Hey , I'm so sorry you r going thru this. Not seeing you on mother's day bc mother in law more important. Nonsense . Sounds like the gf is a chip off old block of mom. Sounds like sons gf is a well....brat. idk best advice other than talk to your soon about how you'd like to be with him more , or make plans to take walks, lunches , etc things that don't break the bank. Invite son and gf or if gf doesn't come just son. Start to do all you can to make effort to be with son away from this so he can make sure it's what he wants . You are his mother , you deserve to be held high
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If you want to give your guests a little bit extra without going for the whole open bar, just have wine/beer for those who want it and anyone who wants liquor can pay cash.
[QUOTE]I disagree that cash bar is a breach of etiquette. If you can't afford open bar, your friends and family should, and most likely will, understand. Where I am from there is almost no such thing as an open bar (unless some really rich person comes to the area from out of town to get married). Many families cannot afford the open bar and guests really don't mind spending a couple bucks for a drink. Don't have people paying for their soda or champagne toast, but no one is going to walk out on your reception because you did not want, or could not afford, them drinking the night away on your tab. People are not going to remember that there was no open bar, they are going to remember the fun times they had dancing, taking pictures, etc. If you want to give your guests a little bit extra without going for the whole open bar, just have wine/beer for those who want it and anyone who wants liquor can pay cash.
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You can disagree all you want... but it is a breach of etiquette. I do not come from a rich family, actually I come from a working class family and we would find it quite rude. And yes they would remember there was a cash bar and they would bitch about it (not to the bride of course). I've never attended a family wedding that was a cash bar (I've been to some 30 family weddings). So the fact there was one would stand out.
I do not think it's the worse breach of etiquette you can make, but it's still a breach of etiquette.