Ceremony Seating?

amlewis83 · July 2009

My parents are divorced. My dad has been with the same woman for over 15 years. One of the 1st things my mom brought up when I started planning was that his g/f better not be in the 1st row with him. It was a sore spot in my brother's wedding a few years ago when my mom was seated in the 2nd row. I said all of them could be in the 1st row and my mother threw a fit, threatning not to even go. (side note: she would never miss my wedding but she's dramatic at times) I know it is a long ways away, but I was just curious as to who is right? she says it is not proper for dad's bf to be in the front row. If it is proper, and suggestions how to handle this? My mother is my best friend and I do not want to upset her.

amlewis83 · July 2009

sorry about the pink again...sometimes it randomly shows up =( I can't figure out how to get rid of it.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

It is proper for your dad and his GF and your mom and her significant other to all be in the front row. She is being really immature. After 15 years, she should really get over it.

lyndausvi · July 2009

either in the first row with her.. Or put him in the second row with the BF and your mom in the first row.

banana468 · July 2009

Mom needs to get over herself. If she really can't deal, seat mom in the first row and dad and the gf in the 2nd row. And if mom starts to threaten, call her bluff.

ac_in_dc · July 2009

Can you ask the dad & his gf to be the bigger people here & just sit in the second row? Your mom is being silly though. On table seating, my whole family is giving me unsolicited suggestions, and I'm not telling anyone where they're seated. They'll just have to suck it up when they get to the reception. It's complicated, because I have a biological brother attending that my mom gave up for adoption, and some of my siblings like him, and others would rather pretend he doesn't exist. I also have a crazy single mom sister with 4 kids that doesn't get along with everyone, and my mom doesn't like my grandma. You know what? Fuuck 'em. I'll do my best to accommodate their preferences but they're just going to have to sit where I put them.

lauralaur · July 2009

It's been 15 years! She needs to get over it. Seriously. I would say your father's gf should absolutely sit with your father in the first row, along with your mother and your step-father/mother's boyfriend (if there is one). My parents are divorced and no, they don't like each other, but there would never be any question about ceremony seating at my wedding. My mother and step-father will be seated in the first row with my father and step-father. It will only be 30 minutes, they honestly don't mind, and they both will be so happy to see their daughter getting married they won't care anyway. This is how the seating was done at my step-sister's wedding as well. They sort of goofed it up though because her mother stole the aisle seat, so when my step-father came down the aisle with my step-sister, he had to climb over three people to get to his seat (sort of awkward with older parents, I know my father would have a hard time doing that, so my mother won't be getting the aisle seat, but in my church that actually means she'll be front and center). They're adults, they didn't care. They're certainly capable of socializing with one another, with no hard feelings, at such incredibly important events in their children's lives. Ok, I'm rambling now, but honestly, tell your mother to grow up and suck it up for one day. Seating your father and your girlfriend elsewhere, IMO, would be a huge slight to the both of them.

lauralaur · July 2009

Haha *father and step-mother.

clseale13 · July 2009

I think it's ridiculous that just b/c you mom can't deal your dad would have to sit in the 2nd row...or in the 1st w/out his GF of 15yrs. They all need to sit in the front row together. Your mom is being unreasonable and doing anything else would be rude to your dad.

amlewis83 · July 2009

okay, that's why I thought. But then she pulled out the "it's not proper..." card. I'm just not going to bring it up again until the week of and then she will just have to deal.

banana468 · July 2009

What isn't proper?? Yeah, sounds like she's inventing rules to make herself feel better. She should be comfortable on that day but it's not all about her.

Calypso1977 · July 2009

the father should not have to sit in the second row just to please the mother. he shoudl not be denied the honor of front row seating. he's done nothing wrong. mom and dad and their SO's sholud be in the front row, and if mom has a problem, she moves, not the dad.

trix1223 · July 2009

At the wedding of my best friend's son (my "nephew"), his dad sat between his ex-wife (my friend) and his current wife. They were all able to suck it up for the 20 minute ceremony. Your mom can do the same.If she pulls the "I'm not coming" card: give a sad little smile, a gentle shake of your head, and say "I'm really sorry to hear that mom. We'll really miss you."And then tell her it's the last time you're going to discuss this. Tell her if she brings it up again, you'll leave the room or hang up the phone. Then do it.

amlewis83 · July 2009

My sister is my matron, would it be okay to put her husband between my mother and my father with his gf in the front row? Or, I also have a brother and SIL. I am not really sure who goes where or if it matters.something like father, gf, BIL, motherorfather, gf, brother, SIL, mother, BIL

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