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June 2012 Weddings
michellep1
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How is your bachelorette paid for?
So today I was discussing my bachelorette with my sister - its not a surprise or anything and she wants my involvement. Anyway she said something about the sooner she gets the invites out, the sooner she can get reimbursed for the limo. She fronted the money to book it and the balance is due in a couple months; she's a college student and not working right now so she really doesn't have the ability to go too long without that money since it came out of her loans.
I asked how she was planning on getting the money from ppl other than bridesmaids and she said she was going to put a blurb on the invite with information about where people are staying, what the agenda is, and how much per person it would be. I think this is extraordinarily tacky, but I don't know how its normally done! I'm the first of any of my friends to get married, so we really have no guidance on the issue. I'm also the only one in my family that seems to care about etiquette at all, so I can't ask them about it. I'm thinking maybe I'll just give her the money myself in the interim, and then she can get it from people the night of and pay me back without anyone knowing. Does anyone have any other ideas? Do you know how this will happen for your bachelorette or do you have any suggestions from bachelorettes you've attended?
Thanks in advance, I'm really worked up over this!
I asked how she was planning on getting the money from ppl other than bridesmaids and she said she was going to put a blurb on the invite with information about where people are staying, what the agenda is, and how much per person it would be. I think this is extraordinarily tacky, but I don't know how its normally done! I'm the first of any of my friends to get married, so we really have no guidance on the issue. I'm also the only one in my family that seems to care about etiquette at all, so I can't ask them about it. I'm thinking maybe I'll just give her the money myself in the interim, and then she can get it from people the night of and pay me back without anyone knowing. Does anyone have any other ideas? Do you know how this will happen for your bachelorette or do you have any suggestions from bachelorettes you've attended?
Thanks in advance, I'm really worked up over this!
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Re: How is your bachelorette paid for?
I totally agree with you, she shouldn't put it on the invitations.
How many people does she plan on getting money from? That could be an issue if it is a lot.
I do agree that it would be tacky to put it on the invite. I think your best bet would be by word of mouth.
I'm not doing invitations though, so there wasn't really an issue, but I would recommend the itinerary but call or email hostess for additional details.
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[QUOTE]In the weddings that I have been in, the bridal party has split the cost for the bachelorette party. The only thing that the other girls had to pay for was $10 if they wanted to come out on the limo with us. We spread that by word of mouth. I do agree that it would be tacky to put it on the invite. I think your best bet would be by word of mouth.
Posted by steph4nu[/QUOTE]
My friend got married about 3 years ago and we planned on getting a party bus and going to the bars in Providence (about 45 mins away). We had about 13 girls lined up to do this and my mom was kind enough to let me put the $100 deposit on her credit card. Well, the day before and the day of we had half of the girls drop out and a party bus would have cost too much. We ended up cancelling it and going with a limo but lost our deposit because we had to switch companies because it was last minute. I still made the girls pay me that dropped out because it wasn't fair to my mom. Take it from me...make the girls pay your sister ahead of time because if they don't I guarantee some will drop out and the price will change for everyone and your sister will end up screwed.
As for mine, we have a few girls who won't be drinking because they are nursing babies and my cousin (MOH) doesn't drink so we won't have an issue with anything. Plus, we will be close enough where my mom and aunt will pick us up if we need her too.
[QUOTE]There's about 15 girls coming and 6 in my bridal party, so it'd be a lot for them to pay for everyone. She did clear the limo with everyone first - she made a little facebook event and gave them the information and asked them to respond if they'd likely come because she had to have the count to book the limo in the first place. So everyone does know that they'd be paying a little for the limo, not everything else, its just the actual getting the money from people that we're trying to figure out.
Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]
Let everyone know that they need their cash before they get in the limo. That way they don't say they will pay it later and then don't. I think if they have been warned before hand on FB, and she could post the "admission fee" there, then it is fine.
As a guest would be annoyed I wasn't told upfront. She needs to contact everyone going and ask if they are okay pitching in for a limo. Most likely no one will care but people prefer to be asked and not told.