Would you think an 8pm reception serves dinner?

jilybeans4 · July 2009

FI and I were invited to an out of town wedding two weeks before our own wedding. Its an old coworker of his. I don't want to go, he does.The ceremony is at 3pm, the reception is at 8. Do you think we should expect dinner that late, or is that generally cocktails only? Cash bars are not uncommon in that area, so I'm concerned that we are going to have to pay for gas, hotel, and dog sitter, and then on top of it have to buy dinner AND pay for our own drinks. I know there is no way of knowing for sure, but what would you assume from that reception time? (other than that they are rude to have a 5 hour gap...)Thanks!

aMrsin09 · July 2009

With that big of a gap, I would assume no dinner. If it was a 7 PM ceremony and an 8 PM reception I would expect dinner. With a gap that large, it sounds like you were invited to the dancing portion of the reception, or they hare having dinner at a restaurant and then just dancing.

ricksang · July 2009

WTF would have a five hour gap?

georgia_bride09 · July 2009

Stage, during last Friday's Flame Fest, jillybeans said that once she was married, she'd have sooo much stuff to fill her time that she wouldn't be a loser and stay on the knot and that a lot of the married ladies here don't give advice but only make fun of other people. Personally, I've seen all the married ladies here give advice at one point or another, but jily just kept digging herself a deeper hole. So surely she's not asking the married portion of the group for advice today.

amalama · July 2009

Well normally I would think 8pm meant dinner, but with a gap that long than maybe they are expecting you to get dinner then. Can't you just call and ask them? Gaps here are usually 3ish hours, starting at 6 or so, almost always with dinner. So gap doesn't necessarily mean no dinner, but with the gap and time combined I would make sure.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

Oh for pete's sake guys... I never said advice from married people was a bad thing or anything negative about married people in general posting on this board. If you want to get upset about comments that are made, and continue to be upset about them a week later, you should read the words that I type and not twist them into something to be snarky about.

georgia_bride09 · July 2009

Mrs. Vogt, enough of your logic!! It's not wanted here!!!

As for my opinion, I would expect nothing and take enough cash to cover everything just in case.

sucrets4 · July 2009

OMG i still don't have my pro pics, but put up some ones from friends! Does that mean I'm legit?!??

Leah&Christian09 · July 2009

Sounds to me like you are a second tier guest. No dinner. If you can't afford to go, you should skip it.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

I wouldn't assume that just because they're rude enough to have a big gap means they're rude enough to not serve dinner. In my hometown, a 3 or 4 hour gap is the norm and totally expected. No one would consider it rude unless they posted here and knew better, and most don't. I always knew I didn't want to do it that way, but I would never assume no dinner solely based on a gap.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

Georgia, thats not even what I said last week. I guess I forgot that only some people here are allowed to participate in flaming and still be allowed to post later.

NuggetBrain · July 2009

With a 5 hour gap they better feed me. If they didn't I would be very tempted to create one hell of a ruckus.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

Jly was complaining about the marrieds who only post to say something snarky and not actually offer advice. She wasn't saying ALL married people should leave. What's with everyone always making these huge blanket generalizations. Geez.

ffmaid · July 2009

Unless FI really wants to go I would suggest not going 5 hour gap is toolong. However I think that it will not matter much if they serve dinner or not because itf you are anything like my friends with a gap that long people will have been at the local bar for hours drinking and eating nachos. Assume dinner served but get a snack during the 5 hours rude gap if you go

wadingmoose · July 2009

Where I'm from a gap is typically the norm as well. But if dinner is being served, the reception starts at an hour that isn't questionable for dinner - either 6 or 7pm - and that would be marked on the invitation ("Cocktails at five, dinner at six) or whatever.If the gap takes you to a time late enough to be questionable and doesn't mention dinner, you're on your own.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

Stagemanager, thats not what I said either. I would appreciate it if people would stop picking on me for things I didn't say. Sucrets, I have always thought you were nice and that original post had absolutely nothing to do with you, so i think its too bad that you seem to have taken it personally.

diggitydog · July 2009

Married people without bios are pathetic? Why? Why would the existence (or non-existence) of a knot bio determine wheather or not you are pathetic?I guess I'm pathetic.

ricksang · July 2009

IDK, I'd try to talk the FI out of going. The wedding sounds more like a PITA than anything fun. Maybe they will serve heavy apps?

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · July 2009

Dammit, Georgia!! It's almost like the married ladies logic is rubbing off on me. Go away already, for petes sake.

sucrets4 · July 2009

Aw, I'm just playin'. It's the end of summer vacation and I guess I'm bored. I should start working on my 'mean' street cred, though...

danieliza1127 · July 2009

Married people without bios are pathetic? Why? Why would the existence (or non-existence) of a knot bio determine wheather or not you are pathetic?I guess I'm pathetic.It's like a game of telephone. Jily never said that. Someone in this thread said that. Jily maybe in the future you should name names so people don't just think you mean EVERY married girl on the board.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

Dani - thank you for comprehending what I said : ) I guess it is really hard to figure out whether dinner would be served or not, since there is such a wide range of times people do things. But the invite mentions nothing of food, so I'm inclined to think there is no dinner for all guests. I guess I could have FI ask (I don't even know the couple) for sure. It is bad timing financially, so I'm inclined not to go at all...but FI would really like to see all his ex-coworkers so I feel kind of bad putting my foot down on this one if he really wants to go.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

Fishe, I think that was still a misunderstanding. I was referring to those people who stick around because they supposedly have a lot to offer to brides and planning discussions, but then they don't actually discuss weddings or have bios with pictures, ideas, whatever to share. I don't see how that helps anyone planning their wedding. ANYWAY, I don't want to keep beating a dead horse, so I'd rather move on if we could.

kann2559 · July 2009

Where I am from, a 3-4 hour gap is normal. People actually make plans to do things during the gap. At the ceremony, there is usually someone who tells people that there will be appetizers or something at someone's house. People who don't have plans go there and hang out. Then everyone heads to the reception for dinner. If it didn't say no dinner, I would expect it, but I would eat before I got there just in case.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

Nugget, I agree. FI also invited several of them to our wedding (so far they haven't RSVPed so IDK if they are coming). The couple whose wedding we are discussing here will be on their honeymoon during our wedding, so they can't come. I wouldn't drive to another state to go to my coworkers' wedding, but somehow FI has a stronger attachment to them i guess.

wadingmoose · July 2009

Because not everyone is here to help strangers plan weddings?

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · July 2009

You specifically mentioned E though when you started naming names as someone who doesn't offer advice.That's not true, whatsoever. Granted, most of E's advice is for NWR things, she does have a lot of information and is helpful when she can be. Yes, there's some snark, but that's there from everyone on this board, married or not. It's not fair to single out the married ladies with no bios for that one.

jilybeans4 · July 2009

East...thats what I'm thinking. I think a 5 hour gap is way too long and I don't know who would do that. I could see an hour or two (or maybe even three?) but 5 is crazy. Of course, these are the people who I received a random shower invite from. I've never met the girl, but I got an invitation to go to her out of state shower. I hope that was her bridesmaids' mistake and not hers...

TiDa2009 · July 2009

If he wants to go and you don't, why doesn't he just go and you stay home. It'll save you the money.

eastunder1 · July 2009

As with any online forum, a community of people often builds and relationships/friendships are formed. So even after people here may be married, they remain in the forums for the friendships they have made which no longer revolve around wedding planning, but just enjoying each others company. This is common sense Jilly. Its not that hard to grasp.

wadingmoose · July 2009

Jily, if you read this forum at ALL you would know there's a very common misconception that ever woman invited to the wedding gets a shower invite.Perhaps you're just too quick to judge?

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