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Wedding Party Woes

YellenYellen member
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in California-Northern
I swore I would never be this girl, but today really irked me. I'm trying to not let it ruin my mood, but it's a little too much right now.I have 4 bridesmaids and they have been extremely MIA.  One of them lives out of state, so I'm not blaming her for anything.  The rest of them live within 10 minutes of me.  I have been extremely laid back and not demanding of their time.  I purchased all of their dresses and had them try them on to make sure they were ok with them and everyone liked them back in December.  Since then, there has not been a single activity related to the wedding.I contacted them 3 weeks ago because they stylist I hired to do their hair was coming over so they could do a quick trial with her, and so I could use it as an excuse to have lunch with them.  One canceled 2 weeks ago and said she was helping her family move (she called me today and wasn't doing it until tonight), one felt sick from a hangover, and the third asked me what the meeting was all about, mentioning that she didn't care how her hair looked and that she would just do it herself.So now, I'm not sure what to do.  I'm not going to do anything crazy, but I'm extremely disappointed.  None of them threw me a shower and as far as I know, they are not planning a Bachelorette.  If I approach them, the customary bridezilla response is what I am imagining. Thanks for letting me vent. I feel better already!
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  • Beezo23Beezo23 member
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry to hear about all of this!  They don't seem to be doing their "bridesmaid" duties.  I know this can be somewhat passive aggressive, but maybe send them each an email, sharing your feelings.  Try not to be bridezilla, just simply share how you would've like them to be more involved or come have their hair trial.  Do you have another friend who isn't a bridesmaid, but is also friends with them that you could talk to and mention something about a bachelorette party?  It's a tough situation, but most bridesmaids know their roles in a wedding.  Hope you gets things solved.  Hang in there!
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  • sharksfan20sharksfan20 member
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    edited December 2011
    If that happened to me, I'd probably feel the same. I would just talk to them. If you tell them that their behavior really bothered you just talk it out, heart to heart. If they really are your friends, they will understand. I don't think you're a bridezilla at all. If it was one of their weddings, they would want you around as much as you want them around.
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  • isoletteisolette member
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    edited December 2011
    maybe there is someone else that could drop ahint for you, so it does not come directly from you, a mutual friend or relative, just a suggestion, so you get a chance to be a bride and be papered a bit, we all should I think
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