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    [QUOTE]Yes, I did have a few pictures that I wanted to do with nails. That is the point. There were a few that had to do with rings and focuses on the hands. I offered drug store stick on nails. She said no. I offered for her to have it on her natural nails. No. I offered a plain french, no design. No. I offered a simple clear coat. No. Her nails look like crap. Sorry, but they're dirty, have hangnails, and they're all short, bitten up, and have calluses. She admits they're not pretty. These were pictures that meant a lot to me and I wanted to frame them, but not with dirty fingers. It's not exactly like I can tell her she can't be in those pictures. I wouldn't really kick her out, but I am frustrated that she always agrees and then says no later.
    Posted by luv2cook13[/QUOTE]

    Are you buying them all matching rings or something?

    Go look up some other pictures on Pinterest.
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    [QUOTE]Yes, I did have a few pictures that I wanted to do with nails. That is the point. There were a few that had to do with rings and focuses on the hands. I offered drug store stick on nails. She said no. I offered for her to have it on her natural nails. No. I offered a plain french, no design. No. I offered a simple clear coat. No. Her nails look like crap. Sorry, but they're dirty, have hangnails, and they're all short, bitten up, and have calluses. She admits they're not pretty. These were pictures that meant a lot to me and I wanted to frame them, but not with dirty fingers. It's not exactly like I can tell her she can't be in those pictures. I wouldn't really kick her out, but I am frustrated that she always agrees and then says no later.
    Posted by luv2cook13[/QUOTE]

    <div>She is a guitar player? WTH do you expect? It HURTS to play guitar without those calouses. I don't know if you know that, but even for my best friends wedding I would not do that if I needed my natural nails untouched for my profession. You backpeddling and trying to make HER look bad does not excuse YOU of your selfish behavior.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid suddenly backing out? : Of course I did! That would be FINE! She won't do ANYTHING to them at all!
    Posted by luv2cook13[/QUOTE]


    Seriously. WTF difference does it even make? Why is this a hill you wish to die on?
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    [QUOTE]Yes, I did have a few pictures that I wanted to do with nails. That is the point. There were a few that had to do with rings and focuses on the hands. I offered drug store stick on nails. She said no. I offered for her to have it on her natural nails. No. I offered a plain french, no design. No. I offered a simple clear coat. No. Her nails look like crap. Sorry, but they're dirty, have hangnails, and they're all short, bitten up, and have calluses. She admits they're not pretty. These were pictures that meant a lot to me and I wanted to frame them, but not with dirty fingers. It's not exactly like I can tell her she can't be in those pictures. I wouldn't really kick her out, but I am frustrated that she always agrees and then says no later.
    Posted by luv2cook13[/QUOTE]
    You want to frame a picture of fingernails?  You have more problems than we could possibly solve for you. 



  • Just skip the pictures of the hands. Will you really hang them in your home after the wedding? You'll have plenty of other pictures to frame. I'm curious as to the picture of hands you want to have now though.
  • Guys, come on here. Don't you know that like, her wedding will like, totally be invalid if even one chick's nails aren't uhmayzing? The priest would like, refuse to sign the license and everything will be ruined forevers oooooooooommmmmmmmmmmgggggggggf!
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    [QUOTE]Yes, I did have a few pictures that I wanted to do with nails. That is the point. There were a few that had to do with rings and focuses on the hands. I offered drug store stick on nails. She said no. I offered for her to have it on her natural nails. No. I offered a plain french, no design. <strong>No. I offered a simple clear coat. No. Her nails look like crap. Sorry, but they're dirty, have hangnails, and they're all short, bitten up, and have calluses. She admits they're not pretty. These were pictures that meant a lot to me and I wanted to frame them, but not with dirty fingers</strong>. It's not exactly like I can tell her she can't be in those pictures. I wouldn't really kick her out, but I am frustrated that she always agrees and then says no later.
    Posted by luv2cook13[/QUOTE]

    You're describing the hands of a guitar player. Maybe you should not be friends with guitar players.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid suddenly backing out? : She is a guitar player? WTH do you expect? It HURTS to play guitar without those calouses.
    Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

    <div>First, this. It took a while to build those "ugly things" up, and it does hurt. Sorry that won't be pretty in your pictures.</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, those aren't the pictures you frame. Those are the ones you upload to facebook and pinterest, then walk away.</div>
  • edited March 2013
    Has anyone called troll/MUD yet? I call it.
  • OK a) you are a troll but b) do the design on Lee Press-On Nails, which, if I remember from 5th grade, pop right off. usually when you are sitting next to a boy you like.
  • I think I have one framed picture of my bridesmaids. And it's little and on a table. When you order photos, you'll be ordering ones of you and your husband, not your bridesmaids fingernails. And if you do have pictures of your bridesmaids, I agree with Lia, it'll be of their smiling faces. Don't worry about their fingernails.
  • Why don't you stop requiring so much out of these friends and just be happy that they are even there for you at all? The BMs are doing this because they care about YOU.  

    Being a bridesmaid is not always something everyone wants to do. Even if I didn't want to be a BM, for a good friend, I would of course say yes and stand beside her. It is not fun and games and cupcakes- it a HONOR and it can be a hard work. It is expensive, it is time-consuming, it is demanding, they usually chip in for the shower and bachelorette. There are a lot of tasks that these girls do for the bride- their feelings need to be respected.

    And the point about the BM not liking the dress is irrelevant. I've worn a lot of hideous bridesmaids dresses. That is the nature of the beast. No one is going to like everything.

    To care so much about such minutia as nails really is pretty silly.
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  • This is your friend, right? A good, close friend who you wanted to stand up with you on your joyous wedding day where you bind yourself to the love of you life?

    Because the way you're acting, it seems like you view her more as a prop to take pretty pictures with and that's it. These are your FRIENDS. (Unless we're really going in the Twilight Zone and you picked people you knew who were all blonde and between 5'7" and 5'9" so all the pictures would be perfect matchey matches...) Please take a step back and realize that you care more about your friends than nail polish.

    Why don't you tell us about this friend of yours. How long have you been friends? What are some great memories you have of her? Why did you choose her to be in your bridal party? Maybe telling us these things will help put into perspective that weddings are about relationships and not nail colors.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid suddenly backing out? : You're describing the hands of a guitar player. Maybe you should not be friends with guitar players.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    I'm surprised you have a friend who does something other than sitting in front of the mirror.
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  • In Response to Re:bridesmaid suddenly backing out?:[QUOTE]Has anyone called troll/MUD yet? I call it. Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    Shhh, don't scare it away. We haven't had one in a while, and they run when you shine light on them.
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  • WAIT, I take it back. I totally support the framing of nail photos and forcing BMS to get them done....just look at the possibilities. This seriously would go on my wall. One girl could have Animal, one could have Rowlf, and one with Fozzy or Gonzo.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid suddenly backing out? : I call Animal!!
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    If my girls won't go for it, you can replace one of them.
  • In Response to Re:bridesmaid suddenly backing out?:[QUOTE]WAIT, I take it back. I totally support the framing of nail photos and forcing BMS to get them done....just look at the possibilities. This seriously would go on my wall. One girl could have Animal, one could have Rowlf, and one with Fozzy or Gonzo. Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    But then they wouldn't MATCH. They would just coordinate. Which works too
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    [QUOTE]WAIT, I take it back. I totally support the framing of nail photos and forcing BMS to get them done....just look at the possibilities. This seriously would go on my wall. One girl could have Animal, one could have Rowlf, and one with Fozzy or Gonzo.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]


    I call Fozzie. Wokka Wokka!
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    [QUOTE]I'm curious,  luv2cook13 .... Were you honestly expecting us to say "ugh, that wench has no respect for you on YOUR day!!!!  Kick her to the curb for not doing the matchy-matchy nails!!!"
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

    <div>That's what weddingbee is for!</div>
  • They actually make Muppet nail polish!!  In all seriousness, at least one nail will have a Kermit on it at my wedding.... I have real nails so I don't know how this works but, I can be determined.
  • edited March 2013
    Awright girls, let's get serious here.....

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    [QUOTE]They actually make Muppet nail polish!!  In all seriousness, at least one nail will have a Kermit on it at my wedding.... I have real nails so I don't know how this works but, I can be determined.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    OMG is that Bunson and Beaker??
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  • In Response to Re:bridesmaid suddenly backing out?:[QUOTE]Awright girls, let's get serious here..... Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    Now this is perfect for wedding nails. Grr. I don't know why I didn't make my girls all get matching sparkle nails with characters.
  • Kick the bridesmaid out. And then OFF WITH HER HEAD (and nails)
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  • edited March 2013
    My work computer now has 10 photos of muppet nails saved on it. This will happen. Oh yes. Damn, OP is a freaking genius. We should all bow down in shame for questioning her...I just didn't fully realize the dream

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    [QUOTE]Muppet can, we all need to walk in to this song ..... <a href="http://youtu.be/bFw4L7-AFdw" rel="nofollow">http://youtu.be/bFw4L7-AFdw</a>
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

    <div>My wedding party is walking in to The Rainbow Connection :D I wanted to enter the reception with a big tap dancing epic to "Life's a Happy Song" but FI said we're both too uncoordinated to tap dance.</div><div>
    </div><div>Funny, he never said it would be over the top...</div>
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    edited March 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-suddenly-backing-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c23fe363-7d2d-4395-b167-741e2d296a60Post:31c6e39e-c629-4abe-97f5-43ae4177fb4c">Re: bridesmaid suddenly backing out?</a>:
    [QUOTE]They actually make Muppet nail polish!!  In all seriousness, at least one nail will have a Kermit on it at my wedding.... I have real nails so I don't know how this works but, I can be determined.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    I have nothing for the OP, but my sister had the OPI color "Meep Meep" (I think that's right) of the Muppet Line they did right after the movie came out for my wedding.

    Of course, all my girls had different colors on their fingers and toes because I couldn't give two shrits about their nails.

     

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid suddenly backing out? : OMG is that Bunson and Beaker??
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    This was my Bunsen costume years ago:
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    and this was what I brought for the party that I went to as Bunsen: <a href="https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/290_17895559795_9093_n.jpg" rel="nofollow">https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/290_17895559795_9093_n.jpg</a>
  • Yup. I totally walked down the aisle to The Rainbow Connection. And cried the whole way down. Our videographer used it for a lot of the first part of the tape, so now watching that makes me cry, too. Every. Dang. Time.
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