Bridesmaid's dress price drama

mgd1121 · May 2011

So, I have a really short amount of time to plan this wedding (just 5 mos) and I had already found the PERFECT dress for my bridesmaids. Two of my bridesmaids are totally fine with the $120 - $150 (depending on where you buy it) price tag...while the third says that's a ridiculous price to pay for a dress. Telling me how she got the last BM dress she had to wear at David's Bridal on clearance for $10, she's taken it as her personal mission to find a "cheaper" version of the dress I love.

Sensing that she just can't afford the dress, I offered to help pay for it. I told her that whatever price she felt was reasonable or doable and I would cover the rest (after all she's the one who introduced me to my fiance!) but she continues to look for a cheaper version of the dress. She keeps coming up with these cotton, $30 dreses that are NOT formal enough for the event. She's totally stressing me out with it. Emails me like everday another idea for a dress -- and I give them a look and for the most part they look like their price...cheap....

So anyway, I wanna know what to do? How do I nicely explain that the dress I've chosen is the perfect style/silhoette/fabric and that I really don't mind helping her pay for it, if the cost is the issue? (In case anyone is wondering it's the Dessy Alfred Sung 488 and I've not been able to find a dress with that perfect shape and style that's any cheaper) Oh, another side note...the shoes they're wearing are part of their attendant's gifts (so no extra cost to her there)....Please help!

mbcdefg · May 2011

You can't just pick out a dress without getting their budget input beforehand. If they need to buy the dress, then they need to set the price. And it's also not right to just pick out a dress and say, "Here, you're wearing this" without letting them try it on and give their input first.

However, this was a good response on your part: Sensing that she just can't afford the dress, I offered to help pay for it. I told her that whatever price she felt was reasonable or doable and I would cover the rest

But realize that many people don't feel comfortable accepting money from a friend, especially in the neighborhood of $100. You were correct to offer to pay for it, but that doesn't mean that she automatically needs to be O.K. with taking money from you, or that she should automatically be O.K. with that particular style of dress. Maybe she doesn't like the way it'll look on her. There's no one magic dress that'll flatter every woman. Did she get a chance to even try it on before you told her that that would be what she'd be wearing?

I think you need to start from scratch. Talk to each BM and see what she's comfortable spending. Then go out with them and let them try on some dresses in their price range and see what they like and what looks good on them, and then go from there. She's probably being stubborn because (from what you've written, anyway) she's gotten no input in the dress at all.

Lose the idea of "the perfect dress" ... because while you can certainly have the final say on what they wear, it's not all about what you want. It has to be about what THEY want, too, since they have to wear them. Plus, the dress may not be "perfect" if the girls didn't get to try it on and they wind up looking like crap in it. And there are always other options out there that will be just as nice, if not nicer.

And the shoes don't count as a gift, since you're requiring them for your wedding. Make sure you get them each a personal gift to thank them for being in your wedding.

AutumnFair · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:51f529d6-b0fc-4473-8fb3-e88490c4f7f9">Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]So, I have a really short amount of time to plan this wedding (just 5 mos) and I had already found the PERFECT dress for my bridesmaids. Two of my bridesmaids are totally fine with the $120 - $150 (depending on where you buy it) price tag...while the third says that's a ridiculous price to pay for a dress. Telling me how she got the last BM dress she had to wear at David's Bridal on clearance for $10, she's taken it as her personal mission to find a "cheaper" version of the dress I love. Sensing that she just can't afford the dress, I offered to help pay for it. I told her that whatever price she felt was reasonable or doable and I would cover the rest (after all she's the one who introduced me to my fiance!) but she continues to look for a cheaper version of the dress. She keeps coming up with these cotton, $30 dreses that are NOT formal enough for the event. She's totally stressing me out with it. Emails me like everday another idea for a dress -- and I give them a look and for the most part they look like their price...cheap.... So anyway, I wanna know what to do? How do I nicely explain that the dress I've chosen is the perfect style/silhoette/fabric and that I really don't mind helping her pay for it, if the cost is the issue? (In case anyone is wondering it's the Dessy Alfred Sung 488 and I've not been able to find a dress with that perfect shape and style that's any cheaper) Oh, another side note...the shoes they're wearing are part of their attendant's gifts (so no extra cost to her there)....Please help!
Posted by mgd1121[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is a classic situation of why we advise many Brides to <strong>ask</strong> <em>before</em> looking (for all you lurkers out there), not choose and put all the pressure on your BMs to agree with you. </div><div>
</div><div>Basically, if you are willing to eat the cost tell her that you will cover her dress or pay for 3/4th of it since it is the one you must have. Hopefully if you just get it she will stop bugging you about finding an alternative. </div><div>
</div><div>I know you aren't asking about this but as for the side note of their shoe's being their gift. PLEASE get them something else, preferably more personal, shoes that they must wear for your wedding is not really a gift to them even if they can maybe be worn again (think of the Simpsons episode where Homer gives Marge a bowling ball with his name on it, obviously the gift was given for Homer's benefit). So just like certain flowers, jewelry, hair, make up etc, if you want it apart of your "look" you need to pay for it without making it a gift.

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mgd1121 · May 2011

Thanks for the advice on the shoes, I hadn't looked at it that way. (love the Simpsons reference! haha) I've only ever been in 2 weddings like 10 yrs ago...lol

So the more I look, the more I think I could let them pick a black dress that they like and just wear it - like an off the rack type. I'm being pretty unreasonable to say "everyone has to match" when I wanted a non-traditional wedding (I'm wearing shoes with zombies on them for pete's sake!)

I am kinda concerened the blacks won't match, but all the photos I'm looking up - that doesn't really appear to be a problem...any advice on that? I think I was wanting everything to look sophisticated and I need to relax because I think it will be more fun (and look cooler) if I just chill and stop being so stuffy!!! I think venting broke me out of my funk -- your advice helped too!

mbcdefg · May 2011

A lot of people go with the "get any black dress you want" approach and it's turned out really well. I've seen a ton of Google Image results for "different black bridesmaid dresses" and similar searches (and there used to be a bio for this, I think, until the Knot purged all the Knot-hosted bios for some reason, figures).

I don't think it's out of line for you to ask that the dresses be a certain formality, if you suggest some fabrics or if you ask that they not be shiny/sequined/whatever if you have preferences about that. I also don't think it's unreasonable of you to ask to see the dresses before they finalize them, or offer to go shopping with them (but let them take the lead on actually picking the dresses to try) but that might not be necessary. I've never seen a photo of this approach done badly.

I think this is a good approach. Maybe try this with this girl and see if she bites.

Ghoti · May 2011

I picked a color (3 colors actually) and sent the girls to DB to find any dress they liked in one of those colors. My MOH actually couldn't find one, so then she went to Alfred Angelo and found one. I'm happy with the outcome and the girls have dresses they like and can wear again.

M&R7111 · May 2011

I am also not haveing a formal wedding and didn't want to bother with BM dresses. I'm going with the "get a little black dress" method as well. I didn't know how common it was until I came onto TK.

It does save a lot of stress on everyone; it is one less thing I need to worry about.

mandi921vh · May 2011

I agree with PP that you should have gotten their price range before picking the dress, but having the girls pick out a dress of their choosing from any store in a color/style you tell them always works out nicely, plus the dress is something they chose and they will most likely re wear it.

The Next Miz Rivera · May 2011

I think that a $120 price range is normal , I mean if u accept to b in a wedding then u obviously understand there will be some cost associated with it. But I don't think bm should put the bride thru hell and second guess their judgement. There are ugly parts to planning your day, but remember it is YOUR DAY.

niecie_jeff · May 2011

I agree about the black dresses. When I got engaged, that was one of the first things I decided on, let the girls wear black dresses of their choice. I told them "Black, classy dresses" I did this for several reasons. One being so they can get something they can wear again. The biggest being so I didnt have to deal w/the drama of them not liking what I picked

AutumnFair · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:fd923065-da12-413f-8c1d-af4ad0a837d3">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that a $120 price range is normal , I mean if u accept to b in a wedding then u obviously understand there will be some cost associated with it. But I don't think bm should put the bride thru hell and second guess their judgement. There are ugly parts to planning your day, but remember it is YOUR DAY.
Posted by The Next Miz Rivera[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, but a Bride is still suppose to be a friend and if her friends or family are financially bind to not afford an average $120 the Bride should be a good friend first and either find something more affordable to that BM or help pay for most or all of the dress the Bride wants. I'm not saying the Bride can't be annoyed with the BM trying to change the Bride's mind on the dress but obviously the BM must be in some kind of financial strain and probably is too embarrass or prideful to come full out and say "hey, I'm broke". Hence, why you should always asks BM budgets first so you don't end up in this awkward situation. </div><div>
</div><div>But I commend you OP for your openness and flexibility, very refreshing to actually see a Bride with a sensible head when we give advice. I hope the rest of your wedding planning goes smoothly. </div>

marinabreeze · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:fd923065-da12-413f-8c1d-af4ad0a837d3">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that a $120 price range is normal , I mean if u accept to b in a wedding then u obviously understand there will be some cost associated with it. But I don't think bm should put the bride thru hell and second guess their judgement. There are ugly parts to planning your day, but remember it is YOUR DAY.
Posted by The Next Miz Rivera[/QUOTE]
Um, no.

If you want it to be "your day," DO NOT INVITE ANYONE. As soon as you involve others, it ceases being "your day."

The point of having a WP is to have the people you care about standing up with you as you take the step of marrying the person you love. Why should money, or lack thereof, keep your friends or family from standing with you, particularly when it isn't necessary for it to cost so much?

Being a bride does NOT mean being a dictator or having dibs over someone else's money. Sure, the BMs are expected to get the dress. But that's why you ask them privately and individually what they feel comfortable paying <em>before</em> you choose a dress. Then you choose within the budget of the person with the lowest one, or allow them to choose their own given whatever your specific color, length, and maybe material requirements.

I think the OP didn't necessarily do the wrong thing, but it probably would be less stress on her if she let go of the idea of the "perfect" dress and let her BM choose based on specific requirements. Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of having the bride "cover" their dress for them. It would be better for all involved if the OP started from square one and gave her BMs more input on the dress, IMO.

dsnoopychick · May 2011

I think you're right to offer to help pay for the dress. I have paid as much as $200 for a BM dress, so you're price is fine. I would just call her, don't text or email... but call or see her in person, and let her know this is the dress you want her to wear. If she's looking at $30 dresses then offer to pay the difference between her $30 and her dress. If she still give you a problem then it might be time for a more serious conversation. Best of luck!

mbcdefg · May 2011

I think you're right to offer to help pay for the dress. I have paid as much as $200 for a BM dress, so you're price is fine.

But it's not up to you to determine what's a "fine" price for HER friends. If I had paid up to $600 for a bridesmaid dress, does that mean that you ought to be fine with paying that as well? If her friends were all broke, does that mean that $200 is still "reasonable" since someone else in a better financial situation was able to afford that?

I would just call her, don't text or email... but call or see her in person, and let her know this is the dress you want her to wear. If she's looking at $30 dresses then offer to pay the difference between her $30 and her dress. If she still give you a problem then it might be time for a more serious conversation. Best of luck!

What does this mean? "If you don't wear the outfit I want, that you had no input in selecting, then you're out of my wedding/you're a bad friend?"

If that's the case, then that's an extremely biitchy thing to do to a friend. It's sad that some people think that an oufit should matter more than a friendship, especially considering that (for whatever reason) this girl is clearly uncomfortable with the dress that was selected. It's a DRESS that'll be worn for 8 hours of one day of their lives ... there are zillions of other dresses out there in various price points, styles and colors ... this is not the One Perfect Dress, whereas all other bridesmaid dresses would ruin the precious wedding.

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

Who says yes to being a bridesmaid without expect to spend at least $150 on a dress? That's crazy! A $30 dress--- for a wedding!?? That's unrealistic and unfair to expect. When you agree to be a bridesmaid, you have to assume you will have to buy a proper dress. $120 is really cheap for a bridesmaids dress- great deal and very fair. If someone asked me to be a bridesmaid I'd expect to pay between $150- $300. That's just what comes with the territory

mbcdefg · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:9b255177-82eb-49c4-aa5f-2e9407f88252">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]Who says yes to being a bridesmaid without expect to spend at least $150 on a dress? That's crazy! A $30 dress--- for a wedding!?? That's unrealistic and unfair to expect. When you agree to be a bridesmaid, you have to assume you will have to buy a proper dress. $120 is really cheap for a bridesmaids dress- great deal and very fair. If someone asked me to be a bridesmaid I'd expect to pay between $150- $300. That's just what comes with the territory
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

<em><strong>Who says yes to being a bridesmaid without expect to spend at least $150 on a dress?
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Mine spent less than $150.

It's not up to you to decide how much is reasonable. It's up to the girls who will be buying the dresses. If they say they can spend $30, you saying, "Well, $120-150 is still a reasonable price" isn't going to magically put $90+ in their pocket.

It's their money. It's not your money. You have zero right to decide how people should spend their money, or how much of it they should be willing to part with. And a bride would be a gigantic twaat to say, "Well, if you're not able/willing to spend more money then you shouldn't have agreed to be in my wedding."

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

They shouldn't say yes if they cannot afford a dress. $30 is just not an option for a dress. Where do they expect you to pick a dress from? If I am paying 3k for photography- that dress would be in my pictures. It's just not reasonable to expect a bride to pick some crappy $30 dress. If you can't afford a real BM dress, say you can't be a bridesmaid and that you're sorry.

direy25 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:0a20888b-a2f1-4615-8df4-860779ef1922">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]They shouldn't say yes if they cannot afford a dress. $30 is just not an option for a dress. Where do they expect you to pick a dress from? <strong>If I am paying 3k for photography- that dress would be in my pictures.</strong>It's just not reasonable to expect a bride to pick some crappy $30 dress. If you can't afford a real BM dress, say you can't be a bridesmaid and that you're sorry.
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]
Wow. So basically your wedding pictures are more important than your friends?

OopsOreo04 · May 2011

Wow, I did not realize spending $30 on a dress makes them crappy, my senior prom dress was $20 and I LOVED it and I looked just as good as the girls spending 100-300 on a dress!

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:8ae6ffd1-cccc-4293-8d28-d531a27bdea9">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama : Wow. So basically your wedding pictures are more important than your friends?
Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I wouldn't have the kind of friends that would have such a skewed idea of how much things cost. They would have to be kind of slow or off to think a BM dress costs $30. </div><div>
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SapphireBride12 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:ef238057-6fcd-40e1-be50-2dc861bde86a">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama : Oh, so you only have rich friends. I guess I would be way too poor to hang out with you. My loss.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

<div>Absolutely not- um if I or my bridesmaids were rich I wouldn't be going to a bridal salon and getting $200 dresses. I would dress them in couture- not bari jay! </div><div>I just haven't heard of spending $30 on a dress before- especially one you'd wear to a wedding! I mean I can see if it's like a t-shirt dress from H&M or something that you are wearing to a backyard bbq- but a wedding? Where people will be wearing gowns? My BMs will be in a $30 dress? That's just weird and unreasonable. </div>

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

You are absolutely ridiculous. I've never in my life heard of a $50 gown. I can't imagine any one of my friends being so twisted enough to think that a BM dress would go for $50. Where are you shopping? Of ALL the bridal salons I've been to, the average price for a gown hovered between the $180- $220 mark.

KellyBrian2013 · May 2011

SapphireBride12's posts makes me want to punch my computer screen.

$150 is the difference between me and FI eating for a month or starving. It's also the difference in whether or not I'm able to put gas in my car to go to work and school. So yes, I find that amount on a dress I'll likely only wear once absolutely ridiculous.

FWIW, my BM's are almost all college students and I'm doing my best to keep TOTAL costs under $100 for them... they'll be required to purchase a black, short (tasteful, lol) dress of their liking, wear black shoes that they already own (unless they decide to buy some themselves), and to get a specific colored sash from DB... I'll be covering hair and makeup IF they decide to have it done.

I feel bad for your props, erm... "friends". (if you have any and this isn't MUD, at least)

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:b3217b99-4ab6-4d5c-b6e3-247bbe1a3036">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]SapphireBride12's posts makes me want to punch my computer screen. $150 is the difference between me and FI eating for a month or starving. It's also the difference in whether or not I'm able to put gas in my car to go to work and school. So yes, I find that amount on a dress I'll likely only wear once absolutely ridiculous. FWIW, my BM's are almost all college students and I'm doing my best to keep TOTAL costs under $100 for them... they'll be required to purchase a black, short (tasteful, lol) dress of their liking, wear black shoes that they already own (unless they decide to buy some themselves), and to get a specific colored sash from DB... I'll be covering hair and makeup IF they decide to have it done. I feel bad for your props, erm... "friends". (if you have any and this isn't MUD, at least)
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>What are you doing paying for your BMs to get hair and makeup done if you cannot afford a $150 dress? I just honestly never heard of a $50 BM dress. I can see if your wedding was casual and you didn't need them to match- but I'm having a formal wedding where the girls will be wearing gowns. Who makes a $50 gown? Never heard of it...

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SapphireBride12 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:f1f3005e-6099-4e29-b8fd-c5b8d7d0f8fa">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama : You didn't answer my question. If your bridesmaid came to you and said, "Sapphire, I'm sorry, but I simply can't afford to spend $200 on a bridesmaid dress. All I can really afford is $50" .... what would you say? "Sorry, X, but then you are too poor to be in my wedding"?
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

<div>I would offer to pay for it and then be like "WTF is wrong with her?" behind her back. </div>

KellyBrian2013 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:56b1582f-2b13-41dc-bd8a-d51fed0804bd">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama : What are you doing paying for your BMs to get hair and makeup done if you cannot afford a $150 dress? I just honestly never heard of a $50 BM dress. I can see if your wedding was casual and you didn't need them to match- but I'm having a formal wedding where the girls will be wearing gowns. Who makes a $50 gown? Never heard of it...
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

1) Who are YOU to judge what I choose to spend money on?

2) Just because you royally ticked me off, I'll answer your question: I have offered to cover my WP hair & makeup if they'd like it done because I know that THEY cannot afford it for themselves. They are taking time off of work and possibly school (one BM is a Vet student) and traveling (most from out of state, one from out of the country) to come to my wedding, and paying for their own lodging. The LEAST I can do is make sure they have professional pampering if they want it. And it's because my parents were kind enough to help with the costs.

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

I'm just being honest since this is an internet forum and I don't know you. I can't see anyone I know accepting to be a Bridesmaid and not expecting to pay for an average priced gown. It's weird and rude! So, yea... I would be like "what the hell? who does that?"

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:31eeecf5-f863-488c-bc08-512bcd39f0c5">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama : 1) Who are YOU to judge what I choose to spend money on? 2) Just because you royally ticked me off, I'll answer your question: I have offered to cover my WP hair & makeup if they'd like it done because I know that THEY cannot afford it for themselves. They are taking time off of work and possibly school (one BM is a Vet student) and traveling (most from out of state, one from out of the country) to come to my wedding, and paying for their own lodging. The LEAST I can do is make sure they have professional pampering if they want it. And it's because my parents were kind enough to help with the costs.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Oh you're totally right. Food? or Hair for my BMs? I'm just saying that if you can't afford $150 for a dress, how are you affording it for hair? </div>

KellyBrian2013 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:49615119-4769-4ee2-99a4-113e0a2c3d05">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama : Oh you're totally right. Food? or Hair for my BMs? I'm just saying that if you can't afford $150 for a dress, how are you affording it for hair?
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

Did you even bother to read my post? Or are you so snobby and entitled that you felt you could skipping reading my response altogether and continue judging my financial situation and choices regarding my BM's?

Also - spending $$ on my BM's hair/makeup for MY wedding trumps tossing money down the drain on an overpriced dress for someone else's wedding. ESPECIALLY when said person didn't even bother to consult me on what I'd be comfortable spending.

KellyBrian2013 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:ec6ed2c0-d9f1-4846-8e11-1508b468266c">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm just being honest since this is an internet forum and I don't know you.<strong> I can't see anyone I know accepting to be a Bridesmaid and not expecting to pay for an average priced gown. <u>It's weird and rude!</u></strong> So, yea... I would be like "what the hell? who does that?"
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You know what's TRULY weird and rude? A bride who wouldn't even be willing to consult her "friends" on what they are comfortable spending on a dress they'll likely only wear once. Oh, and that same bride JUDGING her friends for potentially not being able to afford said dress because things like, you know, LIFE, get in the way.

SapphireBride12 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-dress-price-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8b290a35-f341-49be-a8f5-543eda82735bPost:b3217b99-4ab6-4d5c-b6e3-247bbe1a3036">Re: Bridesmaid's dress price drama</a>:
[QUOTE]SapphireBride12's posts makes me want to punch my computer screen. $150 is the difference between me and FI eating for a month or starving. It's also the difference in whether or not I'm able to put gas in my car to go to work and school.<div>
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</div><div>Are you reading what you write? You say $150 is the difference if you could put FOOD on your table... but you are going to spend hundreds of dollars for hair and m/u for your BMs? If you can afford that, you can afford a dress.

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