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Kids at the Ceremony

cdmcdonaldcdmcdonald
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How do you feel about kids at the ceremony? Not just your average kid...babies! I kinda felt obligated to allow children babies) bc we have several out of town guests with children AND we have a 17 month old who will be front and center. My biggest fear is a crying baby during the ceremony...Am I making too big of a deal out of this?
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  • mahoganieyesmahoganieyes
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    edited December 2011
    Would I be wrong if I give the baby the side eye if she start crying during the ceremony?  I know what you mean. Fi's cousin mentioned coming to our wedding next year and bringing his baby who will be 1.5 yrs by then. I feel bad because he and his wife would be traveling from oot, most likely flying but the crying and getting fussy is a bit of concern for me. I've been to a wedding and I did not hear the ceremony because a few babies started crying and the parents did nothing but sat there.


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  • BabyKaykesBabyKaykes
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    edited December 2011
    I have the same issue. My flowergirl and ringbearer will be 4yo and 5yo. There will also be 8 other kids there from newborn to age 6yo. I do NOT want the distraction of crying/whining/figiting during the ceremony.

    And for this reason I am hiring two girls from our church's teen choir to babysit during the ceremony only (I don't care about noise at the reception - it's cocktail style anyway). Our choir room has space enough for all the kids to sit, have snacks, watch a movie, and color in the hour or so that they'll be in there. I am even thinking of having the kids in the ceremony be escorted out after their little role - and the ring bearer is my own son.
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  • missrekaeaglemissrekaeagle
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    edited December 2011
    I only invited 4 kids to my wedding because they're my nieces and nephews. They range in age from 8 months to 5yo. I'm not worried about the 1.5 yo, the 2.5 yo, or the 5 yo, but the 8 month old may or may not cry. I love him though and couldn't imagine him not being at my wedding, so I'm sure his dad will take him away if he gets unruly.
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  • eagles347eagles347
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    edited December 2011

    Will you have ushers or hostesses? If so, if someone is so rude as to sit there with a crying child, perhaps an usher or hostess could discreetly and politely ask them to take the child away to calm them down before returning? It may sound harsh, but I have heard horror stories of videos ruined because of crying children and I can only imagine how annoying it will be for the other guests.

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  • adgenyaadgenya member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not a big fan of kids at the weddings. I totally understand allowing newborns/ breast feeding babies. Usually they're not the ones who start crying. It's the one year old and two year olds that are having temper tantrums that I am not a big fan of. 

    But overall, I don't blame the kids, I blame the parents who don't sit near an exit where they can promptly and quietly step out if their little precious is crying. 
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  • NeColeMonetNeColeMonet
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    edited December 2011
    I'm paying an arm and a leg to have professional childcare providers for the kids during the wedding ceremony and reception.
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  • cdmcdonaldcdmcdonald
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for all the advice! I really like the idea of a care provider during the ceremony. I know my child will more than likely be escorted out after her role bc she falls in that category of the temper tantrum kids ...there are two more in that same age range that I will make certain sit in special seats IN THE BACK! LOL
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  • cdmcdonaldcdmcdonald
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    edited December 2011
    @ Mahoganieyes... LOL at the side eye bc that is me all the way! I just realized what you said = )
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  • raganwraganw
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    edited December 2011

    Don't get me wrong - I love kids...  BUT...

    Other than the kids in the wedding party, I know I would rather not have kids at the wedding.  This is an adult affair with an open bar and adult music - they need to leave the kids at home. 

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  • drjewelldrjewell
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    edited December 2011
    I understand regarding the ceremony but my pastor or one of the ladies that is coordinating my wedding will make an announcement prior to the service asking parents of small children to step out if you children begin to cry to not distrub the service. For me mine is a family affair so there will bbe a lot of children at th wedding amd reception,
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