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Help with my unreligious fiance!!!

morgankuestermorgankuester
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OK, so,I am Catholic and my fiance is not religious at all. He has been married once before, but this is my first, and only. I just met with my priest today, and even though neither himself nor his ex wife were catholic, he still needs an annulment of that marriage in order for us to be married within the Catholic church. So I'm thinking, "OK kinda sucks but we'll trudge through..." Well, I told my fiance, and OBVIOUSLY that is not what he was thinking!!! He is freaking out, saying that he doesn't want to disclose his whole life to someone he doesn't know and have to involve three of his friends as witnesses to do the same. Now, I can understand that it must be extremely hard for someone who has never had to deal with religious "prerequisites", per se, but I don't know what to do. I really want to get married in my own religion and he is NOT wanting to oblige. What do I do???
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Re: Help with my unreligious fiance!!!

  • vanessahurdvanessahurd
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Hi Morgan! Quick question: what do you mean when you say you wont be able to take part in any other sacramental things if you're not married in the church?My fiance was born and raised catholic, I was not. If we don't get married in the church what would that mean for him?
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    vanessa, if you are not married in the church, you are technically "living in sin", therefore committing a mortal sin.  if you have committed a mortal sin, you are not supposed to receive Communion until you have confessed your sins.  that is what PP means when she says she cannot partake in other sacraments.however, you cant just go to confession every week for the duration of your marriage so as to be  able to receive communion,  as obviously you are not truly sorry for marrying outside of the church or you wouldnt have done it in the first place.
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
    Tenth Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    Do what you feel is right in this situation.There is no one, other than God, who can tell you what is a sin and what is not.  Your concience is a part of you.  Use it well.
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  • tnspighttnspight member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My FI is divorced but was baptized Catholic.  He had to get a Lack of Form from the Church; I don't know how that would work for a non Catholic.  He answered two questions on a one page application along with some basic info about his ex. and send his marriage and baptismal certificate with it.  He may have sent a copy of the divorce decree; I don't remember.  We received the LoF maybe 8 weeks later.  You should definitely talk to him about the role religion will play in your married life and raising children.  Good luck.
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