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Aks3131Aks3131 member
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In the last two days I have had 6 people call me to say they are not coming to the wedding after they RSVP'ed yes and I gave the final count to the reception hall already!!! One is a family of 5 and the other person is not coming with her plus one anymore. Neither person has a reason for not coming either. I'm so annoyed right now.

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  • mary1217mary1217 member
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    Uggh!! That is so aggrivating! Don't you feel like telling them "ok then you owe me $X for your plate." So sorry!
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  • kostyalyakostyalya
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    I'm sorry. :( If it's any consolation, it seems this is pretty common. In the last 2 weeks (wedding is this Saturday), we've had about 5 people drop (and we had to tell 4 NO because of tight budget, so it just makes me feel twice as bad). It's disappointing, and frustrating finance-wise...but what can you do? :( It's too late to change the headcount, but in my incessant quest to find the silver lining -- at least this leaves wiggle room for people who may have RSVP'd no but then change their minds and show up? lol I know that's not cool to do, but I've seen and heard of it happening.
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  • cmac3504cmac3504
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    So, I have to say that if anyone "changes their minds" between now and the wedding I will be PISSED. But... the fact that they let you know BEFORE the actual day leads me to wonder if you could reach out to those who may be local and interested in attending and wouldn't be offended by the fact that they didn't get the invite in the first place.  I can honestly say that there are at least 4 people I can think of (in the past 30 seconds, without much thought) that would be thrilled with a last-minute invite.. and if you're paying for the headcount anyway, why not offer?? Who cares if their escort card is hand written or white-out'ed.

    I would much rather someone tell me last minute that they're not coming rather than waiting until the day of the wedding to simply "not show up".  Totally not cool.

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  • bstenglerbstengler
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    this sucks!!! i had 2 people today say ohh we cant come now after we have already made all our plans seating charts & etc!! people just dont get it! but at least they tell you before the wedding and just not show up. i think that would be worse..
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  • jml1981jml1981
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    I had 4 no's 2 days before the wedding..and it was a destination wedding. Oh and 1 of FI's friend's never showed up even though he had a hotel reservation. He didn't answer any calls or texts either. I had to cancel his hotel reservation since he never called to cancel himself. 

    I have tell you that I didn't even notice that they weren't there, but it sucks that I had to pay for them...It was a great night regardless! 
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  • Aks3131Aks3131 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_vent-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:85b53b3e-bbad-4b14-8366-7f23e56d67e1Post:31dade20-e3dd-47f5-be69-20eeff53dd37">Re: Vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, I have to say that if anyone "changes their minds" between now and the wedding I will be PISSED. But... the fact that they let you know BEFORE the actual day leads me to wonder if you could reach out to those who may be local and interested in attending and wouldn't be offended by the fact that they didn't get the invite in the first place.  I can honestly say that there are at least 4 people I can think of (in the past 30 seconds, without much thought) that would be thrilled with a last-minute invite.. and if you're paying for the headcount anyway, why not offer?? Who cares if their escort card is hand written or white-out'ed. I would much rather someone tell me last minute that they're not coming rather than waiting until the day of the wedding to simply "not show up".  Totally not cool.
    Posted by cmac3504[/QUOTE]

    I never thought of this. There might be one or two people who would not be offended if I ask them. I'm sure they understand why I couldn't invite them to begin with. It's just annoying how some people can be inconsiderate and back out at the last minute. I would understand if it was an emergency or something totally out of there control but nope all I got was a "I can't come so sorry".
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