Tattoo rings- opinions please

PreppySailor · July 2009

Fi doesn't have any tattoos and I don't either. If there's such a thing as "non-tattoo folks" - that's us. But, the other day he said he was considering getting a tattoo wedding ring- since in his profession it is unsafe to wear any jewelry at work. He says he would still wear a regular ring over it when not at work. They are not my style, but if he really wants to I will support his decision. Do you know anybody with one of these? Thoughts?

mandysmear · July 2009

I would never get anything like that. But, I am cynical and a realist. I suppose if I got a tattoo ring and got divorced I could buy myself a FAB ring to wear over it... like a sapphire.

lizzay · July 2009

Alot of artists won't do them because they guarantee thier work and finger/hand tattoos fade relatively quicky compared to other body parts. If he wants it, go for it.

FutureMrsNewmire · July 2009

i have several friends with them... for the same reason as you mentioned their professions dont make it safe to wear jewelry so they have gotten the tattoos.. and they love them.

katiewhompus · July 2009

I wouldn't. Tattoos are forever, regardless of what happens down the road.What would he do if you guys divorced? temporarily split up? or (God forbid) you passed on? He would be unable to remove the wedding ring and move on, or would have a constant reminder of his old life.I think it's a very romantic gesture, but not a practical one.My Dh doesn't wear his wedding ring at work for the same reason, it doesn't mean he's not married. Most days at work if I'm working with the mechanical parts of my job I put my rings on a necklace.

salt78 · July 2009

NO. I would never tattoo anything on my body that had to do with any person other than my child. Divorce does happen you know.

soontobehimes · July 2009

It's sweet that he still wants to be "wearing" a wedding ring even when he can't. My FI would just not wear one! ;-) If you are worried about how it'd look when you were out somewhere nice or whatever the case may be, his real band would always cover it! I wouldn't mind it!

danieliza1127 · July 2009

Not my style, but if he wants it, I guess I don't see any reason not to. I just figure if he can't wear his ring at work, so what? Is it that important that his coworkers know that he is married?

PreppySailor · July 2009

I totally agree with everything everyone has said, but should I talk him out of it? This was the first time he's mentioned it in the 9 years we've been together- so it may just be a passing whim.

vallyhoo · July 2009

I used to want one, but once Pam Anderson & Tommy Lee broke up I decided that it wasn't a good idea. If they couldn't make it last, who can?

ac_in_dc · July 2009

I wouldn't necessarily talk him out of it...but why don't you encourage him to take some time to mull over the decision. And bring up some of the concerns raised here, if you agree with them.

Night_Sprite · July 2009

I'd wait until he brings it up again. Then maybe have a more serious discussion about it.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

I wouldn't necessarily try to talk him out of it, but I would just drop it for now and see if he brings it up again. It may have just been an idea he mentioned but doesn't really plan on doing. If he does bring it up again, you could point out some of the questions you have - like is it really that important for him to have that for work? what if something happens (divorce? death?)? Maybe just be sure he's thinking of it from all perspectives before he decides.

salt78 · July 2009

[i]so it may just be a passing whim.[/i] I wouldn't be surprised if this were the case. FI and I had a 5 second long conversation about it one time and it was vetoed. We are both tattooed people and we didn't even want to go there. Also ditto PP about the maintenance. Unless he wants to continue to go back for touch ups, a hand tattoo is going to fade a lot.

Calypso1977 · July 2009

does he really want to wear a ring or do you really want him to wear a ring? cuz its not that big a deal for a guy (or girl) to not wear a ring, particularly if its not safe at work to do so.

rachelcaye · July 2009

my fiance has a job that you can't wear jewelry at too and a lot of his married coworkers have done that - personally I don't like it and neither does fiance. Life is just too unpredictable to do something that permanent in my opinion

Beadlz · July 2009

I know some people that did the same thing for the same reasons, and it works for them. Truth is it is his body and his choice, if he decides to have it done then I would let him know how you feel but not try to stop him. My mom wants a tattoo realllly bad, but my dad is totally against it--she is having it done on her birthday, kinda cracks me up.

mikesboo23 · July 2009

My mom thought about doing that but since they fade so quickly she'd have to have it redone constantly and she wouldn't want to do that.

Gemstoneminpins · July 2009

i think its very sweet idea but in reality its just not a good idea. heaven forbid something happens and you need to get a divorce. Can you spend everyday looking at that tattoo? plus if you choose to remarry what will the new hubby think about looking at your old "wedding ring" every day of his life. Even after 5 years of marriage i refused to tattoo and good thing i did because we ended up splitting. I hear there is a curse associated with doing things like that. no one i know is with the person they have tattood on them.

PreppySailor · July 2009

I'm fine with him not wearing a ring. A lot of men I know only wear them for the first few years, or on special occasions. I didn't know about the fading- good to know. He works at a large aerospace company and a few guys there have tattoo rings so he's seeing them daily, but probably most just take them off for work.

PreppySailor · July 2009

Gemstone- I wouldn't be getting one, only him!

lyndausvi · July 2009

I'm not a fan.But life is so unpredictable. Divorce or even death are possible. I would like the option of removing the ring in either case if I choose to move on with my life.

BecW2be · July 2009

I wouldn't do it, and I'm with PPs about not tattooing anything related to another person on my body. Not even my kids. That sounds harsh, and I do try to focus on the positive, but how sh!tty would it be if Charlie Manson's mom had his portrait tattooed on her forearm?

ItsMyDayNHis2 · July 2009

We are very conservative and we are going to do this.

MeaghanandMichael · July 2009

It is just simply not necessary. Not having your ring on at certain times does not make you any less married. There are more important ways to show you are married.

hmc318 · July 2009

I like the idea. I have a family friend who has matching "ring tattoos." I don't see an issue with it.I guess I personally don't see myself regretting it even if I got divorced. It was what I wanted at one point and meant a lot to me then, I can't regret that later on just because it didn't work out.Call me crazy!

cdeshane · July 2009

NMS I have to assume most people get married with intentions of not getting divorced but there are a ton of people that do. That would be a permanant reminder after a divorce. I'm not saying you guys will but if it happens.

Calypso1977 · July 2009

but how sh!tty would it be if Charlie Manson's mom had his portrait tattooed on her forearmhaha, i'm sure she loved her baby boy despite his short comings.

mocha beans · July 2009

No way I'd do it, and neither would FI. He's a plumber and won't wear his ring at work either. It's a sweet sentiment though.Once upon a time, my old best friend and I thought ring tattoos would be a really cool idea when we each got married. But with the divorce rate the way it is, there's no way I'd do it now. Not planning on divorcing FI, but shiit happens.I'd want to be able to take the ring off, not my whole finger, or pay for expensive tattoo removal procedures.

mouse10031978 · July 2009

I have always thought they are way cool and would love to do it.

karma007 · July 2009

Not really a fan myself, having been divorced once, but I'm not morally opposed. Ben Folds "You to Thank" "By the time the buzz was wearing off, we were standing out on the sidewalk, with our tattoos that looked like rings. In the hot, Nevada sun. And they won't fade."

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