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2maids of honor and 1 matron??? HELP!

dvrullodadvrulloda member
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so im trying to figure out if having 2 maids of honor and 1 matron of honor is completely off etiquette? i have 2 bestfriends who ive known since 3rd grade (one is married and one isnt), and theres my baby sister whom i adore. is it wrong to have 3 honorees in my bridal party??please help!
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  • crazy4u201crazy4u201 member
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    WOW!!! I thought I was the only one with this problem!! I totally understand where you are comming from.. I just might have to do the same thing- but my situation is a little different.  I don't have any sisters, but I have cousins that are just like sisters to me.  My FI's sister and I are close.. and if it weren't for her marrying into my family I would have never met my FI.Just as you have 2 BFFS, I have 2 cousins that are like sisters to me..how do you choose?!?!  I still haven't asked anyone to be my MOH and its driving me nuts!I just might do the 3 like you.. but i still don't know..  :(
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  • crazy4u201crazy4u201 member
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    but in your situation.. at least you have a sister.. so if you HAD to pick one it could automatically be here.  Your friends wouls step up anyway to help her since she is little
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    That's fine, if it's what you want to do. Like PP said, it's never wrong to honor your friends. Are they your only three attendants, or will there be more? If they're the only three, I'd personally just list them as "Maids of Honor" or "Bride's Attendants" (or "Bride's Honor Attendants") if you're having a program ... and if you don't have a program, there's no real need to give them special titles. Just refer to them collectively as bridesmaids of maids of honor if you're talking about them to someone else. Pick one to stand next to you during the ceremony and do all that stuff (hold bouquet and ring, straighten your train, etc.), one to sign the marriage license and let the third give the toast. If there will be more ... then, honestly, I think it'd look a bit stupid. I would personally just choose your sister as MOH because she's family - your friends will understand. But your call.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    While I agree with retread that it's never wrong to honor a friend, I do think that people sometimes forget that being a BM is an honor.  Calling most or all of your attendants "honor" kind of dilutes the whole honor thing.I'd be more inclined to choose no one to be MOH rather than have everyone be MOH.  Retread's wording about "loving you all too much to choose" is spot on.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • dvrullodadvrulloda member
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    thank you all for your advice. it helps! i've spoken to 1 of my MOH and confirmed that it is okay and not frowned upon if i have too many honorees. although, i still am deciding =P
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  • cravecasecravecase member
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    I chose to have none because of this reason.  There is 6 girls, and I would have given 4 of them "honor titles"  ... to me I feel like those other 2 bridesmaids would feel 'left out' or like they don't belong or something.  So since I couldn't choose, I didn't.  Neither did my FI...he was far to close to all of his friends to have to decide.
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    I have my two daughters and future stepdaughter as my BMs.  No one is designated as special - the wedding party is all equal and all are honorees.
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  • dvrullodadvrulloda member
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    so its official! i have 2 maid of honors and 1 matron of honor. i actually feel better about this decision so thank you all for your advice!!!!!
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  • crazy4u201crazy4u201 member
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    I'm glad you were able to figure it out!  I have a question though- are you having all 3 of them stand by you at the alter or just one?  And what about the speech and signing the papers?  Reason I'm asking is becuase I can't sleep and my engagement party is tomorrow.  I know I will be getting asked a million times who is my MOH and I want to ask them in the morning and take them for coffe or something.  I just don't know if I am going to do all 3 or just 2 and I am really stressing :(
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  • dvrullodadvrulloda member
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    I actually haven't thought about that situation yet. I was thinking of having them do 1 task each. they all know that there's 3 of them, but im not quite sure how its going to be at the alter...i'm sorry, but i hope it turned out well for you...
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