of an afterthought and "Hey come watch us dance, we wont feed you but you can listen to music and give us presents!" You are going to hurt their feelings even more by inviting them to the real wedding. You are essentially inviting them to the after party.
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[QUOTE]First off, some of you ladies need a lesson in etiquette yourselves.
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
I don't think you know what the word "etiquette" really means.
My FI and I were sitting in the hot tub one night in September, enjoying the stars when he looked at me and said, "What would you say if I asked you to marry me?" I just kind of laughed it off, since we had only been dating a few months. He moved closer to me and asked again, this time I told him my answer would be determined on if he was serious or kidding. He told me he was dead serious, that he never wanted to know a day without me in his life. I told him if he ever asked me right, that I would tell him the answer then. On October 9th, I was working the Austin County Fair (I'm a medic), and had been having a REALLY bad day. He came to visit me at work that day and had seen that I'd had a really rough morning. He bought me a ring and handed it to me. I looked at him like he was crazy...I didn't understand what that ring meant at that moment. He put it on my finger and said, "there, that looks better." I told him I wouldn't wear it until he asked me. He said he already did...I laughed and told him that he needed to ask me the right way. So, I wore the ring on my right ring finger and that whole night, he walked around introducing me as his fiancee. When we got home that night, we walked in the door of the house, and he dropped to his knees right there in the doorway, grabbed my waist, and with tears in his eyes, he asked me to marry him. Needless to say, after bawling my eyes out, I composed myself enough to tell him yes!
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