Hi everyone! This is my first post here. I C&P from my Chicago board because I'm really feeling the stress and would appreciate some advice. TIA! Complicated: Originally, I was 100% against having kids at the wedding. FMIL was insisting that we did have them. I eventually won her over. It's quite easy for my side of the family, because either the "kids" are 18+ or are like 6, and there are only a handful of the latter. Well, FI's family has a ton of kids, all over the board, of 18-20, infants and toddlers, and school aged children. Initially, I said that everyone over the age of 18 would get a separate invitation for themselves and a guest (FMIL not happy, did not agree) and all the other invites would be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. If we do this, then what do we do about the one family who has a 19 year old and a 14 year old? I feel terrible leaving the 14 year old out, but allowing him opens the floodgates for EVERYONE! I was also told by FSIL that one of the cousins was SO MAD that her kids were not invited one of the weddings, she boycotted and is still mad, 7 years later. NOW we find out that one of my relatives from thousands of miles away wants to come with her daughters who are 7 and 5. I don't know if they will actually come, but what if they decide to? Should I just give in and allow kids to make everyone else happy? I am worried that the atmosphere will be completely ruined with kids running all around and am also worried that parents will RSVP for their kids and then not bring them, leaving us with tons of kids plates of food. But I also don't want enemies for life.